Yang Lele is a typical beautiful girl in the north, with long hair, quiet and fine features. She looks very beautiful, like a tall and delicate orchid in a deep valley, emitting bright beauty. If she doesn't tell her age, you won't guess that she is already a woman of 30+.
Seeing Yang Lele for the first time was an accidental opportunity, but it was like returning to an old friend. She treats people sincerely. When we first met, our communication was already sloppy. I joked with her with a smile, probably because we all have gentle temperament!
Ok, let's formally introduce: Yang Lele, born in 1985, graduated from the Clinical College of Tianjin Medical University, is also an enthusiast of parenting education, and is the official support group of the research group of Douyameng Parent-child.
Her story begins here.
Dreams are freedom.
Yang Lele has been a "child of others" since childhood: beautiful, clever, and good at studying. Never let your parents worry too much.
When I was a child, the teacher asked, "What is your dream when you grow up?" One answer that came to her mind was: to be a doctor. Born in a medical family, she was destined to study medicine. "Being a doctor" was the first influence of her family environment before her own dream sprouted.
When she grew up, she began to sprout her own ideas. When she applied for a major in the university, she reported her favorite economic management and language, but in the end she changed her major and studied medicine under her mother's arrangement. ?
"Civil servants and doctors have better social status" is a common understanding of the older generation. Parents from business circles have experienced ups and downs in business and hope their children can live a more stable life.
Now you ask her, what is your real dream? She thought deeply and said: Dream is freedom.
It is not difficult to understand that no one wants to live a free life more than her after experiencing the hardships of growing up and being arranged. She said: Being as free as a fish is her greatest dream in life. From a realistic point of view, her dream is to become a businesswoman and a businesswoman one day, prove herself with money, liberate herself and find her own value.
Born in a family: you can't change it, you can only accept it.
There is no story of youth rebellion in Yang Lele, only gentleness of reconciliation with past life. When communicating, you will find that family background is a word she often mentions. I remember talking to her about my mother once. I complained that my mother had a bad temper and often said that she would explode as soon as she broke out. She said to me: Who has a bad temper? Kid. It shows that my mother didn't get enough attention when she was growing up, so she lost her temper to attract the attention of people around her when she was an adult.
She said: the influence brought by primitive families is passed down from generation to generation and goes deep into the bone marrow. You can't change it, you can only accept it.
She has her own problems. I grew up in a family of three children. When I was young, my sister used the new one, and she used the old one, while my brother, as the youngest and most favored child in the family, used the most expensive and best things. She didn't feel anything wrong, and she didn't want anything new like her sister and brother. Some growth patterns have developed to the point where she won't say, "Give me something!" " .
"These personality characteristics have caused people not to pay attention to themselves. In life, I often play a paying role, but I consciously wronged myself. " As an adult, she reflected on family of origin's influence on herself. "To cultivate selfish ability, people should be selfish and bad." This is the truth that she only recently understood.
When you are tired or in a bad state, you choose not to answer unimportant calls; When I was at home with my parents, I praised my father who didn't cook easily. This small step of progress has greatly changed her relationship with her father. It is her homework to learn to show weakness to the people around her and to refuse others. She gradually began to understand that love is fluid, and you have to give love and get love in order to gain love.
Then she said with a smile, there are still many things she wants to try and try to make herself a better self. She sincerely hopes that she will find the world worthwhile.
Do you believe in love? Believe, but it is no longer the whole of life.
After experiencing beauty and witnessing collapse, Yang Lele experienced the ups and downs of his life after 30+ years. But it's okay: I still believe in love.
She said that one day, when you have experienced all forms of sweetness, orgasm, dullness, division and even tearing, you may suddenly realize that love is the nutrient and necessity of life, but it is not the whole of life. When you are tired of love and tired, you might as well put it aside and do other important things first, and then manage your feelings well when your mood cools down and your thoughts are clearer.
"If people want to be themselves, they need to keep thinking. Life, love, marriage, only experienced, can learn to grow in conflict. Every experience, whether happy or sad, is a kind of growth for me. Although I am still immature, I have gradually found the focus of the moment. I still have a lot of things to do, do my own growth, educate my children and manage my feelings. " She smiled naughtily and meaningfully.
Yang Lele has a lovely five-year-old daughter. One day, she opened her eyes wide and asked her mother, Mom, will grandparents die in the future? Is there anyone living in this house? Is it empty?
Daughter's innocent words suddenly touched the soft string in her heart. While comforting her daughter, she secretly said to herself, "cherish the people in front of you, care more about and accompany your family, and time waits for no one."
Today, she knows more about "cherishing". Experiencing, thinking and growing, she gradually ushered in a better and happier self.
Life philosophy: There is a major to be deepened.
Yang Lele is a casual woman who pursues quality and style. In life, when something needs to be chosen, her principle is: let nature take its course, choose according to the first instinct, and don't be too hard on yourself. When there is a big decision to make, she often thinks it over before making a decision. There is no turning point in making up your mind, just a matter of course. Not only listened to the inner voice, but also ensured the result with quality.
For a time, she entered the enterprise environment, contacted and participated in the work of "bean sprout trip" in parenting education. This experience made her understand a truth even more: people should know their position and then put down their hearts to do things.
Now, she is more determined to deepen her work-medicine. She said that a person, especially a woman, can't have the professional ability and economic strength to rely on.
The life she walked and the things she experienced taught her to think; Age and experience are teaching her more things, so that she can better control her life and embrace this vast world!