First of all, disabled children have stronger self-esteem than other children. For physical reasons, they are eager for people to respect them. A little disrespect may seriously hurt their hearts. Because of this, parents of disabled children often carefully protect that fragile heart.
Secondly, disabled children have strong dependence. At home, they rely on their parents and other family members; At school, they rely on teachers and kind classmates. They hope to get more care and help.
Third, disabled children are more likely to lack self-confidence, and some may feel inferior. They often lament that the god of fate is too unfair, so why should they keep their misfortune for themselves? While they envy other children, they will think that they are unfortunate and can't do many things they should do. They encounter more setbacks, so they face more choices of self-confidence and inferiority.
Fourth, disabled children look forward to a better life and are as eager for happiness as everyone else. Every disabled child has a bright and beautiful world in his heart.
As parents, we should understand the psychology of disabled children, especially carefully observe their thoughts, which will make our education and help for children more targeted and enhance the effect.
For the sake of their children, parents should first adjust their mentality and never be occupied by the words "unlucky", "hard luck" and "misfortune". There is an old saying in China: "You will be safe when you come." The established reality can no longer be chosen, but the road to the future can be chosen. If parents are overwhelmed and feel sorry for themselves, how can they motivate their children to fight hard? The fate of disabled children is in the hands of their parents.
While constantly adjusting our mentality, what we should do is:
First, educate children to face reality and treat their disabilities correctly. Things in the world are not absolutely fair, everyone will experience different sufferings, and parents can tell their children many people and things to prove this truth. To hell with the idea of "unfair fate"
In school or society, most people will care about and help disabled children, but a few people with poor moral values will treat them with disrespectful languages such as "blind", "deaf" and "lame" or even bully them. Children should be educated to be moderately patient, and at the same time, they can criticize those individuals with confidence: "Are you doing this morally?" "Do you really have the ability to bully the disabled?"
Second, provide children with learning opportunities as much as possible. As long as it is possible to go to school, we must overcome all difficulties to let our children go to school. It is best to go to a school for disabled children; Where there is no school for disabled children, they can study in ordinary classes. If you can't go to school, you should let your children learn cultural knowledge in different ways. This is very important for a child's life.
Every disabled child's situation is different, some may have some special skills, and some may have comparative advantages although they do not have special skills. Parents should give their children the opportunity to learn a skill as soon as possible, which is the dependence of their future life.
Third, it is necessary to care for disabled children seriously, but moderately, and strive to cultivate children's self-confidence and self-reliance ability. We should collect a large number of successful cases of disabled people, tell them to children, or let them learn by themselves. Minimize children's dependence. Establish the spirit of self-improvement. Especially when children suffer setbacks, we should analyze them in detail and guide them patiently to help them choose to be strong. Don't be too compassionate and alert, and lower your child's fighting spirit.
Fourth, give children a chance to succeed. You can't ask too much of disabled children, but if you don't ask at all, it will be unfavorable to let nature take its course. Let children achieve small success where they can, give them timely encouragement, and let them feel that "I can do it". Over time, they will gain a spirit-continuous pursuit of success.
Five, support children to participate in various group activities, especially those with more disabled children. Doing so will not only broaden children's horizons and enrich their lives, but more importantly, it will enable them to learn to communicate and participate and increase their ability to adapt to society. Some parents always put their disabled children under their own overprotection, which is not good. Disabled children also need to fly, communicate and have friends.