Relevant surveys show that 93% of friends are optimistic about their future marriage from three aspects: psychological cognition, psychological test and psychological consultation. They believe that through the efforts of both parties, they are confident to make their marriage happy and willing to pay sincere feelings for creating a happy marriage. 99% of friends think that love is an important condition for maintaining marriage.
(2) The process of love is open
This is more prominent among college students in the transition period. Although most college students can realize the disadvantages of falling in love, when love comes, young people's unique passion still immerse them in this sweet attempt. Therefore, couples can be seen everywhere on campus. I have to admit that this "academic style" is a very common phenomenon. There are students' lovers in classrooms, libraries, campus benches, under big trees and in the corners of campus buildings at night. Nowadays, college students no longer try their best to hide their love affairs as they did in the 1970s and 1980s, but boldly and generously make their love affairs public on campus.
(3) Various forms of marriage under increasing social pressure.
Emotional needs and satisfaction become the first element, and the basic position of love in modern marriage and love concept is constantly established and improved. Everyone pays more attention to their own feelings and each other's feelings in marriage, and pays more attention to their own inner feelings and judgments. "Together, stay together, or leave together" reflects their open self-judgment and self-choice after their perceptual knowledge of the current situation of real marriage relations, and is a respect for themselves and their feelings. However, behind the free and easy declaration, there are also young men and women's anxiety about family stability, durability and interest.
(4) the change from "love" to "money" (the diversification of mate selection criteria and love ways)
The status of money in today's concept of marriage and love has risen, and economic foundation has become an important factor for both sides to consider. Although emotion has increasingly become the basis of marriage and love between men and women, the transformation from planned economy to market economy has greatly increased the "gold content" of marriage and love. There are two reasons: on the one hand, the market economy has promoted the position of money in people's hearts and social life, and people have felt its "magic" in real marriage and love; On the other hand, market competition and consumer temptation have brought pressure to marriage and love life. Therefore, while young people pursue emotions in marriage and love, material factors such as money become important conditions and even hardware. Marriage with emotion as the first choice is influenced by things other than emotion, such as cars, houses, tickets and seats, which affect the correct judgment and choice of both parties.
(5) The concept of sex is more open.
The concept of sex has changed from closed to open, and the tolerance for sexual deviance has increased. In today's society, with the gradual deepening of opening to the outside world and the fierce collision between Chinese and foreign cultures, people's value system presents a diversified development trend, various sexual stimulating factors in society increase, and sexual concepts are also impacted. Modern unmarried women no longer talk about "sex", and the degree of sexual openness tends to be deeper from the surface: from the openness to sexual knowledge and attitude to the high incidence of premarital and extramarital sex, the change of sexual concept is reflected in two aspects: first, the relative separation of sex and childbirth, combined with the love and emotion of men and women, and the pursuit of sexual pleasure and pleasure has become the main feature of modern concept; The second change is that young women's concept of chastity is getting weaker and weaker, and they are more and more tolerant of premarital and extramarital sexual relations. Sex is not only divorced from fertility, but also from marriage, family and love.
(6) the influence of traditional ideas
The traditional concepts of "men are strong and women are weak" and "women are beautiful" still dominate. The important criteria for young men and women to choose a spouse are personality and character, but there are obvious differences in other criteria. Men pay attention to the appearance and temperament of their future spouses, while women prefer men who are enterprising and can provide superior material life. Men often don't pay attention to women's education and income, but put their looks first, which to some extent reflects that "men dominate the outside and women dominate the inside" is still the mainstream thought, and the concept of "men are strong and women are weak" has a great influence on the stability of marriage. Most young friends think that men should be better than women in marriage. Therefore, when choosing a partner, most men will choose a woman whose comprehensive conditions are slightly inferior to their own, while women hope to meet a man whose comprehensive conditions are better than their own.
(7) The purpose of love is unmarried.
This is also prominent among college students in the transition period. Although campus romance is becoming more and more popular and hot as tea, various survey results show that marriage, the general destination of love, is not the only purpose of college students' love today.