Continue to learn real-time reflection today. Use cognitive learning strategies to understand the steps and application effects of real-time reflection, and ask yourself: 1. What's happening now that needs to be discussed? 2. How can we have an instant discussion in an appropriate way? 3. How should I react in the present tense and non-evaluation way? 4. How can I determine the specific effect of immediate response? 5. How do I know if my immediate response is useful to the helper? Learn the actual process of real-time reflection step with examples in the book. Teacher Cao reminded the consultant to be cautious at all times and always check whether his hypothesis is the fact of the helper.
Chapter 6: Cognitive exercise affecting technology-immediate response.
The following cognitive learning strategies to help make effective immediate response are internal processing processes corresponding to the reaction steps.
Ask yourself 1
What happened now? What do we need to discuss about me, the process of seeking help, our interaction?
Ask yourself 2
How can I form a "here and now" method to solve this problem instantly?
Ask yourself 3
How can I describe this situation or behavior in a descriptive rather than evaluative way?
Ask yourself.
How can I identify the specific effect of this situation or behavior?
Ask yourself.
How do I know if my immediate response is useful to the helper?
According to the cases in the book: (cases and answers)
1. The help-seekers reported their difficulties in the relationship, and the counselor also thought that they had difficulties in the relationship with the help-seekers. The counselors have the intention of running away and fighting. When the counselor has a will that is inconsistent with the consulting role, it is necessary to observe the behavior of the helper. By guessing his behavior pattern and the feelings of the helper behind the pattern, and the concretization of the feelings and ideas of the counselor when this pattern makes inconsistent experiences.
"I realize that my feelings for you may be related to your relationship experience with others." We should use such a present tense, non-evaluation method.
3. Use the pronoun "I" and be responsible for your feelings. Describe his behavior and don't criticize him too much.
4. Observe the interaction trajectory of behavior in the relationship between them. The influence of the helper on me, the feeling that what I want to do may bring him. This kind of feeling is related to this interactive mode, which may be the reappearance of the life of the helper outside the clinic.
"I want to share these feelings with you now, if you are willing to listen." Then stop and ask his permission.
This is a very important attitude to respect the needs of help seekers.
It is also a good demonstration. "I realize that some of your feelings about yourself may be related to your decision to study and work, and you can't get a response when you try to contact others. If you are willing to listen, I want to share these feelings with you now. "
In the consulting room, it's like dancing in pairs. When to face each other and when to walk side by side, we need to observe the state.
Actual immediate reaction: You are so close to me that when this happens, I am actually far away from you. I don't know if this is also what happens when you encounter difficulties in contacting others in your life. "There are two pauses in this paragraph. Blanking is particularly important. 1. We need to leave some space for each other to think and react; 2. We are checking whether this real-time technology is effective; We are cautious and respectful about the understanding of the relationship between ourselves and those who ask for help; Dialogue is being promoted.
Immediate response is a mirror reflection process of psychological counselors, who present themselves to people who have never seen before. Help seekers will affirm a certain part and provide more information. Sometimes, although the helper does not respond to some parts of the consultant's immediacy, it can be designed in the future or in the future consultation.
Taking this book as an example, when the seeker affirmed the counselor's guess, he began to provide more self-information to let the counselor know him better. He said that when he was growing up, others helped him make decisions, and when he encountered difficulties, he couldn't help looking for others to help him make decisions. He doesn't seem to have developed the ability to make decisions, which makes him feel terrible on his own. These are some new information brought by immediate response. At this point, the helper is pushing this consultation himself.