If Xiao San knocks on the door for the first time, the original wife will feel inferior and cannot successfully teach Xiao San a lesson.
This will encourage discrimination against San Xiao, and San Xiao will no longer take you seriously, so in the future, you will be provoked by San Xiao.
Therefore, whether it is a mistress coming to the door or going to find a mistress, the momentum is very important and you need to stabilize it.
Just like a case I handled before, Ms. Hu is a rich girl and is now a university professor.
Her husband is the son of a business partner, and now he has taken over his own business, doing well.
But the derailed mistress is just an ordinary factory worker with no education and no ability. The only advantage is that she is young and beautiful.
Don't underestimate this advantage, it is the most direct weapon for women to men, and no one doesn't like beautiful women.
As a result, this mistress successfully intervened in Ms. Hu's family with her beauty and became pregnant quickly in less than half a year.
The purpose of grade three is obvious. By being a mistress, I can get rid of my present life and marry into a "rich family".
So, as soon as I came out the next month, I held the illegitimate child who was still in infancy and directly hit Ms. Hu's door.
Ms. Hu knew that her husband was cheating on her, and she had made trouble once before, thinking it was broken. After all, San Xiao is inferior to herself in every respect.
A cheating man will definitely not divorce himself for an empty and beautiful mistress and cut off the help of his mother's family.
Therefore, looking at Xiaosan standing in front of her house with an illegitimate child, Ms. Hu is not calm.
Directly pushed Ms. Hu into the door, holding the child in her arms and saying to herself, this is the home of their mother and son in the future.
Ms. Hu was furious with the mistress and lost her mind. She once pulled mistress away and tried to take her out of the house.
Still clamoring to tell Xiao San to let her die, and she will never enter this house in her life.
San Xiao was pushed out of the door, but stood at the door looking at the crazy Ms. Hu. Sooner or later, I will bring my son in, and you can't stop me.
After Xiao San left, Ms. Hu and her husband had a big fight. Although her husband promised to meet mistress,
But in this case, the derailed man also said before, not only did he not score, but he also had an illegitimate child with Xiaosan. Ms. Hu doesn't believe it at all.
The result is indeed like this. San Xiao knew that Ms. Hu was quarreling with the derailed man, so she called Ms. Hu to mock her.
It is said that she raised a man by her powerful family. If she leaves home, she is nothing, and sooner or later she will be kicked out.
Ms. Hu was hit hard by Xiao San's remarks. She complained to her friends, but they couldn't persuade her, so she was recommended to come to Lanfang for consultation.
Many people may wonder why a charming girl like Ms. Hu was beaten by a useless mistress.
In fact, the reason is very simple, because she is a charming girl from heaven and has never suffered any setbacks.
On the contrary, they can't stand setbacks, and many former partners will look at the young and beautiful, menacing mistress and have a certain inferiority complex.
Just like when Ms. Hu held talks, she also talked about her psychology in this regard.
Ms. Hu is nearly twenty years older than her junior. Although Ms. Hu is a temperament beauty,
But the age gap of twenty years old still makes her feel that she really doesn't have the advantage of San Xiao in this respect.
And she thinks, as Xiao San said, she relies on her strong family to keep the derailed man from getting divorced.
I can keep my marriage not because of myself, but because of my other conditions.
Ms. Hu's psychology is caused by Xiao San's arrogant words and deeds of holding an illegitimate child to the door for the first time.
Therefore, the blue side said at the beginning of the article that in the face of such a situation, wives must be able to stand firm and not be overwhelmed by the mistress.
Just like Ms. Hu who was crushed at the beginning, she has been suppressed, unable to fight back, and even has misunderstandings of self-doubt.
Because Ms. Hu's situation at that time was not suitable for directly separating the third grade, I wanted to help Ms. Hu with psychological counseling.
Because it is the most important thing to separate the third party and match my determination and will.
If the original match doesn't start, and he feels that he can't beat the mistress, then basically the final result will also lose.
Therefore, after receiving Ms. Hu's consultation, Lan Fang immediately helped her analyze her situation, helped her re-establish information and helped her out of the misunderstanding.
Here, I also give some psychological counseling ideas to all those who have entered the misunderstanding of "being inferior to mistresses".
For example, jump out of one's inherent role and objectively list and compare the advantages of oneself and San Xiao.
Just like Ms. Hu, I asked Ms. Hu to write down the advantages she felt and the advantages of mistress on paper.
The strength of the family, my work situation, and the emotional foundation of the derailed man are compared one by one.
Finally, Ms. Hu found that she was really just young and beautiful.
Next, I helped Ms. Hu enhance her self-confidence. After Ms. Hu stabilized her mood,
I asked her to invite Xiao San to the French restaurant where Ms. Hu often goes to negotiate.
In order to be courageous, Ms. Hu also brought friends who recommended her to consult and dressed up carefully. San Xiao obviously dressed up.
But San Xiao's dress is obviously not on the same level as Ms. Hu's, and Ms. Hu and her friends order in French.
San Xiao listened blankly, trying to pretend not to panic. When ordering, she was even more flustered and didn't know what to say, which made Ms. Hu feel ridiculous.
Ms. Hu was not too embarrassed for Xiaosan, but kindly helped Xiaosan order a meal. Ms. Hu and Xiao San had a brief chat and began to eat gracefully.
On the other hand, Xiao San is arrogant at Ms. Hu's house. This meal is very quiet. Ms. Hu asked her and answered, but she dared not speak without asking.
Eating silently with his head down, listening to Ms. Hu and her friends chatting about the business of the two families and the gathering of ladies in the business field.
When Ms. Hu meets Xiao San, she will tell me that Xiao San finally can't wait to escape from that restaurant. Her depressed appearance made her feel comfortable.
She said that now I feel that Xiaosan is completely different from her. He is confident to separate mistress and knows how to attack mistress.
Later, under the guidance of Lan Fang, Mr. Hu handled it with ease and felt that his youth and beauty would bring her into the rich family.
Ms. Hu's dream was shattered. Ms. Hu let Xiao San meet Xiao San, a friend of an derailed man.
Show her that rich people who like cheating men are surrounded by young and beautiful women like her.
Moreover, these beautiful women are not only younger and more beautiful than Xiao San, but also better than Xiao San in all aspects, so it is impossible to succeed in the upper position.
Show San Xiao how dependent the cheating man is on his wife. Her family can not only help cheating men,
Ms. Hu herself can also help her husband in her career and crack down on a series of words and deeds of mistress.
Finally, Xiao San knows that she can't be in the upper position, and she is afraid that she will lose her young and beautiful advantage in a few years.
So I took the initiative to tell Ms. Hu to come with me, but I wanted money, not much. Blue asked Ms. Hu and Xiaosan to borrow money.
And promised to give San Xiao some support every month, but if San Xiao reappeared, he would exchange the loan with San Xiao for money.
As for Ms. Hu's husband, the object of derailment cannot be easily let go.
Finally, talk about the focus of this article. What should I do if the illegitimate child of mistress comes to the door?
You must be able to hold steady, show your momentum as the hostess of this family, and suppress mistress from the beginning.
In addition, why did Xiao San dare to hit the original door? What is the absolute advantage of Xiao San's fearlessness?
No, in fact, many mistresses dare to knock on the door not because they are confident, but because they are barefoot and not afraid to wear shoes.
Because there is no dependence, I have to fight for a way out for myself. If the original match is shocked by such momentum, it will be at a disadvantage.
At the end of the article, Blue Party gives you some suggestions. Don't despise any mistress. From the moment you fall in love with your opponent, you lose.
In addition, don't despise mistress and yourself, but learn to analyze their objective situation.
If you are good at using your own advantages and attacking San Xiao's weaknesses, you can successfully isolate San Xiao.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional tutor who tells the truth and does practical things.