For example, problems involving parent-child relationship will be different from those involving neurosis; For example, experienced counselors and inexperienced counselors may ask completely different questions; For example, psychological counselors with different academic backgrounds may have different ways of choosing and explaining words even if they ask questions from the same counselor. For another example, when the client is insecure about psychological counseling, the counselor should also consider how to ask questions without making the other party more worried.
Psychological counseling is a special kind of "communication", and its purpose is to help counselors achieve a psychological "harmonious" state. This communication process can't be exactly like those market questionnaires, asking all the contents they want to know in turn with fixed questions. This kind of question is meaningless. Sometimes, when a counselor asks questions, what he wants is not to get an answer, but to let the other person feel "his inner strength", which requires the counselor to "respect, be enthusiastic, affectionate and take the initiative to pay attention" when asking questions, and the questions he asks are "technical", so as to be meaningful and useful to the counselor.
There is a saying that the same question is asked by different psychological counselors, and the feelings heard by the counselors are different.
If we introduce the general content of psychological counselors' questions, the content of the consultation meeting is different at first, and some of them are meeting psychological counselors for the first time. At this time, more questions are about understanding the basic background information of the consultant and the help sought. ; Some of them have met the psychological counselor for the second time. In the case of knowing it at the first meeting, psychological counselors need to know more about it in order to identify the psychological problems of help seekers and ask new questions. ; Some counseling has reached the stage of treatment, and psychological counselors should ask questions and communicate according to the situation of visitors and psychological "treatment" methods. ...
Finally, there are two points to emphasize. First, the questions and answers raised by psychological counselors should be kept confidential. Second, the psychological counselor's improper "excessive questioning" may be due to lack of professional experience and ability, which does not rule out factors that violate professional ethics.
In particular, I want to tell more strangers that when a person can perceive that there is a "problem" in his emotions or psychology, it is not a bad thing, but a good thing. This is the opportunity that life has given us to adjust. Be brave and strong. If necessary, asking for help from family, friends or professionals around you is not a shameful thing, but a brave thing. I believe someone will be willing to help you!
What will the counselor ask?
The basic skills of psychological counselors are asking, listening and understanding. Ask at the beginning of consultation. If you lack consulting experience, don't understand the pathogenesis of mental illness, and don't know the cause of the pain of the visitors, you may not get to the point when you ask. Visitors may stop consulting if they think the consultants are out of reach, or they may not come next time. This is called falling off in the industry.
As a psychological counselor, I have the experience of consulting alone. Let's discuss how to ask, and the consultation effect is the best. I always come straight to the point and ask visitors what troubles, pains and troubles they had at first. I want to solve those symptoms and pains first. Of course, visitors need to answer truthfully, and then ask when these symptoms appeared, what happened, what they experienced, what they thought when those emergencies happened, what the specific situation was, what others said and so on. When the visitor describes the experience, it tests the listening ability of the consultant, because the content told by the visitor may be more complicated, and I don't know which sentence has a greater influence on him. If the psychological counselor doesn't have a deep understanding of the causes of mental illness and can't hear the key words, then the consultation will be inefficient or even ineffective.
Why, how and whether the counselor can ask the key points depends on the counselor's understanding of mental illness, the degree of the pain of the visitors and the real understanding of the source of the pain of the visitors, so that it is easy to synchronize with the visitors.
It depends on which school, cognitive behaviorism is the school that uses the most words, and refined points are the school that uses the least words!
Generally, the first sentence is welcome to xx. What did you come here to discuss with me?
When the other person is talking, he needs three points:
1. Listening is also used to collect information, grasp the key points of the topic, and integrate many fragmented and important information.
2. Face to face when the other party expresses and realizes the conflict. For example, one of my visitors said that his mother was ill, and he was very sad, so he smiled unconsciously. When he is finished, I will let him express himself more and face his true self face to face.
3. When we string together fragmented information and present it to visitors, we can help them realize themselves and grow up.