Lesson 1 Narrative Practice (Narrative Therapy)
Philosophy and therapeutic thinking
First of all, about narrative
1. Describe the practice, not the method of "therapy". Remove the pathological model.
Narrative is the most temperature consulting school.
Tell me what I want to live most.
2. About the title of "psychic magician"
1) Surprise and awareness of going deep into the spiritual field
2) Understanding of "destiny". What I've always wanted to do in my life. Moved by people's happiness. "Eyes are red"
3) Expectation of meeting. In the modest and respectful chat study, visitors can foresee the beauty of their own lives.
The broad pathological view is "what did you do wrong, which led to this dilemma", and the post-modern philosophical view holds that "it is normal for people to have difficulties", and how to meet the beauty in their lives in chat.
Interview: A college student said that I hope to be on the cover of Time magazine when I am 40 years old. Who will be interviewed on the cover? An influential person worthy of our study.
How to look at people now? Even if he is in trouble, he deserves to be respected. He has a lot to learn. How can we be more humble and warm? Listen to what she cares about in life and try to make life different.
Therefore, visiting is actually a learning process that respects consultation and guides a person to think about how to live the life that high live wants.
The mainland says "tourists", which is more neutral. Taiwan Province Province generally talks about parties or cases. The more neutral ones are called "confidants". How to let the speaker meet the beauty in life?
Postmodernism believes that man is the master of his own life, and his beauty lies in his life. All we have to do is help him, help him catalyze him and let him see behind those difficulties. How did she work hard? How to insist?
Understanding, wisdom gained from one's own experience. You can refer to what you told me. It may not work. okay
3. Narrative opening
Key point: 1.5 hours after the lecture, if you are full, is it because you have gained anything? (hypothetical question)
Pull into the future and see what you want.
Narrative: If you have a clearer understanding of narrative therapy, what impact and help will it bring to your work of helping others?
4. Warm, meaningful school
Helping others is an adventure, and everyone has a unique treasure. How to find the treasure together in the dialogue requires the ability to appreciate the treasure and listen to the inner code.
5. Before you help others, think about:
1. What is my role in the family? How does it affect helping others?
2. Why should I be a helper (psychological counselor)?
3. What kind of psychological counselor do I want to be?
4. How do I usually solve my troubles? What's the effect?
5. What are the benefits of helping others? What attracts me most about helping others?
6. Psychological counseling
1. The double cultivation course of Fu Hui (the gift of life)
Prosperity or adversity meets wisdom. Wishing the students smooth sailing is a vicious congratulations. The first lie, life cannot be smooth sailing. If the second is smooth sailing, it will not grow into wisdom. Have the wisdom to face adversity and the courage to solve it.
2. Life affects happiness project (we can't give what we don't have).
Help the speaker to realize that he has entered the garden of the soul. Millennium old demon
7. What kind of speakers do I like?
A smart, kind and grateful.
B silly, questioning you, not knowing how to love yourself.
Do you still need your help? Is it A or B who needs the help of the consultant?
What angle do we look at this group of people?
Stupid ~ I thought about it many times before I knew the answer
Question you ~ think about it.
I don't know how to love myself ~ I have never been loved well, and I still don't know how to love myself. Now I have a chance to learn how to get close to myself.
From a structural point of view
8. What kind of counselor do you like, and what kind of conference courses and contents do you like?
When are you willing to find a male consultant? Career planning, career rationality, want to know what my boyfriend thinks, understand my goodness, tolerate me and help me sincerely.
Solid, have the ability to solve problems. Listen to the speaker's story.
9. About people, about people's psychology?
1. How do you know people? How to understand human psychology?
2. People's inner psychology: cognitive, emotional and behavioral needs.
3. Interpersonal psychology-relationship interaction, love and being loved.
4. History, society, culture and people's hearts
10. Key physical and mental preparations for helping others
Be prepared to listen to your mind and body.
Listening: Understand (you have to learn not to understand first, so you will ask, don't let yourself understand so quickly, and give the speaker the right to interpret) (After the teacher complained, go home and ask Wang Xiaobao what happened today. Are you sure that's all? Is there anything greater? )
Secret: Mind and body focus on the emptying and acceptance of the mind.
1. Listen to what the other person really wants to say, not what he wants to hear.
2. Listening to each other's stories can go on and get to know yourself better.
Expression: considerate, positive and warm words.
I'm useless ~ I long for value,
From complaining to caring to longing (learn to translate tourists' words)
The value of caring and what to live for are the goals of narrative.
1 1. Describe the narrative in your mind in one sentence?
What is your curiosity and confusion about narrative?
Storytelling, the main branch line enriches the branch story.
Reconstruct one's own experience and reshape the story.
I still don't understand. After listening to it ten times, it's as good as new.
Some thoughts on narrative therapy.
A This is a school that needs to tell stories very much.
Every visitor tells his own life story in his own way, some are clear, some are clear along the time axis, some forget a lot of time, and the order is messy.
Need to be a good listener and understand.
Postmodernism raises many questions.
Relatives in Taiwan Province Province care about people, and the most speechless question is: Is anyone there? When did you get married and have your first child? When will you have a second child? When will you graduate? How much is the year-end bonus? What is the position? (none of your business)
Teach your friends to care only about you.
A rewarding book, a movie, the most impressive dialogue, the most interesting people, the most delicious food, and the most beautiful places.
What questions can open the inner world of visitors? If there is a problem, there must be temperature.
I am not soft enough in such an emotional school as C.
Focus solving actually produces curative effect in a reasonable way. What do you want to change? What energy do you have? What can you start doing? Approach, hope, energy, practice.
Focus counseling is a little nervous. I was raped head-on, praised all the time, and didn't understand me at all
But the most important thing is understanding. What matters is whether you understand me.
Temperature first, then measurement. As soon as you ask a question, you should think positively, energy and the future. But my inner anguish was not caught.
Talk more about feelings and be rational. After so many twists and turns, what more precious truth have you learned?
After all this, I almost got divorced and finally found out that you are in love. What is the most important thing for you and your wife here? You won't get nothing. Can a person see the value of caring from experience? What have you learned? The concept of marriage is very important.
D just kept telling stories, as if it didn't solve the problem.
Tell a main story that you don't want to live like this, guide visitors to tell new stories, care about what you want, and prefer stories. Go to the desired path in a warm way.
Live the life you really want and have the feelings you really want.
Without clear treatment objectives and specific steps, E is difficult to use.
Know what you want. What energy do you have?
13. From life story to narrative practice (therapy)
Imagine that the world suddenly has no stories. How to introduce the Central Plains Focus Team?
How do you introduce where your home is? Your family? How is your grandfather ...
Do you have a story that belongs to you? What is the biggest difference between people with stories and people without stories?
People with stories live deeply.
How does C give meaning to experience? Story is the most basic unit to understand experience.
Share happiness, you are an optimistic person.
Share anxiety, you are an anxious parent.
Share complaints, boss, you are a suffering employee.
Who decides the meaning of your life story? How is a person defined according to a story? Who do ordinary tourists think wrote his life script? How's it going?
People who live well talk about themselves.
People in trouble say yes? god
Xu Ruyun, who directed the play?
If you think you wrote this script yourself, you can bear it. What preparations have you made in the face of difficulties?
Ordinary tourists will feel that they are victims.
Take back the ownership of life, be the hero and heroine of your own life, and rewrite the story script.
E how to listen to stories in narrative practice?
Using the understanding framework of the story, the personal life axis and the important relationship axis stand in the leading role, and understand the profound care and learning wisdom of life experience, from inertia to understanding how she hopes to be understood.
Rewriting of life
From the main story to the branch story
Let the speaker be the screenwriter and director of his own life story, and the best actors and actresses want to live high.
From healing to chatting.
Let visitors talk about the beauty of life during their respectful and curious visits and studies.
14. Narrative encounter (healing power)
We often think that what we say
Is what we already know.
in fact
Respect the narrative under listening.
You will find
Most of the time, I don't know until I say it.
Moved by my initial heart, I have experienced so many hardships for the most important thing, hoping others will understand me. I don't know what I need to understand, but I understand myself.
15. Foreword: Think about it.
How do I know who I am? Self-identity (optimism, pessimism, negativity, positivity, alarmism, worry, complaint, annoyance ... greed, expectation of oneself, expectation of others).
What is normal, what is abnormal, and what is the standard?
(Are people who take online classes seriously normal or abnormal? )
What kind of people do you usually fall into when you come for advice? (Normal, brave, love yourself)
Can I accept or appreciate my uniqueness? Do you ask for advice like others, or are you different from others? Accept that one person is different from others.
How brave I can be to be myself. According to defend this brave right.
What factors have influenced my opinion of myself?
How do people around me describe me?
C. When I confirm or declare what kind of person I am, how will it affect my life and interpersonal relationship?
Teacher Lin has no resistance to good food. I am a foodie who loves food.
Second, about the story
1. The world is not made up of atoms, but stories.
2. How do we read stories? Is it suitable for writing life stories? Do you know what is important? What do you care?
An Lingrong is the most humble and annoying to the people around him. How can we help tourists like An Lingrong?
Describe the subtle parts of human nature.
Biography of Zhen Huan, fire nirvana, Yongzheng dynasty, Roman holiday, riddle, Li Huanying.
3. What elements must a story contain? The development and change of the protagonist's theme plot
B what kind of story is wonderful? It's worth reading and rereading.
Smooth sailing or bumpy, or climax after climax, inspiring.
C what kind of storyline is easy to become a movie script?
What kind of person you live, it is easy to become the protagonist of film and television dramas, and most of the stories of visitors can be turned into screenplays. If they are too smooth, they are not attractive.
D Oscar, which award do you care most about?
Best original adapted screenplay award.
The original represents the truth, and the adaptation represents what makes people become masters again and live high.
4. What kind of story is Journey to the West telling?
Student A: Fight monsters and upgrade, and learn from the West.
Teacher: The story after the eighty-one difficulty. The first protagonist, Wukong.
B What famous books and books did you take? Like naughty students. There are many Buddhist scriptures.
The story of the monkey:
Kneeling for seven days and seven nights. Marvin, who conquered this monkey? Tathagata, who persuaded him? Tang priest. How did Tang Priest subdue this monkey?
Truancy for three days in a row, report for duty.
Tang Priest didn't trust him, killed monsters and was cursed. (Tang Priest, chanting after being arrested)
Monkey, what do you complain about when you come for psychological counseling?
5. What kind of story is The Journey to the West?
Who is the protagonist?
What is the point of this story? The protagonist told you this story. What do you want to know?
What does the protagonist learn from this story?
Where is the dilemma, where is the growth.
Two life story axes: personal inner experience, axis relationship and importance, axis relationship with others.
What value did the monkey prove? (Wuneng, Wukong, Wukong)
6. What are the key words of narrative practice?
Major stories, minor stories, preference stories.
Deconstruction and reconstruction of social construction
Local knowledge and expert knowledge (this person's experience is unique)
Preferred self-identity (leading into one's own unique life)
Externalization, unique experience, rewriting and reorganization of members