Five practical skills of love, marriage and emotional communication;
0 1. Listen to him first, then let him listen to himself.
In marriage, we can see many silent partners. In the process of consultation, I found that this result is usually because the silent party was defeated in the language struggle, so I adopted the strategy of not communicating with each other. So, don't be too eager to communicate, lest your speech turn into a hurricane and ruin everything in front of you.
02. Love is not right or wrong.
Many couples, once they have a quarrel, will argue about right and wrong and win or lose. There is no winner in the process of falling in love and quarreling! In the process of winning or losing, in fact, everyone lost. Because I forgot the purpose of the initial communication, I failed to achieve the expected communication effect. And many things in life are unsolvable, and there is no right or wrong. Therefore, in the case of disagreement, it is much better to say a few sweet words to your partner and think of a win-win solution than to argue endlessly about right and wrong and win or lose. Family is not a court, and husband and wife are not lawyers and judges.
03. Try to avoid expressing negative emotions.
When you feel sad and depressed, please stop for a moment. If possible, wait for yourself to calm down. Let calm rather than excited emotions dominate the situation, so that you will always be the master of your inner world. When you are calm, you can convey your true thoughts, even if it is hidden under temporary depression. In this way, even if you are still complaining, your partner can still feel that you are saying, "I really love you."
04. Learn to speak with your eyes.
The eyes are the windows to the soul. Scientific research shows that families who look at 15 minutes a day have a 70% higher sense of happiness than families who don't make eye contact. Make eye contact a part of communication language. Emit energy through derivation, which is of course the energy you want to convey. Tell your eyes that you need it to get involved and express all your positive feelings.
05. Lose your temper slowly and forgive quickly.
Everyone in our family has their own towel. One day, I found my towel missing. I am very, very angry, because only my husband has no habit of using his own towel. I'm furious. I'm furious Only after the storm did we know that he had washed all our towels. I regret it. If I could lose my temper slowly and find out the truth, it wouldn't be like this. Fortunately, I took the initiative and apologized as soon as I found out. This matter is also a thing of the past.