For women, every relationship is like an investment. Of course, the investment target is men. A woman who chooses the right man can give her a happy marriage for life, which shows that her "investment" is right; On the other hand, if you choose the wrong person, your marriage life will definitely be full of problems, and this "investment" will also end in failure.
In fact, if every woman can choose a man as seriously as she chooses a stock, I believe there will be no problem in this relationship. But in real life, too many women are not careful in choosing men. On the contrary, they are very casual.
In fact, this has something to do with the way women think. Most women are emotional animals and are used to treating emotional problems with emotional thinking. This has a drawback, that is, it is easy to fall into blind passivity and will not treat feelings rationally. It is easy to be deceived by men's feelings.
Just like many women who marry Phoenix Man, didn't they know Phoenix Man couldn't marry before they met Phoenix Man? I believe they know, but when they meet the Phoenix man they like, their rational thinking has been forgotten. That's why I blindly married Phoenix Man.
And a woman marrying a Phoenix man can be said to be the most failed "investment".
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Many women will be confused when they meet Phoenix Man. There is no denying that Phoenix Man has many advantages, such as strong ability, talent, progress, hard work and so on. These advantages will make women feel that Phoenix Man will be a responsible husband and will get a happy marriage if he marries himself.
But after marriage, with the long time together, the shortcomings of Phoenix Man will be exposed. At this time, most women can't stand it. But I'm married, and divorce is too expensive. At this time, women either choose to stop loss in time or choose to continue to be patient.
For marriage, neither way is very good. But very helpless.
When Li Chen saw her husband Jia Yu for what he really was, it was too late. At that time, she had been married to Jiayu for two years and was pregnant.
Li Chen's hindsight only made her suffer in the end. Now she feels that she is riding a tiger, and at that time she doesn't know what to do. Because she found that her husband, Yu Jia, was really a phoenix man, as people around her said.
Moreover, the purpose of this Phoenix man marrying himself is not simple. I'm here for my family's property.
-03-
Li Chen and Jia Yu are college classmates, and there is no intersection between them. At that time, Li Chen's grades were average, and he was very ordinary in his class. She looks average and the opposite sex is not very good. It can be said that people will be buried in the crowd
Jia Yu is the man of the hour in this department. He has excellent grades, is tall and handsome, and is very talented. He is the literary backbone of the department. At that time, many girls liked him, but for some reason, he never fell in love.
In fact, Li Chen likes Jia Yu very much, but she has some inferiority complex and is afraid to express her feelings. So I can only silently bury this love in my heart.
Until graduation, because Li Chen is a local, he joined a state-owned enterprise under the arrangement of his parents. Unfortunately, Jia Yu was also hired by this state-owned enterprise, and two people were assigned to the same company.
Jia Yu didn't notice his ugly classmates, while Li Chen's parents were middle-level cadres in state-owned enterprises, and Li Chen had many contacts in the company.
Because we are classmates, we often chat together. Chen Li also gradually learned that Jia Yu's family is actually very poor, with both parents being farmers and a younger brother and a younger sister studying.
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After being together for so long, Li Chen found himself more and more fond of Jiayu. And seems to have some interest in Li Chen, Lang is also interested in his concubines, and soon they will be together.
After being together, Jia Yu often asks Li Chen to talk to her parents about whether she can help improve herself. Li Chen did it naturally when he got home, and soon Jiayu was promoted. Two people are getting married.
In fact, Li Chen's parents are a little reluctant to marry their daughter to Jia Yu. Jiayu, after all, was born in a poor family, but Chen Li's insistence was overwhelming and he had to agree.
When two people got married, Jiayu had no money to buy a house or give a bride price. And Li Chen accepted, and took his house before marriage as the wedding room, so they got married.
Life is still calm after marriage. Chen Li loves Jiayu too much, so many things can be tolerated and willingly. Just like Jia Yu often asks her for money, saying that her relatives have something to use. Every time Chen Li gives it to him without hesitation. But most of the money went and never came back.
People around you advised Chen Li to leave some tips for Jiayu. After all, there is no man who often borrows money from his husband's family after marriage. This man either marries you for money or has ulterior motives. But Chen Li didn't believe it at all. She thinks that Jia Yu really loves herself, not as others say.
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After a year of marriage, Jia Yu took over his parents from his hometown. Li Chen didn't object to the idea of filial piety, but he was very filial to his in-laws.
However, Chen Li thought the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was too simple. She has a serious disagreement with her mother-in-law, and her living habits and consumption concepts are different. In order to save money, my mother-in-law often buys some expired products and stale vegetables in the supermarket. I ate several times and Chen Li threw up.
Li Chen advised her mother-in-law, but she didn't listen. But to Jiayu to complain that Chen Li despises himself. And Jia Yu also don't ask, don't scold Chen Li indiscriminately. Chen Li is very wronged.
And her mother-in-law often asks Li Chen to give her living expenses. Almost three thousand yuan a month. Li Chen didn't want to give it to her, but Jia Yu scolded her for being unfilial. The couple began to quarrel, and Li Chen was disappointed in Jia Yu for the first time.
Then Jia Yu's behavior became more and more excessive. His younger brother is getting married recently and wants to stay in the city. But the housing price in the city is too high to afford. I didn't expect Jia Yu to put his thoughts on Li Chen's parents.
Li Chen's parents have two suites, and that one has been rented out. Jia Yu is interested in this house. He wants to keep the house for himself.
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So, Jia Yu called Li Chen and said that he was discussing with her, but there was no doubt in his tone: "Don't your parents have a spare house? Just for my brother to get married. "
Li Chen certainly disagreed and refused: "That's my parents' house. I can't decide. "
Jia Yu even said, "We are all a family, so naturally we should give your house to my brother. Go home and tell your parents. "
Chen Li was completely disappointed. Jia Yu claimed his real estate so blatantly that he turned into a Phoenix man. Thought of here, Li Chen's heart collapsed. She never thought that she would fall in love with such a man.
The two were very unhappy because of this incident and once wanted to divorce. But Jia Yu doesn't want to divorce Li Chen, and now they are still entangled.
Here, I still want to advise female friends all over the world to be cautious when choosing a marriage partner, and to carefully understand a man's character and conduct, as well as the family environment. Think carefully before making a decision. Don't make mistakes on impulse. It's too late to regret.