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When I met Ronaldinho, we were senior three.
At that time, I would go to the library to read and study every weekend, and I would meet Ronaldinho every time I went to the library.
The library is not big and the number of tables is limited. Once, I went late and couldn't find a seat, so I found a stool, put together a table next to Ronaldinho's and studied in a small position for an afternoon. It is also because of that spell table that we gradually became familiar with it.
Ronaldinho studies hard every time. He went to the library early and didn't come home until late. Sometimes, watching her work so hard makes me feel like I've been beaten with chicken blood, and I dare not relax.
Later, I gradually became familiar with Ronaldinho, only to know that Ronaldinho's family situation was not very good. Her father is a security guard in the community. He is busy day and night every month, with a monthly salary of three or four thousand yuan. And Ronaldinho's mother is unemployed at home, doing some manual work to earn some money, which is one or two thousand yuan a month. Parents' basic income is up to five or six thousand yuan per month. However, it is extremely difficult to maintain a family of six, an old man and a small family with these thousands of dollars.
Therefore, Ronaldinho always studies very hard, hoping to be admitted to the university and share some pressure for his family. In her eyes, going to college can change her fate and her life will get better and better.
After the college entrance examination that year, neither of us went to the library and rarely met. It was not until some time after filling out my volunteer that I suddenly remembered Ronaldinho and sent her a message on QQ to see how she did in the college entrance examination and where she was going to study.
Her grades are not as good as I expected. The results of the college entrance examination made her go to a college in Foshan to study junior college.
We seldom meet in college and in different cities. Usually because of busy work, I seldom contact each other, and I can only vaguely understand each other's life from each other's QQ space.
Her QQ space should be updated every day, and whether she is happy or not will be displayed on it. Looking at her circle of friends, I seem to see the bits and pieces of her daily life.
Once I saw her posting space at 1 1 in the morning, saying that she had just woken up and finished class in her dream.
Once, I saw her drying pictures of various cosmetics and began to learn to make up;
I once saw her update in the middle of the night, saying that she had just returned to the dormitory from KTV with her friends.
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When I was in college, what I saw seemed very different from what I knew in high school.
I once contacted her and asked her how the university was going. What are your plans for the future?
She talked to me about many school activities, skin care and makeup, and playing with friends, but the only thing she didn't talk to me was study, which shows that she had a good time in college.
She feels that college life is better and happier than before, and it should get better and better after graduation, so she is not so worried.
Only recently did I see her updating spatial information, and I realized that she and I were developing in the same city.
Later on the weekend, I asked her out for dinner. During the dinner, I learned that her recent development here is not so smooth. She has been working for nearly three years now, but she has been doing very simple clerical work, but there is no room for improvement in her career and salary.
She once thought that life would get better and better, but now she finally understands that a good life will not get better and better with the passage of time, nor will it get better after going to college. A good life needs constant efforts and a little precipitation, and it will get better and better.
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When I was a child, I grew up in the countryside. In the alley of the village, every family's children are familiar with each other, and everyone goes to school in the same village, so we meet every day, go to school together, and leave school together, like sisters.
Later, when I was in the fourth grade of primary school, my parents arranged for me to study in the city, and I left the small village. Wait until the holidays, only occasionally go back to live in the village.
Every time I go back, I see fewer and fewer classmates. Many students stop studying after finishing junior high school, but choose to go out to work to make money.
Some of them do assembly line work in factories in small towns, and most of the time they live in factory dormitories;
Some help their parents to do small workshops at home and do some work before the workshops;
Some followed the villagers in the same village and went to work in the outside city.
Xiao Min, who lived next door to my house and had a good relationship with me in those years, went to Dongguan to earn money after graduating from junior high school.
There is no other connection between us except Weibo, so sometimes we can only see her occasional dynamic through her Weibo update, but we don't keep in-depth contact and don't know how she is doing.
Until after the college entrance examination, I went back to live in the village for a period of time. I met her and went back to the village. But at that time, she was pregnant for 3 months, with a bulging belly, and accompanied by her husband, she went back to her parents' house for a few days.
After that meeting, we talked a lot, left contact information for each other, and then we kept in touch frequently.
I went to see her on purpose when she gave birth. I thought she would continue to work after maternity leave. However, she told me that her husband told her not to go to work, just look after the children at home and have a good rest.
I asked her, "Do you have any other extra income?"
She told me that her husband would give her a fixed living allowance every month.
In my mind, I always think that no matter what stage a woman is in, she must have her own job and income, at least to maintain her own life, so that she doesn't have to ask for money from a man, otherwise she needs to ask for money every month. Over time, men will think you are a burden.
Xiao Min always thinks that with her husband's support, there is no need to worry too much. So after confinement, she began to live a housewife's life, taking care of children, cooking and watching TV plays at home every day, and living a busy and relaxed life.
At first, a family of three lived happily and sweetly. However, with the growth of children, milk powder, diapers, living expenses, etc. With the increasing pressure on her husband, Xiao Min's living expenses are getting less and less.
Xiao Min always thinks that when children are older, they can go to kindergarten. At that time, if they go out to work, their lives will gradually improve. She always believed that life would get better.
However, due to the increasing pressure, her husband became more and more inconsiderate to Xiao Min, and then began to complain that Xiao Min didn't go out to make money, did nothing at home, and didn't even provide living expenses.
In the third year of the child's birth, it was like a bolt from the blue that she found her husband having an affair. Xiao Min simply can't accept it. She didn't know that such a bad thing would happen to her.
But life may be like this. If the present life is hard, all good fantasies about the future may be dashed.
If a woman bets her whole life on a man and can only cling to him, it is doomed to be a bet. As a bet, then, it is doomed to lose and win. Without the guarantee of 100%, it will definitely win, which will be very good.
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In the workplace, I see some friends around me, who are degenerating and confused at work.
There is not much work at hand, and what I can learn is limited. However, they enjoy this relaxed working state.
Staying in a post for a long time will become a smooth hand, but I always think that it will be easier to go out and find a job and the salary will be higher if I stay here for one or two years and have more work experience.
However, they have been marking time and have made no progress at all.
The number of working years is increasing, but the work experience has been standing still in a relaxed environment.
Higher wages and a better life will not get better and better with time.
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In life, when we encounter sadness, setbacks, difficulties and so on, friends around us will always comfort us and say that we will get better gradually in the future.
But will it really get better? Will life really get better?
Not necessarily!
Good days need to be based on our efforts and continuous accumulation;
Good days require us to adjust and change in time when we find problems in our present life, and gradually get better;
A better life requires us to keep advancing and accumulating, and not to be lazy or lax;
Life will not get better and better with the passage of time, but you need to work independently and keep making progress, and your life will get better and better.
Good days will not wait for you, nor will they be easily enjoyed by you.
I always believe that a good life is based on hard work.
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