Emotional counseling: My boyfriend likes to take advantage of me in money Q: We have been studying abroad for half a year, and I feel more and more tired. Because he likes to take advantage of me in money, if he treats me to dinner, he will let me buy something else. Like cigarettes. In fact, I like him more and more, but I don't think he wants to spend money on me, and now he is not as patient with me as before. Am I too narrow-minded?
A: If feelings are based on many calculations in life, they will easily cool down or even fade away, become habits and lose their passion. In fact, when you think he cares about money, it is also the time when you care. Maybe he really doesn't want to pay more. You can express your thoughts, or take the initiative to communicate with him at the spiritual level to see if he accepts this spiritual way of love. But don't force it. Seeing your partner's personality and personality clearly is also an important step for self-growth. Don't be too emotional. Love must blossom and bear fruit in harmonious, equal and selfless communication and sharing.
Emotional counseling: What should I do if my love is too hot? Q: My feelings for my boyfriend are always warm. I will miss him at any time, and I will be depressed if he doesn't call me for a day. I think I am too hot. I'm afraid this heat will burn us to death one day. How can we cool down?
A: You are not too spicy, but you spend all your energy on your boyfriend. This is basically a morbid state, which is not the power that love should have. You mistakenly put all your energy into emotional dependence and put aside other things you should do in disguise. In fact, this is very dangerous, and it is easy to become sensitive, suspicious and irritable, which in turn has a negative impact on emotional relationships. Your feelings for him are entrusted, not free love. You should focus on other things, such as your studies and career, to enrich yourself. Emotions should be natural.
Emotional counseling: My husband is always suspicious. Q: Usually my wife is jealous of her husband, but in our family, on the contrary, my husband often eats my jealousy and I can't communicate with people normally. Maybe it's because he is not confident. As soon as I answered the phone, he suspected which man called me. As soon as I get online, he suspects that I'm chatting with my boyfriend! I am not a fickle person. Now, in order to keep him from being suspicious all day, I dare not answer the phone or surf the Internet. It's really unbearable. Is my husband mentally retarded?
He is really a suspicious husband. His lack of confidence in his wife reflects his lack of confidence in himself. He is afraid that his wife will be dissatisfied with himself and that she will go out to have an affair. Or maybe he is in a state of inferiority or misfortune, needs the support of his partner very much, and is afraid of losing his wife, so he will be helpless, so he is extremely sensitive to his wife's dating activities, which is beyond common sense. From the root, you should show your love and support for him, help him regain his self-confidence and dispel his inferiority complex, instead of trying to prove that he didn't cheat.
Emotional counseling: Does this boyfriend love me? Q: I have been dating him for half a month. He is very handsome and has good conditions in all aspects. He used to call or text me every day, once in the morning and once in the evening, but he didn't call me these two days because of business trip. I've been wondering if he met another girl outside. I don't know why he pursued me in the first place. Does he really love me or take part in accidental amusement?
A: You've only known each other for half a month, and it's still a short time. Everyone should have more time to get to know each other better and get used to each other before finding a way to get along with each other comfortably. It is normal and reasonable that he can't call you to report for duty, say hello and flirt as usual, but you naively think that things have changed and he may have cheated. This is your sickness. You are not qualified to talk about normal and deep love now. You only need superficial telephone contact to establish the so-called sense of love security. In fact, you can't leave him for half a second at all. This is a serious disease. Being too attached to your boyfriend will scare him away sooner or later.
Emotional counseling: My boyfriend can't stop my body and wants me to be a lover. Q: I haven't found a new boyfriend for two years. My ex-boyfriend had a girlfriend and now he has broken up. These two years. I played a disgraceful role. I feel like one of his secret love, and we have sex. I wanted to end this relationship recently, but he told me. He also wants to forget me completely. But I can't. Still thinking about me. And for my body, he is also very dependent. How should I go on? I used emotion, and he used sex to treat our two-year breakup. Should I keep making mistakes? Why didn't he say make up?
A: The problem is that your ex-boyfriend doesn't love you anymore. He just needs a woman's body, and he just lost his sexual partner, and you are the most convenient woman to provide him with free sexual services. Seeing your weakness, he easily captured your heart and body. Don't be silly, be completely separated, and don't cling to physical pleasure, which can't bring happiness. All he asked for was temporary lust, but he didn't intend to take responsibility and pay. He only wants pleasure, but you have lost physical and mental torture. As long as you are not free, it is difficult to find true feelings of love and release.
Emotional counseling: My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex and has been seducing me. Q: My girlfriend and I have been in love since freshman year. Of course, we can't help it. She can let me take off her clothes and touch her, but she just won't let me. She said she was afraid that her parents would know. But every time it happens, I feel very strange. If she is afraid, then she knows what happens when she makes out. Why would she do that?
A: This is a contradictory state of female sexual repression and sexual temptation. What women think and do are two different things. You can look at your bottom line. If you can't stand it, you can put forward your ideas and let her know that it is hurting you. I hope she is not too selfish and ignores your feelings.
Emotional counseling: My husband doesn't like staying at home, doesn't he like me? Q: My husband and I have been married for more than six years. He seems to have changed a little recently. He likes going out to play cards. He always said that staying at home was boring. Although I won't force him to stay at home, I'm afraid he doesn't like me.
A: He needs social life, because he feels depressed in his family life and has not found any activities to relax himself, so he becomes like putting you down to find his own pleasure. You should think about it and improve the fun of family life. Explore some activities that couples can participate in together, such as outing, shopping, picnic or any sports that everyone likes. Once a week is enough. And you should explore your social activities more, give yourself a chance to relax and be free, and don't get sick at home early.