First, psychological counselors rely on unreliable basic judgments.
Look at the qualification: you can look at the qualification certificate of a consultant first, and then confirm the consulting relationship with him. At present, there are only two levels of third-level consultants and second-level consultants in China (pay attention to the time, these were cancelled on 20 18, and there is no practicing certificate to test at present). Remember: without a senior or first-class psychological counselor, the psychological counselor of the Chinese Academy of Sciences is only a certificate of completion and cannot be employed.
Look at the training experience: you don't have to have a certificate to become a qualified psychological counselor. They also need long-term training experience in a major genre, and generally have a systematic long-term theoretical training (starting from 2 years). He also has his own experiencer and supervisor. The experiencer helps him to face his emotions together (the energy of the visitors contacted by the psychological counselor is usually low, so the counselor should also face his emotions in time, so as to prevent his negative emotions from bringing him a visit, or the negative emotions of the visit stimulate the negative emotions of the counselor), and the supervisor helps the counselor to evaluate the case and discuss the treatment direction and technical issues. In other words, there should be systematic distance training, experienced teachers and supervisors.
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Look at the consultation time: the longer the consultation time, the better! Scientific research shows that one person pays attention to another person for up to 50 minutes. After this time, the communication effect is poor. Generally speaking, the duration of personal consultation is less than 50 minutes, and the duration of partner therapy or family therapy is 90 minutes or 120 minutes. One session at a time is normal. If you want to consult for two periods in a day, the consultant should rest for at least 15 minutes to ensure the consultation effect. Some institutions consult individuals for two to four hours at a time, and the cost is a multiple of the unit price multiplied by the duration, which is irresponsible and damages the rights and interests of visitors.
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Look at the price: the cost of a mature consultant's four consultations a month adds up to one-third of the local per capita monthly income. Take Chengdu as an example. Chengdu's monthly per capita income is 7,000 yuan, and 7,000 is divided by 3 and divided by 4, which is the price of a mature consultant in 550 yuan. 100-650 yuan is a reasonable consulting price in Chengdu. So in Beijing, 200-800 yuan's personal consultation is a reasonable price. Formal consultation is to make an appointment for consultation and pay the fee. And many informal organizations like to engage in the activity of "giving ten times the consultation fee for free during sexual intercourse", and publicize it with you intentionally or unintentionally. This is definitely an unreliable organization that eats quick money. I also brushed the "online escort" on the Internet, charging monthly, which is even more unreliable.
Depends on the settings: ① A reliable consultant will tell you to visit at a fixed time as far as possible. Fixed time is also part of the formation of stability and security. Counselors will also tell visitors to block their circle of friends from each other and not to talk about the consultation content outside the consultation time. This is because one of the goals of psychological counseling is to cultivate an independent person. If the information of consultants frequently appears in the circle of friends of visitors, visitors will experience a ubiquitous consultant, and the result is that the personality of visitors cannot be independent. ③ Protect the private life of the consultant from being disturbed and keep it in good condition. If there is always visiting information in the counselor's circle of friends, too much information will make the consultation unpredictable.
Look at the method: no one therapy is suitable for all visits, and it is problematic to use the same therapy for all visits. The kind of consultant who "eats all over the sky with one therapy" is not reliable. However, too many treatments (more than four) are also problematic. If there are these words in the other person's resume, you should consider whether to consult him as appropriate: such as Satya family therapist, international hypnotist, nlp executive, mindfulness therapist, image dialogue, etc.
Second, further judgment.
Look at the stability of personality: if you meet the above conditions, you can consult him 1-3 times to get to know your feelings. When you speak, think about whether he can understand you. If you tell him that what he said is wrong, will he explain himself, or will he immediately put down his guess and continue to understand you? From your feelings, you will have your own judgment on whether this consultant is reliable and suitable for you.
For example, at the end of the second consultation, the visitor said, "I have been consulting for so long, why hasn't the problem been solved?"
The counselor said, "We are only consulting for the second time. You can find a better counselor." The counselor didn't see the helplessness of the interview and hit back at the attack. Counselors are unstable, so they are unreliable. )
If the counselor says, "You are helpless and don't know the end of counseling, how can you face those problems in life?" You really hope that counseling can help you right away. (The consultant was not taken away by the attack of the interview, but continued to learn about the interview. This consultant is stable and reliable. )
Another consultant asked, "Teacher, I have consulted so many times, but I still can't get out of the shadow of lovelorn." ,
If he answers, "You have to be patient, psychological counseling is not done overnight." He doesn't love you or even accuse you. )
Instead, he replied, "I can feel that you are in a hurry." If you do encounter such a problem, I would imagine that taking a pill is as effective, but in fact, we have made some progress. Didn't you classify all men as love rat at first? " This answer is affectionate and sincere, and pay attention to your positive aspects. )
Suggestion: A reliable psychological counselor will not take the initiative to give advice, but if the interview is stuck by something, he will fall into anxiety and helplessness. It is not helpful for psychological counselors to evaluate this kind of anxiety and helplessness, and psychological counselors will give advice. (Ask for it when visiting, and the consultant will give advice only after evaluation. )
About physical contact: A reliable psychological counselor may indeed refuse such requests as visiting and hugging, because the satisfying behaviors such as hugging and being on call will promote the vicious return of visiting, deviate from one of the goals of psychological counseling, and will suffer setbacks and delay satisfaction.
Guaranteed psychological counselors are unreliable: this is because there are two factors that determine the effect of psychological counseling: a reliable psychological counselor and the ability to reflect and perceive when visiting. The consultant guarantees a good effect, which will make the visit unnecessary to reflect and perceive, and the effect will naturally not come out. It's just like no matter how powerful the teacher is, it can't be said that all my students study well.
See if the counselor answers the questions positively: some questions involve the right to know, and the counselor should answer them positively, such as: What genre of counselor are you? Are you being supervised? The frequency of supervision? If the counselor doesn't answer these questions directly, such as "Why do you ask this question", visitors will feel that they are not being treated sincerely. Counselors can answer directly first, and then accept the visit: "You know this, you will feel certain and more practical?"
Such layer-by-layer elimination can eliminate many unreliable psychological counselors with false certificates.