There is a saying: how wide your heart is, how big your stage is and how wide your heart is. This sentence is not only an incisive way of life, but also a golden advice for managing marriage.
In marriage, husband and wife need too much care to manage, which will determine whether their marriage can last long. In particular, a man with a large pattern is needed to support this family.
In Ayan's view, the size of a man's own pattern in marriage plays a role in affecting the happiness of the whole marriage. A man with a big pattern has a clear distinction between right and wrong. If he knows how to take care of his wife, his marriage will only get happier and happier. And the pattern is too small man, haggle over every ounce, selfish, marriage will only be a chicken feather.
I saw a news on the Internet the other day, which made A Yan very angry. This man is a typical Phoenix man. After graduating from college, he married a city girl. He lives in his father's house because there is no house.
The woman's family conditions are good, and she often eats fish and meat. Every time I eat delicious food, Phoenix Man scolds her angrily in his heart. Why do your family eat a lot of fish and meat every day, and my parents eat pickles when they eat corn in the country?
After that, Phoenix secretly transferred his wife's money and his in-laws' money to his parents in the countryside. After the girl found out, the account balance was only a little bit.
When asked about Phoenix Man, he also plausibly said: Your family is so rich, do you still care about this money? My parents suffer in the countryside. Since you married me, this money belongs to my family!
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Seeing this, Ayan was stunned by the logic of men. How can there be such a shameless person! A big man who lives and eats in his parents' house is not only ungrateful, but also owes you a favor. It's really hateful!
Of course, the girls didn't agree, so they started quarreling, and then they entered an emotional mediation program.
In the program, men frequently made amazing remarks, and everyone present was very angry. When the man's family appeared, everyone seemed to understand why he was like this.
The man's mother was even more surprised: my hard-working son took advantage of their family. They are very popular in the city and drink spicy food every day. I suffer in the field. It's ridiculous to want to send me away with such a small amount of money. No way! My son's brothers and sisters go to school and get married, and they have to take care of them at home. My in-laws have money, and his money belongs to my son. I don't have to use it for nothing!
Seeing this, Ayan can hardly describe his feelings. How can there be such a family? It makes sense that they are poor, because they are not only poor materially, but also poor at heart.
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How terrible is it to marry a man with a bad heart? A poor heart is seven points bitter. If you marry him with a bad heart, you will get what you want, and the pattern will get smaller and smaller, and you will fall with him.
Lu Xiao is a woman who has suffered greatly. Since she married her husband Yu Bin, her married life has not been very smooth.
Xiao Lu's family is very good. Her parents are employees of state-owned enterprises, and she is the only child in the family. Naturally, her parents like her very much. Growing up, Lu Xiao's parents tried their best to satisfy her whatever she wanted.
When Xiao Lu was in college, she talked about a boyfriend named Yu Bin. Yu Bin's family is rural, both parents are farmers, and the family is very poor.
After graduating from college, the two discussed it and were both prepared to stay in the city. Yu Bin wants to marry Xiao Lu.
Their marriage was opposed by Lu Xiao's parents, because they felt that Yu Bin was not good enough for his daughter and his family was not good enough. They were afraid that Lu Xiao would suffer after marrying him.
But Xiao Lu loved Paul Yu Pin very much and insisted on marrying him. Finally, my parents had no choice but to agree to their marriage.
Yu Bin's family is poor and has no money to buy a house in the city. Lu Xiao's parents couldn't bear to let their daughter live in a rented house, so they bought a suite for the young couple, but the house was still written in the name of Lu Xiao's parents, and Lu Xiao and Yu Bin only had the right to live.
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After a period of marriage, Paul Yu Pin's mother fell ill and came to the city for treatment. Lu Xiao's parents arranged to contact the hospital for a doctor. Because treatment costs a lot of money, Paul Yu Pin's parents can't get the money in the end. Xiao Lu's parents gave a lot without saying a word. The young couple spent all their savings, but they still didn't recover.
Yu Bin believes that when he and his wife get married, the house bought by his mother-in-law naturally belongs to two people. Of course, he has the right to dominate and can sell it to treat his mother.
So, he put the house in a bank mortgage loan to treat his mother. After the mother-in-law found out, she quarreled.
Yu Bin's father is still very reasonable. He said, I discussed with my wife that I can't let my in-laws spend any more money. They have spent a lot of money. I'm going to sell my home and rent a house.
Yu Bin plausibly said: Parents, why can't I sell my house when my mother is ill? My parents sold their house. What if they can't buy it back in the future and get old?
Xiao Lu was also very angry when he found out. When she first got married, Yu Bin didn't pay her salary every month, but called her parents in the countryside. The couple always spend Xiao Lu's salary on daily expenses. This made Lu Xiao complain. This time, Yu Bin went further and even mortgaged his house. With his family's financial conditions, it is almost impossible to pay back the loan.
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Lv Xiao and Yu Bin quarreled, and quarreling after marriage is common. This time, Yu Bin was very excited: "My mother is seriously ill. What happened when I sold my house to save her? "
Xiao Lu thought he was simply unreasonable and shouted at him directly, "That's my parents' house! Did you sell it with their consent? "
The couple had a bitter quarrel. Finally, Lu Xiao was heartbroken, and felt that she could not live in the future, so she filed for divorce.
In fact, after reading Xiaoli's story, Ayan thinks: people are poor for a while, but their hearts are poor for a lifetime. People are afraid of poverty if they are not afraid of it.
Yu Bin's biggest problem is that he is too selfish, a typical Phoenix man. You can meet your parents, but you can't just rip off your wife's money, can you? And it's a personality problem.
Love is short, character is long, and life is so long. When the gorgeous feelings are dull, the marriage relationship is finally maintained by kindness.
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