I fell in love with my counselor and became attached to her. What should I do?

But for a woman like you, I am speechless. If you can't stand it, your current husband can choose to divorce. If you can stand it, you should have a good life with him. You think you got back at someone else. But you're getting back at yourself. Have you ever made a mistake? Do you feel more burdened? If you think your sex life is unhappy without that man. I can only say that you have a problem. Anyone who leaves in the world can live. What's more, a man you don't love at all is used by you like a machine? You think you are unhappy, which only shows that you are not willing to give up the good days of both sides. If you think you did something wrong. I hope you can make it up to me. If you go on like this. I don't think people will accept you. The sky will accept you. Finally, I hope to have a happy and relaxed home and a simple and normal life. I wish you happiness. Follow-up: Thank you for your answer! You are absolutely right. I am not a good woman. I'm really getting back at myself. It's really hard. I'm not afraid of what others say about me. I don't regard him as a machine, nor do I use him. We are all people who enjoy sex. But I didn't expect that I couldn't find happiness in sex without him. If there is something really wrong with my psychology, can you specify what it is? Answer: I think maybe you can't get warm at home. Your husband can't give you the love and care you want. Maybe your husband's method in bed is not good enough. You're only with this man for revenge. But when you feel very exciting. So you think you are very useful. You know that. Both men and women like stolen things. This will feel very exciting. This feeling is not only physical, but also psychological. Besides, this man enjoys his role in bed far more than your husband. For example, he is good at "serving" you. Tease you where you are comfortable. He is very experienced. Your husband may not have that much experience. Besides, like I said, the stolen things are beautiful. That's why you enjoy the excitement of having both a husband and a sexual partner. There is one more thing you need to know. Women and men are different animals. Men can sleep with more women they don't love. And it is possible for a woman to sleep with a man who doesn't like sleeping with him in the first place. But as time goes on. She'll feel something. Please pay attention to what I say. There is affection, but no love. What's the difference between them? Make a metaphor. You have a dog. He's dead. You will be very sad. This is because you have feelings for him. But you won't have love. See what I mean? You may suspect that you are in love with him now. So I'm confused. I don't think so. You just rely on this life. I think you are helpless to your husband now. Lost confidence in him. He can't give you the warmth you want. I suggest you have a good talk with your husband. Have a good life with him. And the dependent partner you mentioned will forget him after a long time. It's like. You've accepted his existence for a long time. And it's one thing to forget him for a long time without him. Follow-up: Say thank you again! Your analysis is right, as if it had hit my heart. Especially when you have feelings instead of love, and you doubt whether you are in love with him, you are confused. That's right. Time will dilute everything, I believe. But there was a rift between my husband and me, and we separated. I have a physiological need for sex, and suddenly I feel very sad that he is leaving the city. However, I can't find that kind of happiness in other men, and I don't want to look around and fall into other whirlpool. How can I solve the problem of sex? Answer: You gave me a difficult problem. Couples living in two places are the most troublesome. I said I support you to find another long-term sexual partner. It's not right either. After a long time, you will rely on this man again. Then follow the same old path. After he left you, you are so confused now. Until one day you will find out. I told you I wouldn't let you find it. I really understand you. Life without men around. So I can't help you solve this problem. But when you know that you and your husband are separated. When you find a sexual partner, it's really normal to rely on it. Women need men's pain. I also hope to have a man I can rely on. My husband is not around. This man is by your side, of course you will rely on him. So you must know by now that you don't love that sexual partner, but you are lonely. I'm sorry that I can't help you solve the separation problem between you and your husband. How do you solve the problem of sex? It says. I support you to find you, but I still can't find a real harbor for you to dock. They are just a passer-by of you. Worst of all, what you end up with is the fact that they left you again and again. And then you're alone. This will make you more and more insecure. And if I don't support you, I really understand a woman's life without a man Everyone is afraid of loneliness, both men and women. Besides, you little woman. I don't know the details of you and your husband. I can only say. If it were me. I will do everything possible to find a way to be with my husband. Even at the expense of something. Stay with him. What are you afraid of? Think about it. People are getting old. Who will be by your side? Parents will die one day. One day, a child will put on his wings and fly to the sky where he belongs. And when you are old-fashioned, only your man will accompany you. With you, I lost my tooth and my hair was gray. What if you sacrifice something? The most important thing now is. You look in the mirror. Ask yourself well. Do you still love your husband? Do some of his mistakes deserve your forgiveness, understanding and tolerance? If you still love him. You think he is still a kind person. But he once made a mistake that made you sad. Forget your past pain. As long as I can be happy with him in the future. But your answer is that if you don't love him anymore. Then I think you should be more sober. Tell yourself it's better to have a long pain than a short one. If this marriage really has nothing to miss, divorce it. The last thing I advocate is divorce. It is not easy for two people to be together. But if you get nothing for a long time. Short pain is better. To find your new happiness. One more thing to say. You find another man as a long-term partner. Be careful not to let the bad guys infect you with any diseases. This is a lifelong pain. Besides, you are affectionate and have a sexual partner outside. But some men obviously have a good home. Good wife. Such a good wife, she is still fooling around with you. Do you think this kind of man is worth being his sexual partner? Put it another way. You think you gave a man a chance to betray his wife. This man is not a good man. Does he deserve two good women who have feelings for him at the same time? I'm not you. I can't help you solve your relationship with your husband. Even your parents can't solve it. So you have to think clearly and face it yourself. If you still want to be with him. You should think about how to deal with his relationship now. How can I stay with him for a long time? Forget the unhappiness of the past. As long as the future is happy, it doesn't matter what happened before. The last thing I want to see from you is that I want you to meet your husband for the second time. Start over. He will cherish you too. Besides, if he doesn't cherish you, It's no use trying. Long pain is better than short pain. Mind your own business and think for yourself. I hope you won't get lost again. Follow-up: Say thank you again! You helped me seriously analyze my problem from my point of view, and you also helped me find a solution to this problem. To tell the truth, after several years, I tried my best to help him change his job, but he never tried to seize the opportunity and missed it again and again. He did something wrong to me, and now he seems to be much better. When he came home, he knew that he cared about me and my children. But I have a shadow in my heart, and the most important thing is that he can't be with me. In those sleepless nights, I was lonely and uneasy. We were divorced once, but because the children got back together, as soon as I saw my smart and beautiful daughter, I dared not think about divorce again. I don't want to hurt her. I once had the opportunity to develop a lover relationship with a married man who has status and I love him. Maybe it's because you are worried, maybe I don't want to be a person who destroys other people's families, maybe I love him too much, and I refused. I will feel better if I choose this sexual partner to take care of my children by myself. We are together because of each other's physiological needs. It's just that I didn't think I would be attached to his body. Especially when I heard that he was leaving the city, I was very scared and began to fidget. I don't know how to face my future life. Maybe everything I face is caused by my hesitation. There must be something hateful about the poor man. Thanks again! Maybe there is really no good way. I have to control myself and distract myself. A: After hearing what you said. I feel that your husband is a very irresponsible person. He didn't give full consideration to the family. What I want to tell you is. You transferred him several times. He didn't even want to seize the opportunity. Doesn't mean he doesn't work hard. Doesn't mean he doesn't have that ability. It means. He thinks it is good for him to stay in a different place. He is very satisfied. So he didn't want to come back at all. Think about it. If you were him. Think about this family. You really want to be with your husband. So will you try your best to get your job back? So there is only one reason. He enjoys his present life very much. Say it clearly. What he did there. Only he knows. He may like a free life. I can only say one ugly thing now. It's just strange that you chose the wrong person. They say that the most successful thing for a man is to have a career. The most successful thing for a woman is to marry the right man. It's as if you are not married to this lang now. It will bring you lifelong harm. For the children. I really don't want you to go through a divorce. But I don't think this man should be responsible for you. Maybe you are not responsible for your children either. My father has left me for many years. But I dare say the conscience of heaven and earth. He is a person in charge who can no longer be responsible. He left home for many years to give my mother and me a good life. Your husband didn't do it entirely for you. If it's really for you. He couldn't have agreed to divorce from the beginning. In the child's heart. No one in the world can take the place of parents. No matter how bad my father is. So I sympathize with your children and you. But a less responsible person. If it happens to me, I may not tolerate his continued influence on me. I can only give you one bad suggestion. If there is a good man. I'm talking about a good man who lets nature take its course. You didn't mean to find a sexual partner. You might as well consider living with him. But you must see clearly. Provided that he is not greedy for your money. Responsible. The kind that really loves you. Because you'll never find anyone like your husband again. So be sure to keep your eyes open and see clearly. I don't think this man has to be rich. Not necessarily important. I hope you find a kind person. Be honest. A man who really lives with you. Be nice to your daughter. Really. If you think you and your husband are unhappy. Instead of letting him accompany you for a lifetime and bring you pain. Why not give yourself a chance? Find another man who can give you happiness all your life. I think your daughter will understand you. What I said. When your husband let you down. Let's give him up. Give yourself a chance. Smile and flick: Thank you very much! Although I am a stranger, you make me feel the warmth of my family!