Psychological problems of children from divorced families. For children from divorced families, the departure of one parent will have many psychological effects and directly affect their confidence. Parents must not ignore it. Let's learn about the psychological problems of children from divorced families.
The psychological problem of children from divorced families is 1 1, which easily leads to a strong sense of inferiority, abandonment and resentment.
These negative emotions will definitely affect their communication activities with their peers, and ultimately affect their interpersonal communication and peer relationship, leading to a decline in their ability to get along with others and an increase in the difficulty of companionship.
In my years of teaching, I have found many cases in which children's emotions and feelings have changed greatly because of their parents' divorce.
During and after their parents' divorce, they are timid, withdrawn, irritable, extreme and distrustful. These behaviors and personalities directly affect their communication with classmates, teachers and friends around them.
2. They often lack confidence in life and study.
Most children from divorced families have different degrees of behavioral disorders.
Children living in single-parent families often lack better life education and study guidance because of family breakdown and incomplete family education. At the same time, because the broken family casts a shadow on their hearts, they lose confidence in life and study, and appear more abnormal behaviors, such as irritability. Have a strong opposition to one's father or mother; Because I can't feel the warmth of my family, I am easily influenced by bad behavior from outside, and my anti-social tendency and opposition are more serious.
Because of this, a considerable number of former top students, due to their parents' divorce, their attitude towards life and their study status have obviously declined, and even made friends with social undesirable elements and embarked on the road of crime.
3. They are prone to serious personality defects, and their personality formation and development are seriously affected.
In personality shaping, parents are children's first teachers, but divorced families bring incomplete personality influence and education to children, which will inevitably lead to the defects of children's acquired personality formation. Some divorced parents deal with the relationship with their children with the psychology of compensating their children or treating them as the burden of future life, which leads to various personality defects in the formation of their children's personality.
Their mental trauma lasts for a long time, so it's hard to recover.
Among the high school students I met, many children from divorced families had their parents divorced when they were in primary school. When I asked about their parents, they generally avoided talking about them and were unwilling to talk more about their parents and his or her family.
This phenomenon shows that the shadow of parents' divorce is still affecting their mental health and has become a permanent scar they don't want to uncover.
Psychological problems of children from divorced families. self-abased
Because they have been living in a complete family, facing the sudden breakdown of the family, children can't accept the reality in front of them and can't adapt to the environment without a father or mother. Children are not mature enough to understand their parents' lives, let alone their parents' difficulties. His young mind is fragile and sensitive, and he has no ability of self-adjustment. Once hit, he will be at a loss, at a loss.
Children are most likely to think of their past lives when they see their peers playing happily with their parents. It's not what it used to be. Their inner sadness and loss make them feel depressed and inferior. Children can't find their own happiness, and they can't see where their happiness is, so they refuse to be happy and are immersed in anxiety and sadness.
At the same time, children are the most sensitive at this time. Faced with the concern of peers and society, they will care too much and even misunderstand. Over time, they will leave the crowd and enter a self-enclosed and lonely space, which will lead to great obstacles in personality communication. In the long run, they will have mental illness.
Anxious
Anxiety about others is an index to examine the degree of premonition of difficulties and failures when contacting others. In the process of parents' divorce, children from single-parent families saw the mutual attacks between people, learned to bargain and learned to be hostile to each other. Therefore, they lack self-confidence in interpersonal communication, and it is easy for guardians to bring this emotion into the communication with children because of the lack of family. Children live in fear, spend a lot of time dealing with family relationships after family breakdown, and feel anxious and insecure about interpersonal communication.
Therefore, they feel uneasy and sensitive in front of everyone. When making friends, they are always afraid that others will speak ill of them. They are always unhappy with what others say, and they show retreat and anxiety in their relationship with others.
admire
Generally speaking, children from single-parent families do not enjoy as much as children from healthy families, both materially and spiritually, which is exactly what every child desires. Because what children from healthy families can get is not easy for children from single-parent families, their psychology can easily change from initial envy to jealousy and monk hatred. Psychologically, they will show a special attachment to their parents, hoping to get double returns from them. In terms of material enjoyment, if they can't treat this gap correctly and think that what others can get should be their own, it will easily lead to crimes such as theft.
Show off
Children from single-parent families are vulnerable to ridicule and bullying by other children because of their low status in the "children's circle". But they are also eager for strict cars and appreciation, so they deliberately show their differences in words and deeds, and sometimes even like to "stand up" to show their existence value.
depressed
Because of the split of parents, it will inevitably bring family smoke or cold war. Children live in a depressed space for a long time and are always worried about the relationship between their parents. Even children in some families have become punching bags for parents to vent their anger and anger. Children are in fear and worry all day and feel insecure. They are always worried and afraid of a civil war, which will tear them to pieces completely. Such long-term life torture, it is easy for children to produce fear and hostility, always keep a distance from their peers, have a strong sense of self-protection, and produce strong hostility. Children in single-parent families often feel depressed, depressed and fidgety, and there is nowhere to solve their psychological problems.
Because it is suppressed for too long, once it breaks out, the greater the energy, it is easy to produce extreme behavior. This tendency is manifested in girls wanting to cry or running away from home, while in some boys it is manifested in aggressive behavior.
Blame yourself.
Self-reproach is manifested in the low evaluation of personal ability and quality, which leads to self-reproach, inferiority and self-degradation. All disappointments are attributed to their own shortcomings, and they tend to be afraid of what they have done. Children in single-parent families have a strong sense of inferiority. They feel inferior and pessimistic.
Because of their low evaluation of themselves, they attribute their failure in work and study to their incompetence, which leads to negative emotional experiences such as anxiety, guilt and disappointment, leading to their overall psychological imbalance.
Over time, they lose confidence in themselves, and even for those tasks that can be completed with a little effort, they often give up easily because of incompetence. Many children from single-parent families always feel bad after being criticized. When others laugh at themselves, they always think they have done something wrong.
self-closing
The breakdown of the family seems to be a "natural disaster". For young children, they lack the necessary psychological preparation, so they are hit harder than their parents. Moreover, children are more sensitive and vulnerable than adults. They don't have the ability to adjust their psychology, and it is difficult to face the harsh reality of family breakdown for a while, so they will feel at a loss and depressed. Children know how to compare. They will compare their present with the past and feel that their situation is much worse than before. They will compare themselves with children from healthy families and feel that they don't add other people's children, which will breed inferiority, become timid, lack self-confidence, lack enterprising and positive spirit, and also feel that they are not as good as other people's children.
These children are depressed because they are alienated from their parents, unwilling to get in touch with others, and often show symptoms of being nervous about the people around them. They always suspect that others will talk about their family's defects and their parents' divorce behind their backs. They think that others look down on themselves and are unwilling to open their hearts to others, so they are self-enclosed and unwilling to go out to deal with people, showing lonely and introverted personality characteristics.
Psychological problems of children from divorced families 3 1, withdrawn
A disharmonious family environment will make children feel nervous about interpersonal relationships, especially in a reorganized family. Because of father's carelessness or the estrangement between stepparents, family communication is limited, and people feel neglected in the family, resulting in loneliness and behavior.
Step 2 feel inferior
Parents are the pride of children. Being in a family without a father or mother, children naturally have no such sense of superiority, and are prone to negative and pessimistic thoughts such as "my family is unfortunate", "I am an unwanted child" and "my life is not good".
3. cowardice
After divorce, some parents often pin their feelings and hopes on their children, tying them too tightly and disciplining them too strictly. Over time, children are psychologically burdened and afraid of disappointing their parents, so they stay away from their parents and become timid.
4. negative
Some of these children do not accept the discipline of their stepparents because of the estrangement of family ties, or their stepparents cannot be too strict. They have developed a psychological phenomenon of disobedience and self-centeredness since childhood. Because I don't understand my parents' divorce behavior, I have a sense of disgust and rebellion against my family.
How to care for children's psychology after divorce
1, custody issue
After divorce, we should consider the custody of children. If both sides have good economic conditions, they can negotiate which side will raise the child, so that it will not be said that the struggle for custody of the child will be unpleasant and affect the child's psychological growth.
2. Communicate with children more.
After parents divorce, children's psychology may change. As a child of a single-parent family, he may feel inferior, so parents should pay more attention to some details of their children and communicate with them more to make them grow up healthily.
3. Pay more attention to children
Every child wants to have a complete family, but the life of adults is beyond their control. Therefore, adults should spend more time with their children after divorce, because the healthy growth of children needs the companionship and care of their parents, and children from divorced families are prone to inferiority and abandonment, so even if divorced, they should pay more attention to their children.