It can also be said that it is more targeted to analyze the "truth" based on certain assumptions or premises. Let's look at the first hypothetical situation first. It often happens to people with distinctive personality, strong professionalism and self-reliance. In other words, people with capital are more arrogant, and people with ability are often more self-reliant. If the other person you meet happens to be such a person, such a face-changing and conflict is more focused on the major itself than anything else.
Both sides can understand this, but still reserve their own opinions. In this case, it has little to do with "worth it". So, in this case, you can basically not worry too much.
Look at the second hypothetical situation. Some people in the workplace are "selectively blind" when criticizing, or afraid of leadership authority, or unwilling to mention it because they "stay ahead of others and see you later", or are good at "saving the country by curves" and mention some "good and bad" that are obviously criticism but praise.
If you meet such a person, such a turn of face and conflict may extend to interpersonal relationships. In this case, maybe one day you will know how stupid it is to turn against others because of work. This sentence seems very reasonable.
In this case, the following suggestions are for your reference. Two bad things:
Second, please note:
Need to be reminded that:
There is a saying that is suitable for everyone, and it is called "Listening without opinions is the highest wisdom of mankind" (Krishnamurti). We can get the answer from a traditional word "listen". The ancients would integrate all the principles or laws about the natural universe and life into Chinese characters. Simply put, listen to each other with your ears, eyes and heart, instead of rushing to judge and define.
Generally speaking, people express their opinions more than reflect on themselves. The real growth and change is that we can see ourselves, understand ourselves, and see the patterns, habits and nature that constantly affect us in the dark.
Being able to understand the laws of our internal changes may be more important than learning many theories, because it is a process that supports our changes from the perspective of laws.
If there is, you will find that there is no problem and it cannot be solved.
Product summary: People have needs and expectations. Once understood, supported and desired, the real understanding between people comes into being. Once this happens, reasonable concessions and appropriate compromises will reconcile contradictions and move towards harmony. In my life, I accidentally turned against someone. What should I do?
I think this is very reasonable. This is a fact. Tell me a true story.
When I first joined the company, a related department was responsible for checking the hygiene of each department and included it in the daily assessment. In fact, many times it's just a formality. After all, no one wants to leave money here.
However, there is a new female employee in the inspection department with a more "real" personality. Right is right, wrong is wrong.
On a routine inspection, I met the department head in the office and was deducted two points in front of the department head.
Director: "We'll clean it later. See if you can't deduct it. "
Female employee: "That won't do. This is my job and my responsibility. See where it is. "
The last two people also had a war of words because of this. After this time, I offended the head of the department and spread a lot of negative remarks through the "strong" behavior of employees.
Coupled with her personality, people in this department don't like her very much, and they are directly isolated, which leads to few dowry gifts when she gets married.
It is not a problem for employees to work hard, but do sinners who always rob their jobs think it is worth it?
1, young people should not take "reason" as the basis for their own debate. Educated people often don't like unreasonable troubles, but don't be aggressive when reasoning.
As the old saying goes, it is easy to meet each other in the future if you stay out of it. Many times, people come into contact with each other because of work.
It is inevitable that there will be miscellaneous things at work, and others' mistakes will be caught. At this time, people can remedy it in time. I suggest that we should forgive others as well. This is a kind of wisdom.
2, many units, the promotion of work depends on human feelings, there are many enterprises, they have a very complete management system, in many cases can be implemented in accordance with the system.
But to be honest, how many such companies are there around?
Few people, especially those around us, pay attention to interpersonal relationships. If you want to do a good job, you need people to cooperate. How can someone help you with such a strong personality?
In the long run, this will only make you helpless and isolated.
3. The unit is a platform for you to make friends, not a stage to show your personality. It's not that I'm ugly, but that many young people who have just entered the workplace "hold chicken feathers like arrows", regardless of the occasion, some of them are around and die unsatisfied.
In the end, people were offended, and the leaders had to clean up. This is a sign of incompetence.
On the stage of the company, we should use the platform to better express our ability, not our personality.
The boss asked you to work on the platform to make a difference, not to cause public outrage.
4, everything is not torn, everything has room for manoeuvre. Interpersonal relationships in the workplace are very subtle. Many times, as long as you don't tear your face in public, you may become a comrade-in-arms in the next second.
But if you are torn in public, the probability of recovery becomes very small, which means that to a large extent, you have been hostile in this circle, which is very inappropriate.
I'm Zi Ling Jr.
"One day, you will know how stupid it is to turn against others because of work." This sentence is very reasonable.
In the past ten years of work and life, I gradually realized that everything should be a matter, not a person. I can't lose my temper casually and have conflicts with my colleagues, otherwise there will be consequences you can't imagine. Here are two examples to illustrate this point.
When I first entered the workplace, my mood was relatively high and my temper was relatively straightforward, so I directly confronted my superiors at work. For example, once the leader gave us a meeting, I didn't bring my notebook. The leader said, why don't you bring your notebook? Is your memory that good? I said don't bring it, you can remember it with your brain. I was really confident in my memory at that time.
But the leader still asked me to get the notebook, so I said with a full face of unhappiness, "I don't remember if I took it." Later, because of this incident, the leader also specifically asked me to say: "A good memory is not as good as a bad writing. Everyone's memory will always be biased. I will argue with the leader in front of several people, which is too embarrassing for the leader. "
Although the leader didn't deliberately give me little shoes to wear later, there are still many differences between me and my colleagues in the same position, and there are also different attitudes. It can be said that I have gradually alienated me.
In my second job, my temper is still not convergent, and I am also psychologically unconvinced by the new leader. When the leader assigns some tasks, I will directly refute or refuse, and sometimes I will lose face to the leader in front of many people. Although I am not treated differently at work because I am still devoted to my work and have strong working ability, I still feel that the leader will not have any intersection with me in private, and other colleagues in the department are with the leader. Some information exchange between them, including resource sharing afterwards, is beyond my power.
Later, I gradually understood some truth about getting along in the workplace and how stupid my previous practice was. Because in the workplace, a person you think may never intersect again. Maybe when he becomes your leader, he may also bring you good or bad influence.
Later, I got along with people in the company and got along very well. Colleagues will actively help if they need work. At that time, a colleague from other departments often asked me to help him write some copywriting. In fact, I was very reluctant to write at that time, but I helped him several times because I didn't think it was necessary to refuse. Unexpectedly, after the company's departmental structure was adjusted, I became his subordinate. Think about how I would get along in a department if I turned him down directly before.
And in the process of getting along with him, he has been full of praise for my writing. If I hadn't been impressed by my previous contact, I wouldn't have gotten along so well after becoming a department colleague. Then I transferred to other departments and finally left.
As soon as he knew I was leaving, he called me and asked me if I wanted to work in his friend's company, saying that there was a suitable job introduction. Later, I went to work in other places for several years, and he also had related jobs. The first thing that came to my mind was me, hoping to recommend me a good job. Although I have never accepted his recommendation, I am still grateful. At the same time, the way to get along with the workplace is more profound.
Because you don't know when a colleague who has never done anything before may become your superior, you should always show your patience and professionalism, so that others will think of you when there are related job opportunities in the future. Otherwise, you think you won't ask others for help at work, and you will always start fighting. In this way, it will be awkward at that time, because you really ask others to do something.