What if the child doesn't talk?

There are usually the following possibilities for children not to take the initiative to speak and participate in activities: 1. What children say is often refuted or ridiculed by parents, which reduces children's initiative and self-confidence. In order to protect themselves, children are reluctant to take the initiative to speak. 2. What children say often fails to attract parents' attention and attention, resulting in children's loss and inferiority complex. Of course, such a child is not willing to take the initiative to speak. 3. Children's ordinary joys and sorrows often can't cause the "chain reaction" of parents, which leads to the decline of children's self-awareness and personality charm. Since you don't care about me, why should I care about you? If you don't care about the environment, you naturally don't want to take the initiative to speak. In view of the above possibilities, I suggest you try it like this: 1. First of all, parents should understand that this phenomenon of children is caused by themselves. You can't blame the children, you can only review yourself. 2. Mentally, parents should understand their children's pain and troubles in this phenomenon. You should know that children are lively by nature. When they "stuffy" themselves in the room, do they have fun by themselves? Or think about it? Or depressed and bored? Judging from your child's situation, he is active in thinking, able to set his own future and stand out from the crowd, which is by no means something that a depressed and bored child can do. You should be grateful. Consciously, parents should pay attention to their children's joys and sorrows like friends. What needs to be clearly pointed out here is: "Only when parents regard their children as conscious friends can they care about and understand their children's emotions in their parents' self-behavior, and such an equal relationship will be harmonious. But many parents "regard their children as friends" or "ask their children to regard their parents as friends" in language. As a result, the communication between them is not satisfactory. Because children will never treat their parents as friends. " Father is father and mother is mother ",which is an arithmetic phenomenon that has always existed and maintained in family relations." Only by adjusting their consciousness can parents enter their children's inner world, truly understand and understand their children, and even support and help them. As long as parents purposefully put down your "difference" (parents are high, children are low), all children's problems will be solved. 4. Usually at home, especially when eating, talk about things or topics that children care about, children like and children are good at. You know, humor is one of the most effective means to shorten the age, gender and generation gap. People who often laugh at, satirize and dig at others, but not many people have insincere friends. If you have this habit, please pay more attention to your words. Children can't leave you, but they will hate you and ignore you. 5. Pay attention to your child's words and deeds. No matter how busy you are, don't be indifferent to your children's demands and suggestions. When parents should attach importance to their children's demands and suggestions, there is usually only one reason, that is, for their children; But when parents don't pay attention to their children's demands and suggestions, there will be 9999 reasons. For example: busy work, high pressure, frequent business trips, grandma taking care of the children, why can't you put yourself in each other's shoes, why do you say this, and so on. In our research, we found that the most important function and result of parents' attention to their children's words and deeds is that parents' behavior will make their children confident. Therefore, parents must agree, affirm or imply their children's demands or suggestions, whether right or wrong. In this way, children will have a steady stream of thinking and endless arguments. At this time, children will not be unwilling to talk and participate in activities. 6. Special reminder, we must pay attention to this principle when talking to children: "Parents are willing to listen to their children; Parents and children listen to music. "If that's the case, then you won't have any worries. 7. You can do an online test with your child on the homepage of the website (), which can not only test your understanding of your child, but also help you know your child better. Finally, I'll teach you a way to remind yourself: record your conversation with your child in a notebook and clearly record "How many times did I talk to my child today?" "How many times did you laugh?" This record will make your frequency higher and higher. This method is very effective, you might as well give it a try.