The quickest way to reconcile is to follow the underlying logic of love, that is, "meet each other's emotional needs." This is the simplest truth, but it is ignored by many infatuated girls.
For example, if you go to a company for an interview, your salary expectation is 5000 yuan. As a result, your interview was successful, and the salary offered by the other party was 1000 yuan. At this time, you will fall in love with this company without hesitation, because it meets your "value needs". On the other hand, when your boyfriend chooses to leave, it must be that he lacks the "emotional needs" that the other person wants in getting along, which leads him to choose to leave.
In order to deepen the fairies' deep understanding of this question, please answer the following three questions:
N0 1。 If your boyfriend never cares about you, and he won't take the initiative to contact you, how long can you insist on talking to him?
No2。 If you find that your boyfriend's mobile phone is full of warm objects, will you still be with him?
Third. If your boyfriend often loses his temper with you and always says goodbye, how long can you keep talking to him?
The above three problems are that men can't meet the "emotional needs" of girls in their feelings. It may mean that every problem happens to you, and you will choose to end this relationship. Similarly, men also have "men's emotional needs" in their feelings. Once you are not satisfied, you will feel tired and choose to separate.
Why does the harder he works, the more indifferent he becomes? In the face of her boyfriend's rude feelings, Xiaoli is in great pain at the moment and demands to get back together, and the method she adopts is. Struggle, make crazy phone calls, find friends as lobbyists, write small compositions and write letters of guarantee. On the other hand, either way, Xiaoli's boyfriend will be more desperate and can't see the future.
Because Xiaoli's boyfriend will feel that Xiaoli's mood is unstable, she will break up easily, make trouble without reason, and insist! In this way, I was more disgusted with Xiaoli, and finally I blacked Xiaoli!
Why does the harder he works, the more indifferent he becomes? I believe this is the doubt of many babies. In fact, it's not that the other person is indifferent, but that you skipped the question and forced the other person to make up with you, which led him to reject you!
List: Xiaoli is very unstable. Threaten to break up every time you have trouble with your boyfriend! Once Xiaoli has said it many times, men will believe it, start to lack trust in their feelings, and can't see the hope of the future, thus pulling away from their feelings for Xiaoli. After her boyfriend became emotionally stable, she broke up with Xiaoli!
Xiaoli began to pester crazily, make phone calls, find friends to be lobbyists, write small compositions and write letters of guarantee, which made Xiaoli's boyfriend even more desperate and could not see the future, because he thought Xiaoli was too extreme, emotionally unstable, unreasonable and demanding! In this way, I was more disgusted with Xiaoli, and finally I blacked Xiaoli!
From Xiaoli's point of view, I am expressing my love for my boyfriend, my disappointment with my boyfriend, and even my regret and determination to mend after it is too late. But in the eyes of boyfriends, these behaviors are chaotic and unreasonable!
From the analysis of Xiaoli's story, she was broken up because she didn't meet her boyfriend's need for security in her feelings and emotional needs. Because every time Xiaoli threatens to break up. Boyfriend's heart is broken, painful and helpless! So you understand? The reason for being broken up must be that the "emotional needs" of the other party have not been met.
The next point is: What problems do girls have that will prevent their boyfriends from getting "emotional needs"?
No 1。 Emotional instability, love to lose his temper, always break up in the cold war, love to delete friends!
No2。 The age gap between brother and sister is too big, the economic condition gap between the two sides is too big, the region is too far, and the other parents disagree!
The third one. Without self-confidence, I always feel that I am not worthy of each other. There is no emotional framework, and it is too humble to get along!
Fourth place. Losing freshness, being in love for too long is boring, and I don't like spending my boyfriend's money!
N05。 Too strong, too clingy, not giving each other room to be alone, reasonable!
Sixth place. The other person's feelings are transferred to other girls!
Seventh place. Talking is too hurtful and hurtful, and you have done or said many things that hurt each other's self-esteem and their families!
The above are basically the types that most people stare at and break up quietly!
How to get back together? What is the correct logic?
T 1。 emotional stability
Emotional stability will make your IQ return, and your EQ will be online, so you won't be hurt because of too much emotional fluctuation and wrong thinking. So maintaining emotional stability is the key to getting back together! I have an idea that if my boyfriend is not dead, there is still a chance to make up. I hope it can inspire you.
T2。 Return to feelings
Write down the emotional experience of the last month of breaking up in a notebook, so as to find out what the real problem of feelings is. You know: the medicine that can't find the cause is poison, and the combination of reasons for breaking up is to hurt feelings! Only by carefully analyzing the problems in your relationship can you find the right direction!
T3。 Keep in touch like friends.
All relationships develop from friends. Do not exclude being friends with each other. This is to leave a retreat for each other. Keep friends and wait for opportunities, and the possibility of getting back together is higher!
T4。 Don't get sunburned.
Don't send any sad copywriting videos in the circle of friends! Men won't stare at you because you don't sell well. Therefore, friends will share more positive and energetic words and life. Men will be curious about you when you take the initiative!
T5。 Invite to meet
Identify each other's emotions. When the other person's emotions don't repel you, invite them to meet at once, and start the road of return again. When the other party is willing to warm up with you again, the reunion can basically come to an end! Every relationship has its own problems. Can't generalize! No matter how sad you are and how happy you want to be, you must abide by this thinking logic.