On the 7th of this month, I joined the 8th Tang Xiaoxiao Simple and Efficient Writing Group.
Before I joined this group, I had been writing on the official WeChat account for several months, but my writing had just begun. However, the attention of these two platforms is very low.
I amused myself, and few people noticed.
Lonely and desolate.
If I hadn't signed up for the writing group course and had an expectation of external support, I might have given up long ago.
However, expectations have not failed.
After joining the group, the number of members increased rapidly, and soon broke through the 200 mark, reaching 300.
When I first joined the group, I found that many members showed their official WeChat account cards and registered personal links.
Everyone started clicking on each other's attention.
This scene opened my eyes.
I also forwarded my business card and link immediately, and the result was immediately surrounded by people's eyes.
On the 7th, my number and followers increased several times.
I feel very excited.
I will never forget that feeling.
It suddenly occurred to me that I was so eager for attention!
Looking at each other, I kept clicking on every business card and link forwarded to the group.
In this way, in the upsurge of mutual concern, in the interaction with dozens of hundreds of students, a brand-new world is displayed in front of my eyes!
Then, I began to think about a problem-
People, why need to be concerned?
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I found that in today's internet age, as long as you are willing to take the initiative to take a step forward, you can immediately connect with the world, and at the same time, you have the opportunity to be concerned by the world!
I further found that the so-called Internet is not only a platform to enjoy a large amount of information, but also a channel for mutual concern.
Let heart and heart pay attention to each other, and many new media platforms are doing this thing that benefits the public.
There is an official WeChat account that I have been paying attention to for a long time, called Yin Qing's appointment. This is the phone number of Yin Qing, a former radio anchor, who is now a psychological counselor and a media person. Behind this number is a team called Heart Network.
Heart-to-heart vividly summarizes the goals they are pursuing.
The program "Yin Qing's Covenant", which is pushed on time at 8 o'clock every night, spares no effort to connect people's hearts in various forms such as text, audio and video.
From the perspectives of gender, family, society and ethics. She used the platform to comfort and help the public's emotional confusion and psychological needs.
People's spiritual demands and needs have been fully concerned here.
It can be seen from people's feedback in the program that enough attention has made more and more people regain their mental health.
For example, there is an autistic woman who only wears black clothes and wraps herself up. After counseling by psychologists, she walked out of her inner shadow, dressed in red and green in the sun and lived happily.
Another example is the girl who is in love with Ma Baonan. In the program, she discovered the essence of this man, made a decisive choice and left the abyss of pain and entanglement.
And so on.
The warm and considerate brand image of "Yin Qing" is more and more popular.
Obviously, being concerned is the need of people's mental health.
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In fact, it is not only adults who need to be concerned, but also children.
I once mentioned the situation of my son in an article. Just after the winter vacation, four classes in senior high school in their school suddenly transferred a dozen students each to form a class. 5.
Why are you doing this?
Because there are more than 70 students in each class in Senior One, the biggest problem is that the teacher has limited energy and it is difficult to pay attention to the details of each child's growth.
When the number of students in each class remains above 50, the teacher's attention can be dispersed to almost every student.
What are the advantages of students being paid enough attention by teachers?
It is not only as simple as improving academic performance, but also the need to prevent all kinds of accidents and even vicious incidents.
Like school violence.
It is reported that something happened in a primary school campus: a boy was found to have misplaced his gender role and identity, and only played with girls in the whole primary school stage! After finding out the reason, people were all shocked and sighed. It turns out that this boy has been very close to a girl since junior year. The boy is thin and the girl is strong. Girls forbid him to play with boys, often punching, kicking and threatening violence. Because there were too many students in the class, the teacher didn't pay attention until the third year of high school. During this period, they were in the same class, and the boys began to have all kinds of female behavior characteristics, such as whispering, wriggling, wearing fancy clothes and so on. The problem is finally exposed!
Students who lack enough attention from teachers will inevitably have various problems in their growth.
In fact, not only schools, but also families are no exception. The only child attracts more attention, but it is difficult to talk about families with many children. Now the second child is open, the younger one is born, and the older one is naturally reduced.
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When it comes to gender relations, whether men and women pay enough attention to each other often determines the quality of marriage and love.
In love, the basis for judging whether lovers are reliable is often the degree of mutual concern.
In our writing group, there is a little sister who is in love. Her boyfriend is very concerned about her and greets her every morning and evening, asking questions. In the past Valentine's Day, she sent jewelry, sent WeChat red envelopes, accompanied movies, and so on, which deeply touched our youth.
As for married life, take celebrities as an example. It is said that Xie cheated because he turned his attention to the fetus during pregnancy and didn't care about his needs. He lacks the feeling of being cared for, so he can't resist the temptation of the outside world. Chen Sicheng's infidelity is probably related to Tong Liya's lack of attention to her.
Shu Qi got the long-term attention of Feng Delun, and their love finally blossomed.
As for Li Bingbing, she finally got the attention of her close little boyfriend, fell in love quickly, and was finally taken away.
In addition, the extramarital affairs of celebrities such as Cecilia Cheung and Han Han may be related to the lack of attention of marriage partners.
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And, of course, the workplace.
After the Spring Festival, several people left my company. As far as I know, almost all of them are caused by many problems in work or life, but they have not been paid attention to by the leaders, and they have not tried to solve them for a long time, and finally they can't bear it.
A close colleague of mine confided to me before leaving his job: How many times have I applied for a job nearby? As a result, as you know, I have been away from home for several years and I still haven't solved it. ......
Others are eventually promoted, and they can usually observe the close attention and frequent guidance of the leaders, such as often eating and drinking together and chatting.
The degree of attention often determines a person's pride or frustration, persistence or departure in the workplace.
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From the perspective of the whole society, we will find that those unacceptable news events are often triggered by a group of people who are eager for attention.
In February 2005, Zhou Feng, a 0/7-year-old boy from Guangzhou/Kloc, tried to commit suicide by swallowing sleeping pills on the spot in order to attract the attention of idols.
June 2008 +2008 10, a female fan knelt down at the signing ceremony of Korean star An Qixuan to attract her attention.
Why are the above two groupies so crazy that they are not qualified? Undoubtedly, it is related to the lack of attention in the usual growth environment, and of course it is also related to the lack of attention and satisfaction of one's own inner needs.
Social activities like this often remind us of the importance of getting everyone's full attention.
People, why need to be concerned?
Because timely and sufficient attention is love.
Just like fish need water and birds need sky, people need love to supply psychological nutrients, maintain the breathing of the soul and ensure the vitality of the spirit.
People, who don't need to live healthily and happily in the warm and kind eyes of others?