2) Provide the parties with a complete and unreserved opportunity to talk. In many cases, people close to you are not good people to talk to. On the contrary, a stranger who may never see you again, or a professional consultant who has the obligation to keep the privacy of the consultant confidential, can help individuals open their hearts and find the key to the problem from the detailed description;
3) Provide a simple but practical method. Although a consultation can't completely solve the problem, it will help and alleviate it. For example, a flattering friend once turned to a counselor for help, because he was too concerned about the feelings of people around him, so when people around him were unhappy, he was even more unhappy. The counselor simply said, "Remember that this is someone else's emotion after all, and others are responsible for themselves, not you." . You can constantly remind yourself of this in your mind and slowly get rid of worrying about others.
But from these points of view, what psychological counseling can do is much more useful than falling into useless thinking and feeling sorry for yourself.
Many people are full of curiosity and doubt about what will happen in the consultation before they walk into the consultation room. What exactly is psychological counseling like? Just chatting with people or asking questions?
In fact, it is really a process of "willing and wanting to receive psychological counseling to real action". This is not just an appointment call or an appointment visit. In fact, this process requires great courage and opportunity.
After going through some seemingly fruitless consultation processes, I realized how important these processes are. However, you may still be worried that the counselor will not help you enough, understand you enough, be trustworthy enough and be safe enough.
Anxiety, temptation, doubt, relief ...
Maybe you really want the counselor to give you an accurate direction in life and tell you what to do now. But you will gradually find that the counselor will not give an answer, he just stays with you quietly.
You will be depressed and even angry, but you will eventually understand:
Honey, you can really make the best decision for yourself. You just need to know yourself better and have more courage.
I especially appreciate what a netizen nicknamed "Sisi Lee" said: If everyone's heart is a secret garden, then psychological counseling is like a journey of exploration and discovery in it. Counselors are guides, companions, and sometimes crutches when hiking.
In the view of psychological counselors, psychological counseling is chatting. What the counselor asks, the counselor answers. It's a kind of "unequal" chat, but it's completely different from the psychological counselor's point of view.
In the eyes of counselors, it is chatting, but in the eyes of counselors, it is more like doing problems. Get some valuable information through counselors' answers, and then verify them in the next inquiry, constantly changing and verifying their own ideas until they are close to the truth.
Then we can judge whether the psychological counselor is healthy and how to treat it.
Personally, I think it's not as simple as chatting. Nowadays, the pressure in this society is increasing: many people feel depressed and confused ... some people even hurt themselves, get injured or even die because of mental illness. Therefore, psychologists appeal that when a person feels depressed, he should talk to someone. Psychologists will guide patients according to their psychological status, environment and various potential factors. Let patients get out of trouble; Get out of the haze in my heart.
Psychologists not only talk to you, but also listen to your demands. Only when the patient is in front of the doctor can he completely open his heart. How many people can openly expose their unknown side without any precautions? When a person inexplicably feels that he is caught in obsessive-compulsive disorder; Or feel that the whole person can't find an exit in the dark. At this time, how much he needs a beam of light to enter his heart: a psychologist's timely guidance can save many unimaginable consequences. Psychologists should not only have professional knowledge, but also have a loving heart. Doctors who know love and kindness will narrow the distance between people and let go of their bad feelings. So it's not just talking.
I'm not a psychiatrist or a patient. But people always have their own confusion and helplessness, so people need friends. At this time, it is also good to find a friend to chat, talk heart to heart and get close to nature. Go out for a walk, sing a song and shout. Let your emotions vent. Wouldn't it be nice to have a friend of a psychiatrist around? At least you're not just chatting, I believe you and I both understand!
Chatting is only part of it, most of it is not.