In modern marriage, a house and a car are indispensable. When dating, the woman's first concern is whether the man has a car or a house. If you don't have a house, she will hardly communicate with you next. This is not to say that women are becoming snobbish nowadays, but this is the reality.
If the man has no house, neither of them has a place to live after marriage, or they can only live with the parents of the man or the woman, which is unacceptable to many young people.
Perhaps, the man can rent a house as a wedding room, but the woman's parents probably won't agree to this marriage. They don't want their daughter's future to be spent in a small rental house. Moreover, renting a house and your own house give people different feelings at the psychological level. Renting a house will give you a feeling of wandering, and your own house is more of a warmth of home.
It is precisely because people just need it that house prices have been soaring everywhere. However, in order to get married, many parents have spent most of their lives preparing a wedding room for their sons. Parents' love is always selfless. They never expect their children to return, but only ask their children to live well. Therefore, many parents will not live in their son's house even if they go out to rent a house after selling all their houses for their children's house.
But many women's parents don't. Many parents even moved directly into the young couple's new house, which made the man's parents have an unbalanced idea: "I spent all my money to buy a house for my son to get married, and my in-laws didn't spend a penny to live in it. I am very wronged. "
After graduating from Chen Chao and Xiao Min University, they stayed in Hefei to work. Chen Chao is a small county in Ma 'anshan, with a well-off family. Xiao Min, on the other hand, comes from a small village in Jinzhai. His family is relatively difficult, but both of them are only children.
When Chen Chao took Mandy back to meet his parents, his parents were more enlightened and did not abandon Mandy's family. Because in their eyes, Xiao Min is the only child in the family, who needs the support of her parents at most, and will not cause too much pressure on Chen Chao's future. And they have prepared a sum of money for Chen Chao, enough for Chen Chao to buy a decent house locally.
However, after their parents met, Xiao Min's parents were dissatisfied with the house prepared by their family: "Your son and my daughter are both working in Hefu now, and they are developing well. Children all want to go to bigger cities for development. They will definitely not find a better job when they return to your county. Why not buy them a house in Hefei, so that they don't have to rent a house in Hefei! "
Hefei, as the capital of Anhui province, has developed rapidly in recent years, and house prices are also rising, which is several times higher than in previous years. Chen Chao's parents obviously don't have enough money to buy a house in their county to buy a house in Hefu, so they are silent in the face of the needs of their in-laws. Xiao Min's parents left a message: "Your family can either buy a house in Hefei or don't marry my daughter. She is the princess of my family and will be a great person in the future. How can she settle in your small county? "
When they got home, they remembered the happiness when Chen Chao and Xiao Min were together, and decided to chip in to buy Chen Chao a house in Hefei. Finally, they sold the house in their hometown and reluctantly bought a house for Chen Chao in Hefei. And considering my future grandchildren, I bought a house with three bedrooms and one living room.
After Xiao Min and Chen Chao's wedding, their parents plan to stay with Xiao Min for a while. Chen Chao's parents also expressed their understanding. After all, Xiao Min's parents raised their daughter for more than 20 years before they got married. Their parents must be unwilling to give up. They thought their in-laws would stay for a few days at most and then go back. However, Xiao Min's parents have lived for several months, and they have no intention of moving away. They even moved some things from home.
Only then did Chen Chao's parents know that her in-laws asked them to buy a house in Hefei so that they could move to Hefei. Looking at his rental house, Chen Chao's parents were furious and took the last train to Hefei.
When he arrived at Chen Chao's house, it was already evening. After work, Chen Chao and Xiao Min stayed at home, while Xiao Min's parents went out for a square dance. Despite Chen Chao's obstruction, he threw Mandy's parents' things out of the door. When Mandy's parents came back, Chen Chao's father was ready to fight. Fortunately, under the persuasion of Mandy and Chen Chao, neither side was injured. Finally, at the strict request of Chen Chao's father, Xiao Min's parents agreed to move out of their house.
The original harmonious in-laws relationship also broke down because of this incident. In fact, when we analyze this matter, it is not difficult to see that Xiao Min's parents did go a little too far. Chen Chao's parents have met their requirements and set up a wedding room in Hefu, but they moved in by themselves, which led to the impulsive behavior of Chen Chao's parents.
In fact, there are many similar incidents in real life. Because the daughter is partial to the other parents, both parents are dissatisfied. But Dabai still hopes that parents can adjust their mentality. Children and grandchildren have their own blessings. As parents, we should trust and be considerate of our children. They must love you, and it is understandable to be partial to your in-laws once in a while. You don't need to get angry about these little things. It's not good for their marriage, and it's even worse for your health.
Marriage is the product of the combination of two families. It is rare for two unrelated families to intersect because of their children's marriage. In the face of the contradiction between the two families, we should sit together and negotiate to solve it, and don't let the contradiction between us affect the marriage of our children.