1, is marriage for love?
Ordinary people may think it is, but it is not. If it is for love, then there is no need to get married.
what is love ? The so-called love is that you miss her so much and want to stay with her all the time, and she misses you so much and wants to stay with you all the time. You are together every day, married, and you are still together every day. If you are so clingy, why are you still married? Marriage does not guarantee the quality of love. On the contrary, marriage is considered as the grave of love.
Looking through the whole marriage law, there is not a word about love. Marriage law can be summed up in one word from beginning to end, that is, money. Under what circumstances, who should share how much money? This is the marriage law, so the essence of marriage is contract.
2. Don't expect love to restrict the other half.
The so-called love is just the physical attraction of pure hormones. The shelf life of love is only one year at most, or maybe only a few months. When he touches your hand and your heart doesn't fluctuate at all, the pure hormonal attraction between you is over.
If there is only love in your life, then the relationship between you is dangerous at this time. Before you got married, you thought life was piano, chess, painting, poetry and hops. After you get married, you find that life is full of rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.
Marriage is for happiness. Love works. It makes sense for mankind to eulogize thousands of years of love. If there is no love, both men and women will be careful, look at each other's advantages and disadvantages, and silently calculate the gains and losses. In this case, it is more difficult to get married than to reorganize a listed company, because there are so many variables that ordinary people simply don't know.
The unclear result is that we can't get married in the end, but love is different. Love can make people get carried away and make you care less. As long as the conditions are similar, get married as soon as you get dizzy, and you can't go back on your word when you sign the engagement. Love is the catalyst of marriage. If there is no love, people who get married will be extremely rare.
So we eulogize love, because love can make people dizzy.
3. Wedding vows
When you get married, the MC will say the following words: You are willing to marry someone, love her and be loyal to her, and you will always be with her no matter how rich, poor, young and old, * You are willing to marry someone, love him and be loyal to him, and you will always be with him no matter how rich, poor and young you are *
Maybe when you were young, you thought it was just a formality. But this is the essence of marriage. From the moment you get married, you will be together forever. Only death can separate you. Simply put, after you get married, you will be partners in the company. The two sides signed a contract, each holding 50% of the shares. In the future, you will share weal and woe.
When the company gets rich, it goes public. When the company goes bankrupt, so do you. This is marriage, no matter how rich, poor, young and old you are.
In essence, this is a constraint on the strong. People will grow, and their abilities and status will grow. No matter how well matched you are when you get married, after a few years, the status of many couples will be very different. He has climbed to the 30th floor and become the president of a listed company, while you are still on the 10 floor.
At this time, he met a girl on the 30th floor, who was willing to climb to the 3rd1building with him. If society doesn't restrict you, he will definitely eliminate you, because you can't keep up with his rhythm. One side is moving forward, while the other is standing still. If you don't restrict the strong, divorce is inevitable, but society will not allow you to re-match a very suitable partner every year.
If you are not carried away by love, how can human beings multiply and how can the country ensure the future GDP? But love only has a one-year shelf life. If you marry, love will go to the grave, but if you don't marry, love will still go to the grave. How many people who resolutely rush to new love for the so-called "true love" have a good end? Passion recedes, and most of them are chicken feathers.
We got married not for love, but for happiness. Because of the existence of marriage contract, we all regard our partners as our closest confidants. After the marriage, her gas tank was carried and his rags were mended. She doesn't have to worry about hooligans knocking at the door in the middle of the night, and he doesn't have to worry about dying in bed one day.
It's time for the people in your room to cook. There must be a reason why this sentence can be circulated for thousands of years. Men and women in the same boat, hand in hand, can get a happier life at a lower cost. This is marriage. The family is an economic unit. Marriage is the official saying, and the folk saying is to live. After you got married, you gave up a lot, but you also gained a lot.
Married, you can't hang colorful flags, but there will always be a red flag at home. When you get married, you have to go home and punch in every day, but every day someone at home will light up and wait for you.
When you get married, you will quarrel over trivial matters every day, but when you are sick in bed, someone will always bring you a cup of hot water. After marriage, the couple will inevitably have contradictions, because people who eat whole grains are doomed to be contaminated with fireworks and dust. We are all mortals, not perfect saints, and there are bound to be many shortcomings.
If you can recognize your own shortcomings and accept each other's imperfections, then you can have happiness through marriage. Love can't last forever, but marriage can. Do you think wedding vows are exaggerated? No, it's not exaggeration.
Haven't you seen the old couple holding hands in the park? Haven't you seen the poor couple who bring food to each other on the construction site? Haven't you seen the couple who take care of their wives day and night in the hospital? You must have seen it, because it is not uncommon.
They are long past the age of attracting each other with hormones, but they are still together. This is marriage. Love and marriage are only separated by a paper, but the real meaning is hell and heaven.