Onlookers always wake up their girlfriends, thinking it is their duty, but they don't want to go too far, such as not seeing each other's happiness and hurting friendship. A girl who is deeply in love really can't tolerate others talking about her boyfriend, even if you are close friends, even if you know that you really want her to be happy.
But after all, I want to help you kill the possibility of unhappiness.
On weekends, the three of them get together. They are college classmates and have known each other for ten years. She is my best friend, but I have lost touch with her since I moved in with my boyfriend and was busy with my new job. I haven't mentioned much about my love life except seemingly casual sunshine happiness. Whether it's because of personality or avoiding contradictions. Just like when we just decided to live together, the step of asking for advice was just omitted from the mention to the notice. I was holding back.
They have a special relationship. Male age 12, divorced, childless. At present, the men and girlfriends who live together and take care of their families are said to be taken care of in every possible way, and the only housework is washing dishes. When they meet, they will chat and naturally ask about the gifts they received on Tanabata yesterday. She replied faintly but slightly lost that she was just going out for dinner, saying nothing. To tell the truth, after listening to it, I can't help but feel a nameless fire in my heart, so Huadu doesn't have it? She said that sometimes you can't ask too much, implying that others are doing well. Mentioned that her boyfriend smiled and asked if there were any female colleagues who received flowers. You see, he has never been ignorant. Just like her birthday last year, only cake. She repeatedly explained that at other times, he would give red envelopes, occasionally take them to buy clothes, and occasionally ask him if he wanted brand-name bags. She doesn't want it because she has always been a sensible girl. But I seem to understand that when a boy needs a girl to make excuses for him, it is not a good sign.
I can't understand his indifference. What is urgent is that he used his life attitude of the same age to guide a girl who gave his first love to live a middle-aged life with him, deliberately ignoring the young girl's desire for romance. And that silly girl takes it for granted. In the eyes of outsiders, even if she gets along with her day and night, her boyfriend is as deep as the sea. His career is mediocre, and according to his own rhetoric, his income is lower than his age. When asked about her future life, she was worried, but she quickly stressed that she didn't want to be rich or expensive. And my understanding is that her boyfriend's income is far above his rhetoric. She avoided laughing and said, wouldn't that be better? More is better than less. She seems to know better than I do, and the principle of getting along is not to ask more questions.
In fact, she even encouraged her to go back and joked that her girlfriends laughed at her boyfriend for being stingy and not giving anything. Yes, we are not afraid to be bad guys, because we hope he will take the initiative to do something for you, instead of doing everything conveniently. The value of the gift is not important, even if it is higher than the value, it is also a heartfelt exchange of joy, just a sense of ritual in life. I hope he is willing to give it to you, not disdainful. You obviously mind, but you have to bear it. Is the man's mood too fragile, or can't determine his attitude and destroy the relationship?
The age gap is too big, after all, the talent is deeper. I know that she lacks love since she was a child, and it is easy to fall into the care of such a man and be consciously spoiled. But, think about it, how could a five-year failed marriage not teach him the ability to take care of others? She couldn't tell the reason for his divorce, said she didn't care and didn't want to hear it. But I know that she should have taken care of his fragile emotions, right? I never doubted that I would go to Shanghai to find a so-called circle of friends to expand my business every holiday, but I never broke through, just drinking and chatting, or something else. Remind me many times, but there is always an excuse. Finally, do you think he will be so kind to you after marriage? She asked: Who can guarantee that our relationship will be like this in the future, for example? It is said that women should not marry a man just because he is good to them, because if one day he is bad to you, you will have nothing. Material or not, after all, he can give you some other requirements, and in the end you won't have nothing. Besides, she always thinks that it is a great gift to have no expenses at present. Bai Bangni said, "How much sweetness does it take to fill a person's bitter heart?" Xu immediately said, "No, Bonnie, a little sweetness is enough." She said not a little, I felt it, but a lot. "Do you think he will love you more than you love him?" She said, "Yes, I'm sure." I don't know why love is so cheap now. Annie Baby said: Remember, if he really loves you, he will only show it in one way-support you all his life. If you get married, you must die holding hands. Why does she want to marry this person even if she is willing to leave everything behind, even if she can't get the blessing of her parents and friends, but she has to avoid a house with only a few hundred thousand down payments, and even if she is tempted, she has never promised to add her name? Am I too naive or too demanding of perfection? She is willing to gamble on the happiness of her life, but he is not willing to gamble on his house. Some questions, silence is the answer, dodge is the answer, and not taking the initiative is the answer. You don't understand these.
I met him once. From the perspective of girlfriends, she is in a dominant position, and he will take care of her emotions, such as occasionally losing a small temper. In my opinion, my girlfriend's boyfriend is in a dominant position. Anger is just that he attaches too much importance to his own ideas and opinions, does not respect or compromise her opinions, and makes him very sweet in his girlfriend's eyes. Actually, I blame myself for this party. After all, I can't help it. After asking and answering, even she was in a hurry, as if she were a friend. After all, ten years of friendship is better than more than one year of getting along. And I just reminded her that the lack of security can't be solved by escaping, and mutual trust and loyalty are the way to get along. As long as she doesn't feel that her present life is a gift, because the man has many responsibilities, such as living with a single mother and so on.
Everyone has different expectations for life and the other half. I know I must have gone too far this time, with remorse, introspection, confusion and confusion, but I am more worried. I also know that I shouldn't judge other people's lives at will, but I have seen all kinds of happy people around me, which is not the case. Maybe I should thank my best friend for his satisfaction. I really shouldn't bother. I will reflect and wish her careful care all her life with the will of 120%.
A colleague's sister is 6 years old and still single. Her condition is my dream. She is 1.76, well-proportioned, has a house and a car in Beijing, and has a good face. However, Lu Yu people are stupid, and there are countless liars. My sister took a bus for a long time after work. Chatting on the road found that my sister was depressed, could not see the meaning of life, and even did not know the reason for living.
Later, I learned that I was separated from my ex-boyfriend. Of course, there are other interests. Of course, the ex-boyfriend is married and has children. And I learned that when I was together, I was already like this, and I was cheated. I don't believe this feeling. These days, eager to get married, all kinds of blind date networks can't recognize people. I am addicted to other WeChat groups, and my feelings are confused. I have been troubled by borrowing money, but I still don't give up. I have known each other for about a month, and I feel that I will never meet the second congenial person in my life. Even if the whole world tells her that she is a liar, I will devote myself to it until the liar stops. She was heartbroken.
My sister is too strong and easy to impose her values on others. When I first played online, I was encouraged to join, and even asked to introduce my boyfriend to me, and refused decisively. I met a younger brother after breaking up. It is said that there are several suites in Beijing with various advantages. Because the boy was lovelorn, she felt that the opportunity was rare, and insisted on introducing him to the single girls around her and going her own way. People around us refused all kinds of firmness, but persisted, and even found colleagues to unite and question our values. I asked him why he signed up himself in such a short time. Did you sign up? Evasively said, "Never mind, ask." "He said, do you believe. Will meeting you make you more convinced? "
She said that her personality is like this, passionate, affectionate, always hurt or unrequited love. Recently, I feel that her state is still not good. I feel that she took her and her friends out to meet more people and normal people on Tanabata. First she agreed, then she refused, and then she asked to go with her. First, she went to dinner as a friend's family. She took her mobile phone and brushed the WeChat group in her circle of friends, immersed herself in the online world and had a good time. However, it is too lacking in the world. Being late or sitting in the corner without participation makes me have the illusion that my EQ is too low or disrespectful. After all, I came in the name of a friend. After going to Sanlitun to participate in the Texas Hold 'em Competition, there were too many traffic jams and too long chat time for me to hold back. I looked at the tall buildings in the distance and said casually, I hope we can have a house here one day. She said: Why do you have this idea? I don't usually get into her head, but at this time I feel too hypocritical or melodramatic. I asked her if she bought a house in Beijing for investment. She said yes, so you see, I never even lived in my own house, because I rented it out without decoration. I kept asking, doesn't that feel like relying on others? She said there would be, but do you know the housing prices in Beijing? I said I am not stupid. I know the housing prices in Beijing, but shouldn't I have dreams or longings? You have a house of your own in a wandering city. Don't you know the sense of belonging? She looked around, and later mentioned that she felt the same way when she saw the house price in a high location, but she just wanted to give up everything to work hard, take risks and couldn't stand the busy life. But I said this: I am afraid that when I have a lot of money in the future, I will think: Should I not actually work so hard? In fact, I can totally enjoy my life by renting a house. I said that one is that you don't want enough, and the other is that you can rent it. She evaded the rent, which is beyond her ability now. Then I talked about my tenant and found that the water heater downstairs was leaking and so on. , did not disturb her in the middle of the night. I took care of everything, just waiting for her to pay and sign. The implication is that living in your own house is also risky. Now you just need to find the landlord. I said, what do you mean there is no risk, and you can't do nothing to avoid it? In fact, I can't understand why the rent of the land where she bought a house is far greater than what she is currently renting. It's just that sometimes I know that people are hard to push down.
Every day, every time someone says a word, she falls into deep thought, finds out the doubts and gets to the bottom of it, so chatting is very tired. Because her friend was present, the later analysis showed that she might feel inferior and gain self-confidence by suppressing others to accept her own views. Come to think of it, maybe. She constantly questioned men all over the world and judged other people's marriages, but she loved love rat to the extreme. When she was on a business trip in the United States, she met a colleague who was transferred to the United States to study. Forced by life, she is sallow and emaciated, unable to understand, admire or bless, but she can gently read her denigration or suspicion. She doesn't understand that not everyone comes from the same family as her. I used to watch my progress, go out early and come back late, and have a long talk with me. I was grateful at that time, even if it meant that I was at a different stage from her. I had nothing and needed to work hard. Maybe in her stage, my goal will be different, but I must take every step under my feet. Now that I think about it, she really doesn't like others to make progress and get happiness, because her world is gloomy. She felt that she had given, but she got nothing, only he felt. As The Pursuit of Happyness tells us: If you have a dream, you must defend it. When people can't do something, they will tell you, and neither can you. If you have an ideal, you should work hard to realize it.
When talking about that girl, I only said that I always believe that all efforts will be rewarded and suffering will inevitably come. She said that she no longer believed this sentence, implying that she had suffered endless pain. In the end, it turned out that high school had just lived away from home for three years. I said I was born in the countryside, you said I had a half-day holiday, my parents didn't go to see it, I was sick and carried it myself, and so on. None of us will be sweeter than you. Since everyone is like this, there is nothing to complain about. Is this bitterness the whole bitterness of life? That only means that your life is too happy. Of course, I know she should mean something else, love rat in life, but if you are determined to break it, how can you give others the chance to hurt you again and again?
Before the road arrives, just say that you are bored and sit for a while, thinking about where you are going. I said that I usually attend activities until the end, and the people here are more reliable. If you don't come here, aren't you at home alone? She said she could do something else. I gave an example. She said shopping. She has few friends, and shopping is also a person's shopping. I don't know what the point is. Later, after achieving the goal, I still played mobile phones, did not cooperate with the rules of the game, and was too conceited when signing up. Asking people questions is too sharp, so I find that I can't see people clearly after all, not only because my emotional intelligence is too low, but also because we have different views, so we will be very tired and depressed together. I seem to understand that everyone's aura is different. What attracts me or I want to join is the progressive circle, and as she said, she is easily attracted by love rat, so the circle that attracts her is also the circle of love rat love experts. There is another sentence. I believe there must be something hateful about the poor. You think about kindness, help her sort out the crux of her pain, and want to pull her out of the abyss of depression. But not everyone will reach out and accept your help.
When I thought I knew what was best for others, I had crossed that line. Even using love as an excuse is arrogance, which will inevitably bring tension, anxiety and fear. After all, it is my only duty to know what I should do most. Everyone's life is too hard, and it's hard to get lost. I didn't say anything when I saw it, and I didn't see it when I saw it. This is beyond a man's power. This article warns myself: say seven points, seven points, leave a line of human feelings, and meet each other in the future.