When Min Min married her husband, he was the youngest lecturer in the university. He stood on the stage and talked about cynicism and Schopenhauer. Most of the girls in the audience came for the handsome male teacher. Min Min is committed to this feeling. At that time, of course, she wouldn't consider that there was only a 20-square-meter dormitory under the name of a man with extraordinary temperament on the stage.
Although the present situation after marriage is not satisfactory, inseparable love can make up for everything. The young couple washed clothes together in the public water room, each with a better sheet; Cooking in the smoky corridor, after dinner, her husband accompanied her to wash dishes and chat, and went to the movies hand in hand or went back to her husband's house for dinner on weekends. Min Min felt that although she was poor, she felt happy and sweet. She wants to take her eyes off her humble home, plain clothes, bare nose and fingers and live a good life with almost the same amount of money in her hand every month. Min Min is a good cook. Her husband likes to drink her soup, stewed pork ribs and lotus root soup, shredded crucian carp and taro baby dishes ... every time before she puts down the bowl. Seeing her husband's simple and contented smile, Min Min felt that this was happiness.
When I was pregnant, my husband's career had just started. He is dealing with customers and friends every day, inviting guests to dinner, accompanying wine and playing until late at night. Min Min was very sad. The man in front of me is still the familiar face, as if his soul had completely changed. He has no time to ask big rabbit's wife empty questions, and he has no energy to respond to her warm concern. Under the cruel test of life, he restored the essence that men love their careers but not beauty. He is simply a workaholic.
Min Min felt that his tenderness was completely in vain. The man in front of me is not the one who loved him at the beginning. What's the point of walking reluctantly? When my sister who settled in the United States came back to see her, Min Min told her in tears: My husband can't give me the happiness I want, and I want a divorce. Sister was silent. The next day, she brought a best-selling collection of American women columnists. One sentence touched Min Min: There is a woman who can make herself happy, whether she is a construction worker at Caltex or a member of Congress.
That's right. Why do men give happiness to women? Every woman should be able to make herself and her family happy. Min Min, who was pregnant, turned to her parents for help, and invited her mother to help her buy food and cook, and take care of her small family. She forced herself not to think about her troubles, eat well every day, sleep well and raise her baby with peace of mind; She no longer waits for her husband to come home at night, pestering him with questions and questions, and bothering him with trivial things, as before; In his occasional free time, let him help himself to go for a walk in the park and play jokes on each other to name his children. Strangely, every day goes smoothly and quietly. I thought that the dark and dark life gradually became sunny.
My daughter is almost three years old. They moved to a new house and spent all their money on the house. Min Min hired a painter to paint the walls and bought simple furniture, so he moved in first. Husband can see a little new change when he goes home every day; The unique lampshade of the living room is made of cotton, and the hard paper shell is covered with beige and dark red floral patterns; The coconut I brought back to Hainan, and the leftover shell was cleverly converted into a lovely pig cover; When the roll paper was used up, Min Min carefully wrapped Jane in a layer of white yami fine cloth and taught her daughter to doodle with crayons, drawing colorful rainbows, blue rivers and golden grandfathers. Such a small DIY pen container is placed on the desk, and my father feels warm every time he sees it. Originally, an ordinary space was gradually transformed in the hands of Min Min, and it became more and more interesting day by day.
Tony's appearance almost shattered Min Min's dream. He is one of her husband's important business partners, young, well-off, with business acumen and management ability, and an aggressive beauty and momentum. Tony is obviously as good as that old man. He doesn't care about his married status at all. At this point, it is inevitable that men will be in a trance and ambiguous. Many people come to Minmin to snitch, some are enthusiastic, and some just come to watch the fun. Min Min still reads her books, grows flowers and plants, and takes care of her daughter who has just entered primary school. Husband went home to send comfortable slippers, got up and washed and squeezed toothpaste for him. She is becoming more and more interested in the constant carving. Do you want something new?
Min Min carefully planned the weekend. When her husband is free, she will take the children, go on an outing and watch the red leaves in a nearby farmhouse. When her husband is away, she takes her daughter to a children's playground or watches the latest anime movies. Every time the bitch happily goes home hand in hand, the daughters are laughing and laughing, and Min Min is beaming. My husband worries all day. He doesn't know how to answer the question from Nankang if Min Min asks it. Min Min lived a happy life and never asked many questions. Of course, Min Min has also changed. She has recovered her lively and lovely appearance before marriage, and her dress is becoming more and more exquisite; She took part in a yoga class and learned to play tennis. She organized her sister to travel to Nepal and came back radiant. She brought back a small hand-embroidered skirt for her daughter and an ashtray inlaid with ebony and silver for her husband. She even started learning English, and she can actually talk to American netizens! This woman who has been with her 10 for many years has so many qualities and energies that she doesn't know, which makes him feel familiar and unfamiliar and deeply attracted.
Tony's affair faded away, so my friend went to Min Min and asked her how to deal with it. Min Min smiled and said, "If you are not surprised, you will be surprised." . I used to think that I would be happy if I married a good husband. Now it seems that women's new clothes are not given by men. Women should have the ability to make themselves happy. Love life, take care of your family and don't neglect yourself. This is the real happiness of women.
Maybe you think this man is bad. Who can guarantee that the next man will be better? Nobody can. The key is what kind of mentality to live with this person. Perhaps the so-called prince charming is a deceptive fairy tale, just like a epiphyllum, which once bloomed, but only for a moment, it withered. He is the right person only if he thinks about the right person. Who can I live with? Only by changing your mentality can you get another life. Just like my mentality, no matter how many people have fun, life will remain the same. Believe in your choice, live your own life, do not quarrel, do not entangle, two people form a life, be a smart woman.
Happiness ability 1: I can cook, make soup and live a down-to-earth life.
Happiness ability 2: Don't expect too much from marriage and complain less.
Happiness ability 3: cultivate your hobbies.