Why do you say that? Below, a detailed analysis is made from three aspects:
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Why do you say that? Below, a detailed analysis is made from three aspects:
Yan Shu and Yan Ayi sold steamed stuffed buns all their lives, saved millions, and took out the full amount to buy their son a 60-square-meter house in Shanghai. Every time I think about it, everyone says it is their proudest.
I hoped to be a little proud, live in my own house in the future, and go to my son with luggage and bedding happily, but I didn't expect to be rejected directly.
It turns out that the daughter-in-law's mother has arrived early and is taking care of her pregnant daughter-in-law. Originally, the family area was small, and my son didn't talk at the critical moment. The old couple can only leave angrily. This scene looks very sad.
Actually, it's all because they spoil their son too much. They have always cared about him wholeheartedly, fearing that he would suffer hardships and be wronged. They bought him a house with all their savings, which also made him lack of responsibility and dare not make a decision, thus forming this cowardly character.
Uncle Yan gave all his savings to his son to buy a house. He left no money, so he had to sleep in the shop. In addition, the certificate expired and the store was closed down. Suddenly, he was in a dilemma.
If I had listened to Aunt Xu's persuasion and only paid the children a down payment, or paid half of the money, two thirds of the money and the other third in my hand, in that case, they would be better off now. After all, they also have their own lives, and they also need money to support the elderly and see a doctor in case of emergency.
On the one hand, you can let your son repay the loan and exercise himself. After all, he has grown up, has his own work life, and has his own life plan. It is a great help for his parents to pay him a down payment. On the one hand, the old couple can have their own lives. They can rent a house near their son's house, which can not only take care of his family conveniently, but also have their own independent space and live independently. Keeping a bowl of chicken soup away from them is actually the best state.
In fact, the elderly should also have their own lives. They should not rely entirely on their sons to provide for the elderly, nor should they give all their money to their sons. On the one hand, when they are in trouble, it is no problem to help each other and take care of their grandchildren. On the one hand, we should maintain a certain degree of independence and have our own hobbies. Business in the store is busy, so we are busy with things in the store. When the shop is not busy, you can take a walk, visit the park, go fishing and enjoy the beauty of life.
In the play, the old couple heard that their daughter-in-law was pregnant, so they packed their bags happily and came by car. I didn't expect my wife and mother to arrive early. The scene was sad and embarrassing.
If they call their son or daughter-in-law in advance before coming, even if they know that their daughter-in-law and mother have arrived, it will not be so hot and it will not be so embarrassing to go back and forth by car.
One more thing, his son and his mother-in-law should call their parents when they come to take care of his wife. On the one hand, don't remind your parents that your wife is pregnant, but now that you have family to take care of you, you will eat less snacks. On the other hand, through communication, parents can know themselves better. With the communication between the two sides, the embarrassment behind can be avoided.
Also, this daughter-in-law did something wrong. Uncle Yan knocked at the door and saw his parents-in-law holding a bunch of things in their hands, without saying a word, with a look, and then turned away. This is even more irritating. At least you should sit in the house, have a drink and explain what happened. This really shouldn't be.
On the one hand, Yan Shu's sadness comes from the house she worked so hard to save money to buy, but she can't live in it. On the other hand, he is also disappointed to see his son who has no opinion and dare not take responsibility.
I couldn't help crying in the first half of Anjia's new update, and I wanted to scold the street in the second half. I have to say, this is still a drama that is very close to life. It is easy for people to think of things around them and can't help but sigh.
Uncle Yan and Aunt Yan came to Shanghai more than ten years ago. They sell breakfast for hygiene. After more than ten years of hard work, they finally saved a one-bedroom house. They bought Gong Beibei's house, asking for 3.28 million, and finally sold it for 3.2 million. When signing the contract, Xu Wenchang suggested that the old couple choose to pay by installment, and the rest of the money can be invested. However, Fang helped the old couple calculate that if they pay by installment, they will have to pay a lot more interest. The couple were distressed that their son had just graduated and could not earn much money, so they chose the full amount. While writing the name, the daughter-in-law said that she was pregnant, and the old couple added the name of the daughter-in-law as soon as they were happy.
I bought a house, and it's not over yet. It turned out that after buying a house, the daughter-in-law took her mother over to live. Old Yan and his wife didn't know, so they returned the rented house, wanted to live with their son, and waited on their daughter-in-law by the way. Unexpectedly, my mother lived in the house, and my daughter-in-law saw their big bags coming, so she turned against her and went into the bedroom. The couple left without even entering the house.
1, don't spoil children too much.
2. Appreciate your parents' efforts.
The old couple gave their life savings to their son and daughter-in-law. They should enjoy family life together, but they didn't even come into the house. Lao Yan's son is really heartless. Their house was saved by their parents selling steamed buns for more than ten years, so I won't say how much they suffered in the middle. He should thank his parents for buying him a house in full, instead of letting them sleep on the street.
The vast majority of parents are willing to pay for their children, and children should also be grateful and filial to their parents, and they should not be chilling.
"Old Yan and his wife" have opened a steamed bun shop in Shanghai for many years, and they get up early every day to sell steamed buns. No matter how tired they are, the old couple feel very happy, because they always have a goal in mind, that is, to buy their own wedding room for their son in a big city like Shanghai, and the old couple can also stand in Shanghai.
At that time, the "Lao Yan couple" bought a house and asked Aunt Xu to give it. Aunt Xu later gave it. However, because Dr. Gong's house was in urgent need of sale, they pried open Uncle Yan's business, and then reached an agreement with the house, and the process of viewing the house was also very satisfactory.
In this way, the old couple happily accompanied their son and daughter-in-law and went to the store to sign the agreement. While signing, the son offered to add the details of his daughter-in-law. At that time, the old couple were really hesitant and unhappy. But the daughter-in-law said she was pregnant, and the old couple happily added her name. After all, buying a house is for her son. There is no need to be unhappy, and there is no need to think too much!
When the contract was about to be signed, Aunt Xu wanted to write the name of her daughter-in-law, reminding the old couple whether to pay some money, so that the pressure on the old couple would be relieved, and it would be guaranteed for the old couple to save some money. After all, 3 million is not a small sum, but the old couple won't listen! Aunt Xu felt unsafe at that time, but I didn't expect such a thing to happen!
The "Lao Yan couple" rode three rounds of parcels and happily went to the new house. When I was ready to serve my daughter-in-law, I was rejected by my son! It was none other than my own mother who opened the door. I didn't expect to spend my life saving to buy a house, but my mother beat me to it!
Moreover, my mother also satirized Lao Yan and his wife. Is this big bag used for washing clothes? I am so angry! Lao Yan and his wife can only find a reason to say that they are passing by! The daughter-in-law didn't even look at the old couple, but the son said, "mom and dad, go home first!" Come and see you again when you are free. " Is this what my son should say?
The house was bought by his parents. How do you feel that your son is showing the feeling of being a door-to-door son-in-law Coward, angry! In this way, Lao Yan and his wife left in tears, crying while walking, and they could only swallow the bitter water!
Old Yan and his wife were good parents, but they didn't give birth to a good son. Yan Shu spent all his savings and bought a suite for his son. He wanted to live in it together, but he didn't expect his son's plan to have no place for his parents.
Uncle Yan and his wife went to the new house with their luggage. As a result, the son only let his mother-in-law live in, but his parents refused. To put it mildly, it is to "persuade" to go back, but actually to "drive" out. Uncle Yan and his wife returned the rented house, but their son was not allowed in and there was no place to go.
This scene reflects the real relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the problem of parents treating their children, which makes the audience very angry? Lao Yan and his wife spent their life savings to buy a house to live in. Finally, they became homeless. Faced with the expulsion of his son, the silence of his mother, and the shame of his daughter-in-law, Lao Yan and his wife have no fixed place to live, but in the end they live on the streets!
Let's review the plot. Uncle Yan opened a steamed stuffed bun shop in Shanghai, which happened to be the neighbor of Jingyi Store. After more than ten years of getting along, they have special trust in the manager Xu Wenchang. The first thing they look for when they buy a house is Jingyi Store. Xu Wenchang specially asked Wang Zijian, the shop assistant, to help them choose a house. As a result, the room was like a brocade on the road.
The new room is like brocade. Considering their actual needs, they sold the house that Dr. Gong Beibei wanted to sell. However, her desire for success dispelled the retreat of Yan Shu and Aunt Yan. These are all understandable. When signing the contract, the son asked for the name of his wife. When the couple hesitated, the daughter-in-law moved out pregnant.
The reason is that when buying a house, Lao Yan and his wife asked for the full amount, and their sons and daughters-in-law wanted to enjoy it. Xu Wenchang has some misgivings about this payment method. He thinks it's a bit risky for Uncle Yan and Aunt Yan to put all their savings into this suite. It's better to leave part of it for investment, so that the young couple can pay back every month. Fang paid them the interest on the mortgage loan, and paid a total of more than one million yuan. They weighed it again and again, but they paid it in one breath.
During this period, the small and micro expressions on Yan Lijun's young couple's faces made people see in their eyes. This practice of forcibly adding names to the room book made the audience breathe a sigh of relief.
When Yan Shu learned that her daughter-in-law was pregnant with a grandson, all she thought about was the happy life of her children and grandchildren around her knees in the future, without speculating too much about their intentions. Parents' love is silent, how can they think more? ! The cruelty of reality is that when you feel happiest, you are suddenly thrown a pot of cold water, and what we are worried about still happens. Yan's aunt was preoccupied with how to take care of her daughter-in-law's grandson, but her mother beat her to it and she was even disqualified from entering the house. It's really sad that they spent most of their lives buying houses, hollowing out their homes and finally becoming homeless.
Their events made us think deeply. In real life, there are many cases like their family. Parents helped their children buy a house and were finally rejected. Regardless of who is right or wrong, analyze it in all directions.
First of all, Uncle Yan and Aunt Yan didn't mention their daughter-in-law when she bought a house. Maybe she hasn't entered the door yet and won't consider adding her name until she knows she's pregnant. That kind of obvious hesitation must make her daughter-in-law feel uncomfortable. Whether the son and daughter-in-law are old or not, the old couple take their grandchildren for granted that the daughter-in-law is a family. Imagine how many women in our country are deeply affected by this feudal thought. !
Secondly, it is also common in society that Yan Lijun has a daughter-in-law and forgets her mother. To say nothing, such children are generally spoiled. Parents gave their children all their love and contracted so many things, and the child was still a giant baby. Imagine what you can expect this "baby" to do when something happens. !
Finally, the TV series is narrated from the perspective of parents. If it is from the perspective of a daughter-in-law, according to the current social phenomenon, what did she do wrong? I'm pregnant, and my career will definitely be affected. If I want to vouch, is it wrong for her to add her name to the room book? ! Or is it wrong to let her mother who is familiar with her food and clothing habits take care of her?
Of course, the practice of sons and daughters-in-law in this TV series is really inappropriate. It is wrong for in-laws to come and say hello without saying hello, which makes people feel cold. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in China is a common phenomenon, and every family has its own problems. This warns us that parents should not block the way out for their children, let alone spoil them too much. Children are independent individuals, just don't help.
We can only sigh that Uncle Yan and Aunt Yan have been driven out of their homes and have nowhere to go. Fortunately, they can still work. I hope my son and daughter-in-law will wake up soon. Parents are not ATMs, so they don't care when they run out.
Alas, after reading it, I want to beat Yan Shu and Aunt Yan's son, but the gentleman talks but doesn't start work. Alas, he is really angry, angry, angry. After the TV series "Anjia" was broadcast last night, Yan Shu and Yan Ayi also went on a hot search. I think if this is true, it is estimated that many people want to do justice. No wonder many people say that they want to change the name "Anjia" to.
Aunt Yan and her mother really formed a sharp contrast with the beautiful room. One tried his best to cheat his daughter, and the other two tried their best to help his son so that he could give everything, even his life. I was really angry when I saw Aunt Yan being pushed out of the house. Later, when I heard what Aunt Yan said in the steamed stuffed bun shop, my tears came down. I thought I was. I really can't help it, alas, the poor bear the wind. I bought a house for my son all my life and sold steamed buns one by one. Finally, my son kicked them out and told me that I couldn't write the names of my son and daughter-in-law. I have worked hard all my life. I should write my name to buy a house with the money from selling steamed buns early and returning late, so that my son can have a room to live in. Why should I be so worried about them? The common fault of our parents in China is that as soon as they have children, they want to live longer than their children, take care of everything for them and give them everything they want. In the end, their children can't learn to be independent at all, and feel that everything about you is his. It's still your fault that you don't give it, just like Yan's aunt. Finally, my son kicked them out. I guess his heart still feels right, so you should take my house. Alas, this is really a human tragedy. As the saying goes, Zhu Dexiao comes first, but how many can really do it? I just want to say that it is really not easy for them to support you and let you live a good life. Don't take all your parents' efforts for granted.
I really burst into tears when I caught this episode last night. I believe many people are skeptical about that sentence. I raise you young, you raise me old, and you raise your children to prevent old age! Yes, my parents have been trying to save money to come to Shanghai all their lives. They have been selling steamed stuffed buns 10 in Shanghai for more than 3 million yuan and bought a suite for their son. They were reluctant to let their son get married, but manager Xu reminded them that they could get a loan, and they were reluctant to let their children pay so much money and interest every month. They feel that the full amount has saved their children a lot, and they have another daughter-in-law for family harmony. I am very happy, full of expectations for the days of the new house, planning how to sleep, how to take care of my grandchildren, and looking forward to the stability of the city ... But everything, when they took a car full of property, returned the rental, went to find their son, went upstairs with their bags, sweaty clothes, knocked on the door with joy, saw fashionable parents, skillfully disturbed the hygiene and became their home. Without saying anything, I said that I had come to see them. The most hateful thing is their son. So many things are carried down by the old couple. MuYanJiang endure tears, and went on. My son didn't help send it ... At that moment, outsiders looked cool, but Lao Yan and his wife didn't blame him. I couldn't help crying when I saw the long road they pulled away. The feeling of living on the street is so worrying. It's great to bear the wind.
May all children in the world care more about their parents, be filial to their parents within their power, and make everything go well at home!
Uncle Yan and Aunt Yan in Anjia really represent every parent who has a hard time in real life. They don't have any lofty aspirations. The only hope in their hearts is that their children can settle down and have a warm and warm home.
Uncle Yan and Aunt Yan came to Shanghai and have been renting in a small and dark rental room. They run a small steamed stuffed bun shop and buy steamed buns every morning. Every penny they earn is hard-earned money, so they have saved 3.2 million points.
Their son is getting married, and they are going to buy a house for him. They found Aunt Xu's real estate agent. After some consideration and determination, they didn't borrow money to buy a house according to Aunt Xu's suggestion. They must buy a house in full, but when signing the agreement, the son told them that because the daughter-in-law was pregnant, the name of the daughter-in-law should be added to the real estate license. When Uncle Yan and Aunt Yan heard that their daughter-in-law was pregnant, they agreed as soon as they were happy, but they didn't expect such hasty behavior to pay a painful price.
In this way, they paid the house price with all their hard-earned money of 3.2 million. When they packed all their things and were ready to move to a new home, their joy was beyond words. After all, it is the result of their struggle for most of their lives, and finally they have their own place in Shanghai, and they also plan to give birth to children and take good care of their children's wives.
When they arrived at their new home with big bags and small rolls, they were greeted by their in-laws when they went out, with a smile on their faces and polite conversation, and their emotions were full of disgust. The daughter-in-law doesn't even have a straight face. She always ignores them. Although her son was friendly, he also looked disgusted and took a few steps forward without even reaching the door. Obviously, she doesn't want his parents to disturb their comfortable life.
Uncle Yan and Aunt Yan still take care of everyone's face, be considerate of others' psychology, retreat after difficulties, retreat passively, and carry so many things downstairs. What is hateful is that their son, who has worked so hard to raise, has been indifferent and motionless. It's really something worse than animals.
It's not a taste to watch old uncles and aunts being kicked out of the house by their sons. The son's dislike is their most fatal injury.
When they went back to the steamed stuffed bun shop to continue selling steamed stuffed buns, they met a room full of flowers. When they got home, they were in tears, and the pain caused by their children was hard to heal.
All we want is that all parents in the world are happy, healthy and happy.
After returning to the rented house, the old couple fantasized about the joy of the birth of their grandson. When they thought they could live in their own house, they were stopped by their son at the door. I have worked hard for most of my life. I thought that buying a house would make the family live happily together, but I was turned away.
When the old couple buy a house, the daughter-in-law has to add her own name. It seems that the daughter-in-law has had this idea since then. After buying the house, the old couple completely lost their use value, and the ugly side of their daughter-in-law was exposed one after another. When the old couple came to the door, the daughter-in-law dismissed it and ignored it. Compared with the gentleness and virtuous when buying a house, it seems that they are all faking to make the old couple pay the house.
My parents dragged them into adulthood and spent all their savings to buy a house. Finally, they even refused to let their mother-in-law live in it. First of all, as sons, they are unqualified. They know that they will live with their parents when they buy a house, but they are indifferent to their parents' arrival and let them go back first. This is equivalent to politely refusing to live with parents. This shows that Lao Yan's son is also heartless.
Lao Yan and his wife once listened to their son's words, and it was a wrong decision to add their daughter-in-law's name to the real estate license. In this way, even if the lifeblood of Lao Yan's family is in the hands of her daughter-in-law, if her daughter-in-law takes divorce as a threat and half of her property belongs to her, the hard work of Lao Yan and his wife for most of their lives will be in vain, which is why the present situation exists.
I read this question for a long time, but I didn't answer it, because I couldn't bear to remember the details of the old couple, and I deeply knew that Aunt Xu's room was like a piece of brocade, and there was no way to completely save the old couple in the future. It is not difficult to predict that the future life will not be kind to Lao Yan and his wife, and the most malicious harm must come from the top person in their hearts: their son. But what should I do with this disappointing son? I am proud of you and give you everything, but you feel at ease. If danger comes, he knows that there is no need to say "you go first", and those two silly old couples will rush out first and leave you with enough face. In the chat with neighbors, they will tell you that you are filial, enterprising and know how to be warm and cold. The old couple live in their own hopes and dramas. Love them dearly. What about you? I can't think of any words to describe you except baiwenhang.
There is a book called Love Tree, which is about the relationship between a tree and a child. Children grow up and trees grow old. The child asked the tree again and again, and the tree gave him leaves and branches until there was nothing left in the tree, and the last piece of wood was given to the child. One day, the child tripped and the tree said, Does it hurt, son?
This is a children's picture book. Not many words, mainly pictures. The last sentence of the old tree made me burst into tears. Seeking a child is greedy and hopeless, but the parents who are hollowed out regard it as the responsibility to protect their children. Why? What makes greed so stretched and comfortable?
I want to say something unpleasant. Because I know it's hard to expect baiwenhang to repent. This is the scene in the TV series. In reality, a wolf is a wolf, and cannibalism is his only way of life. I want to talk about Lao Yan and his wife. You must have seen such parents in your life. When you meet something delicious, save it for your child, watch him eat every bite and eat the plate clean. Children give their parents a pair of chopsticks, and they will say they don't like eating and are not hungry. The child put the plate back and ate it with peace of mind.
The relationship between giving and receiving is formed in such unilateral giving day after day. What makes children feel at ease is the "hard work" of parents. If the child still has a little conscience at first, but with everything his parents have done for him, including dispelling his inner anxiety, the child will definitely become the son of Lao Yan in the play.
Love these parents. I want to invite you to have your own life and happiness, be proud of yourself, be proud of your delicious buns, and be proud of building a big house in a few years. Please be happy! Please leave the hardships of children's lives to them. I believe they can, too.
This is a hidden danger that has long been perceived by the naked eye. It was exposed on TV last night.
Uncle Yan and Aunt Yan, an old couple from other places, have lived in Shanghai all their lives and sold steamed buns. Such hard work made them save money for a suite, but this room is also tight.
When buying and selling a house, the son can already see that he is completely listening to his girlfriend's rhythm, temporarily using pregnancy to hold his parents, and then adding the woman's name.
They enthusiastically went to their new home and found that the house they bought had already lived with their daughter-in-law's mother. Like outsiders, they stood at the door wrapped in big bags and small bags, like poor relatives who came to beg. However, this is the house they bought with their own money!
This is really sad.
We really hope that one day, they can rise up and get this house back!
Otherwise, I really feel unfair!