How do parents establish prestige in front of their children?

Parent Ms. Zheng: I have two children, a son and a daughter, both of whom have gone to school. Both of them are very naughty, especially the youngest son, who is not obedient at ordinary times. As their grades increase, the difficulty of homework increases. Because of my low academic qualifications, I find it more and more difficult to educate them, and I can't help them in many cases, so speaking in front of children feels insignificant. The father of the child seldom interacts with the child. On the contrary, they have some awe of his father, but his father has no time to take care of it. Most of the time, I am disciplining them, but now they are getting more and more difficult to control, and they often talk back to me, which gives me a headache. Ask the teacher, as a parent, how to establish prestige in front of the children? Zheng Qiongxia, a national second-level psychological counselor and a psychological teacher in Quzhou No.3 Middle School: When many parents talk to me about family education, they always say that children are not afraid of me, but they are afraid of their father. I said that he never listens. What parents call "fear" is actually what we often call prestige. Generally speaking, children are full of admiration and awe for their parents when they are young, and they do whatever adults say. However, with the growth of age, children have a certain ability to distinguish right from wrong. If parents do things differently, they often promise their children, but they often fail to keep their promises. In the long run, parents' prestige in their children's hearts will gradually lose. So how do you improve your prestige in front of children? Here are some suggestions for parents who are equally confused. Parents should not make promises to their children easily. Some parents often make promises to their children in order to perfunctory some requirements of their children, but they don't fulfill them afterwards, thinking that their children have long forgotten them. In fact, children will keep the promises of adults in mind. Even though some children are afraid of their parents and dare not mention it in front of them, they have been looking forward to it. Therefore, before making a promise to their children, parents should think about whether they can cash it in advance. If you can't, you must not promise your child. Once you make a promise, you must keep it. Don't let children feel that their parents have broken their word. Otherwise, it will do great damage to parents' prestige. Parents should set an example and pay attention to details. For example, to correct a child's bad habit of not working and sleeping on time, it is not enough to preach again and again, but also to show him with practical actions. Children are not allowed to get up, and parents are bedridden, so how can parents convince their children? Parents do well, children will see, and parents' prestige will be established invisibly. In short, ask the child to do it first, otherwise don't ask. With the growth of children's age and knowledge, parents should grow up with their children. If parents don't study hard and can't keep up with their children's footsteps, children will think their parents are "old-fashioned" and "backward", which will greatly reduce their status in children's minds. In addition, parents should not repeat shivering when educating their children. Many mothers have this feeling: they are bitter, but their children don't listen at all. On the contrary, it is the father's words at a critical time that make the children obedient. It can be seen that talking too much may not necessarily have an effect. Adults get bored when they say things every day, let alone children. So sometimes it is more effective to grasp the big and let go of the small. A family with two children, in any case, must treat the two children fairly. Otherwise, it is difficult to establish prestige in front of children.