Method 1: Make new friends.
1, talk to other children around. Say hello when you meet and let others know that you want to be friends with them. Look into each other's eyes and say hello with a smile. If you know the other person's name, you can say "Hello, _ _" and make it clear so that the other person can hear you clearly.
If you are shy, you can practice with your family.
When you meet each other in the corridor again, you must smile and say hello. You should be as friendly as possible.
2. Say something complimentary. Compliments show that you are a kind girl and are willing to make friends with others. Pay attention to the students at school and try to find some advantages in them. Then you can praise them according to their merits. Be concise when praising, such as "your hair is really beautiful."
"I like your shirt. It really suits you. "
"You did really well in this exam."
After the compliment, you can also ask a question to open the topic. For example, "I like your shirt. Where did you buy it? "
3. Start a dialogue. Greeting or praising each other is a good way to talk. When you talk to others, you should tell them your likes and dislikes. If the other person asks a question, you should answer it first and then ask the other person a question. Don't talk there alone. It's also important to talk about yourself. Friendship is two-sided.
When the other person is talking, listen carefully and don't interrupt them. Don't talk until they finish.
4. Be friendly to your classmates. Do something good for others and let them know that you like them. It doesn't matter even if it's just a small thing. For example, borrow a pencil or a piece of paper, or help someone when they have to move a lot of things, or share candy or other desserts at lunch. Don't give you money or anything special. The only reason why you don't want the other person to make friends with you is to covet your gift.
5. Find people who share your interests. Only with similarities can the friendship between two people grow and develop. * * * The same hobbies can deepen the friendship between your. What are you interested in? Music, TV programs, movies, art, sports or something else? Observe your classmates and see if there are people with similar interests. Do they wear shirts with movie characters or bands printed on them? Can you tell their interests from the folders they use?
Ask questions and see what they like. For example, you can ask, "Hey, have you seen _ _? It's beautiful! " Or "Do you like _ _?"
Don't pretend to like something just to make friends with someone. If you want to make good friends, you should be honest and show your true self.
If you are shy and notice that another girl is not sociable, then another girl may be the right person to make friends. You can clearly know each other's feelings, which may be impossible for a popular school flower.
If you take part in the same extracurricular activities, then you can be sure that you and your partner have at least one hobby.
6. Invite each other out to play. When you find people with similar interests, ask them if they would like to come to your home. You can also suggest an activity that two people can participate in together. Being alone with each other is the key to building friendship. If the other person comes to your home, think of some activities that you two can do together. Choose one that you both like. When the other person is around you, you should make her happy as much as possible.
Activities you can suggest include cycling, manicure, watching movies at home or in the cinema, or baking cookies.
If you really can't figure out what to do, ask your parents and ask them to help you think of some good ideas.
Method 2: Turn friends into friends.
1, exchange phone numbers. Ask a friend if he has a mobile phone and what the number is. Send her a message on the first day to see how she reacts. If she replies to the message and asks questions, it means that she may be willing to be friends with you. If she doesn't reply to the message or the reply is brief, then she may not have the intention of making friends. If you are shy and nervous when you meet, then sending messages is still a good way to speak. You can get to know each other, so you won't be so nervous when you talk to her face to face.
If you send her a message and she never answers, then don't send it again. Wait a minute and see if she will send you a message on her own initiative.
Don't always take the initiative to speak.
2. Be patient. It takes time to become a good friend from a friend. You must know each other very well and let them know about you. It may take several months for you to become good friends. Some friends can't be your good friends. There is nothing wrong with being ordinary friends.
Over time, you should be able to judge whether the other person also wants to be your good friend. They will spend time and energy to manage your friendship.
Expert tips
LCSW· Claire Heston
Certified social worker Klare Heston is a certified independent clinical social worker in Cleveland, Ohio, USA. Klare has rich experience in academic consultation and clinical supervision, and obtained a master's degree in social work in virginia commonwealth university from 65438 to 0983. She also holds a two-year postgraduate certificate from Gestalt College in Cleveland and a certificate in family therapy, supervision, mediation and trauma recovery and treatment (EMDR).
LCSW· Claire Heston
Registered social worker
It takes time and effort to build a deep friendship. Klare Heston, a clinical social worker, explained, "It takes time to become good friends, and it can't be done overnight. Trust and familiarity are essential. Start with speaking and listening. Highlight your common or complementary interests. Don't be jealous of her other friends, be humble. "
3. Build trust. The best friend is someone you can trust. You must also prove to each other that you are trustworthy. Don't talk about your friends behind their backs. If a friend tells you a secret, don't let it out to others. If you are worried about what your friends tell you, confess your worries to your friends and suggest that you talk to trusted adults together.
If you have an argument with a friend, solve the problem together and don't tell anyone.
4. Try new activities together. Participating in new activities with other people will establish a connection between you. If none of you have tried this activity before, the effect will be better. In this way, you may be able to create special memories that only belong to each other.
5, often with friends. If you meet your friends too few times, it will be difficult for your's friendship to go further. The frequency in * * * depends on your schedule. Try to make a plan face to face with your friends. When proposing, don't force each other, and don't be overbearing. If a friend is hesitant to make a plan to meet in the future, then withdraw his proposal.
Tell each other that you are happy to be friends with each other and you can't wait to go out with them.
After going out to play, you can also send messages to each other and say, "I had a good time today." Hope to be with you again as soon as possible! "
6. Pay attention to the similarities in your. People who can be your good friends by group usually have something in common with you. You can talk about what you like and what you don't like, but you must spend more time on what you both like. If you share the same jokes, or have similar tastes in music and movies, you will have a greater chance to become good friends. You may feel that the other person has some unsatisfactory places, but you must pay attention to her advantages and happy time with her.
Remember, near Zhu Zhechi, near Mexico is black. Choose good friends wisely.
Method 3: Make the right choice.
1, know when to pull away. You may want to be good friends with someone, but they are not sincere. This may hurt your feelings, but you should tell yourself that the other person is not the right person. Unfortunately, some people may not tell you directly and don't want to be good friends with you. Pay attention to their behavior. If you find any of the following situations, you may need to find someone else to be your friend candidate: the other person makes excuses or always says that he is too busy to go out with you.
The other party never takes the initiative to call or send you a message, or always waits for a long time to reply to you.
You are always the one who starts the conversation.
The other party doesn't want to be with you on weekends and after school.
Pay attention to how she treats others. If your friend likes to lie, gossip or be mean to others, then she may not be your good friend. Pay attention to how she treats other friends and interacts with them. Will she speak ill of them behind their backs? Does she like to direct others? The way a friend treats others may be the way she treats you.
Since you want to find a good friend, you must stay away from girls who like to gossip and reveal other people's privacy. What you need is a good friend you can trust.
3. After going back and forth for a period of time, slowly reveal your personal information. The development of friendship takes time. Don't reveal too much personal information when you first become friends. Make sure the other person is trustworthy. When you are with new friends, you will only talk about superficial topics, such as study, music or your favorite team.
Don't talk about your troubles or family problems too early. Wait a while to get to know each other before you speak.
If friends start to reveal more personal information to you, it means that you can share similar information.
Start a conversation and see if she responds. If her silence is to correct or change the subject, then you'd better stop here.
Tip: Don't be too clingy or too enthusiastic, so as not to scare the other person or bore her.
You must get to know each other before you can get close to each other. She may not be the right friend.
If you want to avoid awkward silence, then sending messages is a good way to chat. You have enough time to reply or come up with some humorous words.
If she avoids you, calm down before you try.
If she has other friends, talk to them and get to know them.
Be confident, don't change yourself for her sake, appear in front of each other with a true face, and make sure that she likes the real you.
If she does something that makes you uncomfortable, such as being mean to someone, stop dating and find a new friend.
If no one else is suitable, keep looking. Someone must be looking for a friend like you. You just need to meet each other.
If friends play with others, don't be sad. Make friends with them, or make new friends and participate in new activities!