I went out to eat with my boyfriend at the weekend, and I was surrounded by two girls selling flowers just after I got out of the subway station. They asked us if we wanted to buy flowers, but we said no, but they followed us all the time, forcing us to buy flowers in my hand and finally put them directly in my pocket.
Downstairs to the restaurant, a little boy with flowers ran directly to us. I have been chasing my boyfriend and said that my brother bought a flower for my sister. Finally, I forced the flowers into my boyfriend's hand.
Of course, we didn't buy either flower because we both hate being forced to stuff things.
What is "hard insertion"? I don't want it, you force it, this is a hard plug. Forcing is forcing me to accept what I don't want but you want me to accept. However, no matter whether the victim finally accepts it or not, the emotional reaction brought by the "hard jam" incident is the same, only disgust.
-02-
Jiang Mumu updated a status in the circle of friends: I have to like it if you don't think it looks good. It's really hard not to bother again and again, and it's really getting annoying.
I think I know what happened to her.
Mu Mu is several years older than me. When I just graduated, I found a job in Nanjing. Although I am usually a little tired and busy, my salary is considerable, and I have a good time in Mu Mu. However, Jiang Mumu's mother always thought it was dangerous for girls to go out alone, especially after knowing that Jiang Mumu was knocked down on a bus and smashed her computer. So I call Jiang Mumu every day and tell her to go home and take an exam as a civil servant. Why are girls so tired outside and nobody takes care of them? I did it for your own good.
Mu Mu has always been an obedient girl. She doesn't want to worry her mother. She just listened to her mother, quit her job and went home to take the civil service exam. But I didn't expect Jiang Mumu to prepare for such a long time, but he was not accepted in the end. Jiang Mumu's mother asked her to go to the bank again. During the preparation period, Jiang Mumu started to do purchasing, but the bank failed to pass the exam, but Jiang Mumu did a good job in purchasing, so Jiang Mumu started to do purchasing at home.
Jiang Mumu also works as a purchasing agent at home, and her monthly income is no worse than that of girls of the same age. Because she is free, she often goes out to have a look, and life is also petty bourgeoisie. But at this time, Jiang Mumu's mother thought it was time for her daughter to find a boyfriend and began to urge Jiang Mumu to fall in love again. But she thinks it seems nothing for Jiang Mumu to stay at home and sell things online. What should she do if she later finds a boyfriend and someone asks her where she works? So I want Jiang Mumu to go back to work in Nanjing, but she resigned from the beginning, and now she has the cheek to go back, wasting two years. Jiang Mumu is not a fresh graduate, and her job is not easy to find. She is not satisfied with the introductions of relatives and friends, so that she is still at home now.
Every time I look at being asked whether I have found a job or not, I can't help feeling a little embarrassed. Originally, her life could be full of flavor, but now she has become an elderly unemployed woman in the mouth of her neighbors.
Life is your own. All "for your own good" may really be for your own good. They go to be good for you because of love, but this kind of "good for you" may not be suitable for you, so in the end it can only be "good for you" but it can't really make you good. This kind of "goodness" imposed on you will make your life deviate from the original track. You may only see their love, but you can't see that it is actually forced in the name of love.
Jiang Mumu's mother forced her imaginary life on Jiang Mumu, but forgot that it was exactly what she wanted, not what Jiang Mumu wanted. This hard life made Mu Mu lose himself.
Sometimes we can refuse passers-by to sell quantity for money, but we can't bear to refuse the compulsion of family. But accepting what others impose on you will often bring you pain.
-03-
Xiao Lin has been a girl with her own melancholy temperament since she was a child, and almost all her worries are kept in her heart. Since she got married, her circle of friends has been a place I have never wanted to see, because her lines are full of gloom.
When Xiaolin was at school, her parents wouldn't let her fall in love. After she works, urge her to find someone. It happened that Kobayashi's parents were very picky about good face and were not satisfied with the introduction several times. Kobayashi himself talked about two boyfriends. One is because of the distance, her parents don't agree. The other is a salesman, but the family condition is really bad. Xiaolin's parents sentenced her to death. After that, Kobayashi seems to have no expectation for love. Let her go on a blind date and let her stay at home. Later, Xiaolin's father's friend introduced a boy to Xiaolin. Xiao Lin's parents liked it very much, and Xiao Lin didn't say anything. Finally, Xiao Lin married this boy.
I have only seen Xiao Lin once since she got married. Now my cheekbones are so thin that I dare not touch her when sitting next to her. That day, she just said a few words and left early. When I got home, I looked through Kobayashi's circle of friends, and it was all about being in a bad mood, unable to eat, losing weight and so on.
We say that emotion is the most elusive thing, but it happened that someone imposed this most uncontrollable and unbearable emotion on you, and you need to accompany it all your life. You can imagine how painful it will be if you are forced to feel this way, because you don't want it, so you don't want to accept it; Because I don't like it, I'm not happy to get along.
A happily married centenarian said that the happiest and most loving couple in the world had at least 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 thoughts of strangling each other in their lives. And they can grow old together, because they love each other deeply, and they can bear the consumption of daily necessities and vinegar tea in their lives. Because of deep love, even if I have the idea of divorce for 200 times and strangle each other for 50 times, 1 time has no impulse to leave each other.
But now, you don't love him, you didn't love him from the beginning, he was imposed on you by others, and this relationship was imposed on you by others, so what reason do you want to keep yourself away from trivial life?
-04-
When I was a sophomore, I was inexplicably pushed to the position of a community cadre. At that time, the association was established by the school-level association, so the association system and members were not perfect. At that time, there was really a feeling of being forced to swallow a mouthful of steamed bread.
So I persisted for a year without the leadership of the chairman, case reference and the help of the Ministry. From text planning to venue layout, from recruiting small actors to editing micro-movies, from taking photos of activities to sorting out the summary of copywriting activities, we must do it ourselves. Although the activity was rated excellent by the school, I was exhausted.
At the end of my sophomore year, the club was going to change, and my senior advised me to continue to be the chairman, but I refused; The counselor talked to me and asked me to continue to be the chairman. I also refused. It's not that I don't know that there will be more opportunities and even benefits after becoming the chairman, but I know that this is not what I want to do willingly.
The counselor said, "You have worked so hard for a year and you have done a good job in all kinds of activities. Senior students and sisters are very optimistic about you. If you continue to stay, isn't it a great sense of accomplishment to run the club well? "
I wonder if there will be what they call a sense of accomplishment. I only know that my experience in middle school that year made me very tired. Because I didn't do it voluntarily, I didn't have enthusiasm and motivation when writing documents, but I was tired and annoyed. After every activity, I have no so-called satisfaction, but I am relieved that it is finally over. All I know is that I don't want to be forced to do anything again.
I don't want anything imposed on me in any form, whether it's the life you want me to live, the person you think is suitable for marriage, or the job you think I can do.
I want to live my own life, maybe it will be a little bitter and a little tired, but I have no regrets, and I am always happy to live the life I want; I want to spend the rest of my life with someone I love from my heart. Maybe I will argue with him, maybe he will make me sad, but we have love, which can make trivial life more lovely. I want to do what I want to do, which may be difficult, but I will study hard and rack my brains to complete it successfully, so that I will have a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.
I don't want what others impose on me, because I still want to be myself and I want to be happier. From what style of clothes you wear today to what color lipstick you wear, to what house you want to live in and who you want to spend the rest of your life with. All this is what I want to do according to my own mind, and what others impose on me is a burden. Maybe I need to struggle to achieve all this, maybe I will be black and blue, but I still don't want to compromise or make do with it.
Life is really torturous sometimes, and the world is not as fair as it was when I was a child. Everyone who walks in the world is a monster, but I also hope that I am a monster I can like. What I have is exciting, and what I don't have gives me the motivation to pursue. We all know that life is short and time waits for no one. I just want to live the life I like.
I don't want what you impose on me.