Colleagues joked: "everyone else is busy coming home from work, but you can't wait to live in the company."
He said with a smile, "My family really might as well not come back. My wife nags me every day. I feel that my life is getting worse. Not going home can reduce the frequency of quarrels. "
Lao Wang got married for the second time. He was divorced once and had a son. Now his wife is marrying him with a daughter. They are the most common reorganized families in real life.
Originally, I wanted to live together, but after I got married, Lao Wang discovered that this second wife was completely different from the original one, and his life was once suffocating.
Nowadays, the divorce rate is quite high, and second marriage couples are also very common, but many people have to admit that there is indeed a huge gap between second marriage and first marriage after remarriage.
As for the specific difference between the original match and the second match, it can probably be said from the following three aspects.
Have different views on marriage.
Everyone has the best expectations when they first enter the marriage hall. They want to be the most loving couple in the world, and they are also eager to grow old together for a long time.
This is the original idea of all primitive couples. Even if something that can't be stopped happens and eventually leads to the breakdown of their marriage, they live with the best eyes from the beginning.
However, married couples are completely different, especially women. Women have experienced a failed marriage before, and their sense of security will be greatly reduced.
Although she is married again now, she won't give as recklessly as before. The experience of divorce will make her doubt the stability of marriage. She cherishes marriage, but she is ready for divorce at any time.
Different attitudes towards children
It turns out that couples have the same children as each other, and all parents love their children. Naturally, their biological parents also take good care of their children and spare no effort. No matter how they feel, they can be knowledgeable about their children.
But couples who get married for the second time are completely different. The second wife can never be fair and just to her children, because it is human nature, and everyone loves their children more, which is beyond doubt.
In fairy tales, everyone has seen too many vicious stepmother. Although that kind of situation will not happen in real life, it can also reflect reality to some extent. Stepmother's attitude towards children is completely different from that of biological mother. It is good that she can treat her children politely. It is too much to say that she loves them.
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The original couple lived with a lifelong attitude from the beginning, so they didn't pay attention to each other and didn't think that they would divorce one day.
However, married couples are completely different, especially women will always find various ways to retreat for themselves, so that both husband and wife will inevitably be overwhelmed in the process of getting along.
Emotional conclusion:
I once heard a very interesting saying: "Marriage is like playing mahjong, it is better to match the original."
Although not all original couples are better than second marriage, this is the case in most cases. After all, the original couple gave birth to the same child.
Ten years in the same boat, a hundred years in the same pillow. It is a very lucky thing that men and women are destined to be husband and wife. In this case, we should cherish this hard-won fate.
Whether for children or for their own future, everyone should cherish the present marriage.
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