Just thinking about it, my father said, "Why are you staring? Just water the flowers. "
"Dad, you said that if you plant a boyfriend in spring, you will get a great husband in autumn."
This is what Xiao Na told me vividly on the phone. After listening to her idea of having a boyfriend, I really think she is very open-minded and thoughtful. Besides being cute, I also appreciate her ideas. It is true that everything must have a plan and a beginning. Fate is often an expression of inner helplessness.
Since you want to plant and harvest, you must first see how to plant it, right? What do you need?
Seeds, soil, water, fertilizer, sunlight and flowerpots.
What does this correspond to?
I think in marriage and love, seeds are the goal, referring to the man to be found;
Soil, fertilizer, water and sunlight are the environment, atmosphere and conditions for seed growth. If we understand them metaphorically from the perspective of women, that is to say, whether women have material things or not.
Here, if a woman wants to solve the problem of marriage and love, the first thing to be solved is that she has material, and only material is suitable for the growth of seeds. The second is to find seeds? That's another story.
Material refers to women's self-awareness, interpersonal skills, mental health, expectations for marriage, preparation for marriage, appearance, etc. For example, this shape is a bit like a flowerpot. It is important to look good, but it is not the most important link.
Xiao Na and I said, let's make an evaluation first, see how you prepare, and then see what kind of good seeds can be planted in your pot, and whether this good seed can become your good husband in the end.
After professional testing and evaluation, Xiao Na and I will analyze the results together.
Let's talk about appearance first. Xiao Na can make up now, and now she can show the feminine side. The color of the clothes is a bit monotonous and can be adjusted. She also agrees that some colors are needed.
There are some shortcomings in self-cognition. She doesn't really understand her own advantages, which is also a common fault of many people. I helped her make an analysis, which is very important. If you don't know your own advantages and disadvantages, you don't know how to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses.
Dealing with people, as can be seen from the evaluation results, she is usually more self-centered and less considerate of others. This needs adjustment. This is the most important thing for two people to get along. Sometimes, many partners can't get along because of this link.
In this part of mental health, some negative energy information should be absorbed less and not too negative. Everyone likes sunny people.
Xiao Na's expectations of marriage are a little too high and unrealistic, and need to be adjusted and returned.
She has a good choice of wedding preparation and is willing to spend six months to eight months preparing.
I made a plan for her, and she approved it. Then I finished her plan step by step.
If you are a single woman who wants to get married, this is of course very important.
There are often some women who say that they want to end their singles when they come up, but when they ask, do they have plans? When do you want to end your single life? How do you want it to end? What are your strengths? At this time, it is a bit embarrassing. None of this is clear. I can only say that getting rid of it is a good wish, that's all.
By this year, I have been in the marriage and love industry for 16 years and met all kinds of single men and women.
For them, if they want to get married, just like doing anything well, they must first have strong ideas and desires. Even the law of attraction can only be completed if they have a strong idea in their hearts. But this idea must fall to the ground, otherwise, it is also an empty wish.
If you think time is very important, especially women's time is precious, you must take it seriously and prepare carefully. After reading so many celebrity gossips and love novels, you can only entertain yourself after dinner, which has nothing to do with your own happiness and is a little far from your warm life.
Some people will go to marriage agencies and make friends everywhere, but only find seeds, but there is no environment for growth. Do you think there will be a good harvest?
If you want to have a home, you'd better act early. You can't wait. If you want to "wait", you have to enrich yourself during this "wait" to make this result better.
Sister Tong Tong is a senior expert in marriage and love. Founder of Jiayuan VIP Department and Deyu Women's College, a women's growth institution, focuses on happiness in marriage and love 16, helping thousands of single men and women to enter a happy marriage, solving the marriage crisis of hundreds of families and training hundreds of professional marriage and love counselors. Praised by students as an expert in solving emotional problems.
Sister Tong Tong thinks that a happy marriage is the most worthwhile investment.
I'm Sister Tong Tong, and I care about marriage and happiness. Grow up with you and become the center of influence.