I haven't got over Shirley's suicide. When I saw Shirley's smiling face, my first reaction was incredible, and my second reaction was how possible. Whether you accept it or not, Shirley really left everyone. Take away all her ideals, all her depression and unwillingness, and continue to leave.
Born in 1994, I was only 25 years old, the same age as Hua. I had a good development prospect, but then I disappeared in a blink of an eye. The name Shirley will not be unfamiliar to netizens in China, because she is also a frequent visitor to the hot search list. She objected because she didn't wear underwear when she submitted the photos of ins. She still responded in the variety show that underwear should not be an object that binds women, and every woman has the right to control the perfect human body at will.
At that moment, listening to her say such a thing, I also felt that this woman was not simple. Many people often describe Shirley as "releasing herself" and think that she is like a psychopath. In fact, you never know how much bitterness and tears she has experienced behind her. She is not limited to the secular, maybe she wants to fight against the world, but she was knocked down by the world first.
02
Shirley's agent said that Shirley suffered from severe depression. It is hard to imagine that this woman who has been smiling brightly at the camera has long been desolate in her heart. I don't know where the source of her depression is, but I can't do without these key words: pressure and public opinion.
In fact, no matter how happy and strong a woman is, her heart is full of longing for love. In the early days, she replied to the online objection in an interview, saying: "Why do you want to scold me? I am a kind-hearted and likable friend. I feel that many people only know me better when they wear color-changing glasses. Please cherish me, audience friends and journalists. "
"Why should I be scolded? I am a very kind and likable friend. I think many people only know me better when they wear color-changing glasses. Please cherish me, audience friends and journalists. "
No one really takes such crying seriously.
The most heartfelt sentence I saw today is: If you suddenly leave, the whole world will begin to love you.
Sully left, and a fresh life never came back.
Everyone will never see her ins update or her gorgeous smile, and all this will be forgotten one day with time. After a long time, no one will remember that someone has been here. For a woman, this life is really, really hard.
If you are not overwhelmed by life, who will choose to commit suicide at will? People have an instinctive reaction to desperate survival. If they are lost, they must have no expectations for the world.
03
There is a very heartfelt sentence on the Internet:
"The collapse of contemporary people is a silent collapse. It seems that everything is normal, you can joke, play and communicate with others, and your appearance is quiet. In fact, the bad things in my heart have accumulated to a certain extent. I won't slam doors and smash things, and I won't cry and scream. But it is very likely that in a second, it will suddenly accumulate to the extreme and say nothing. It won't really collapse and it won't live happily. "
In recent years, there have been many women who have been forced to die. There are young women and married mothers. Once, a 27-year-old mother from Zhangzhou went to the river with two children and died unfortunately. All she gave us was a long will.
In her will, she wrote many accusations against her family. After seven years of marriage, she was rejected by her in-laws. Every time there is disagreement, my in-laws always join hands with her. She was defenseless, and it was unclear how many times she was scolded and cried. The husband stood beside his in-laws from beginning to end and didn't say a word for her.
It is worth mentioning that my in-laws also spread rumors, which made my father-in-law and the whole village misunderstand her. Without love and care, living under foul language, the young mother saw through the world and had to lead her children into a dead end.
Similarly, a 27-year-old mother in Sichuan jumped off a bridge with three sons, and none of them committed suicide.
My mother said in her will that she was under great pressure, living on the verge of collapse every day, taking care of three children, and having car loans and mortgages at home. While her husband and in-laws are running around, the responsibility of taking care of the children falls on her.
"I really can't afford it. I haven't slept all night since I gave birth to twin babies. Nature is the only way for my mother. I don't blame her. I often take care of three children by myself because I can bear it. But even then, no one really understood me. In recent years, I have really stood on the verge of collapse every day. "
Everyone's departure is not inexplicable. They must have been driven to the Jedi by life, leaving them unprepared, so they chose that method to end their lives.
04
Sully left, and so did the mothers and children who committed suicide. They may leave for different reasons, but they are all the same in essence, that is, they are sad about the world. Without love and care, people will become a desert island.
When it comes to collapse and suicide, some people will say, "How big?" What is not worth mentioning in your eyes has already penetrated the hearts of people there.
The collapse of adults has been silent. You think the years behind a woman with a gorgeous smile must be quiet. You think that all mothers with many children are happy, only you have unexpected bitterness and pain.
Women's lives are really hard. From youth to middle age, from being single to being a mother, every link needs to encounter work pressure and misunderstanding. If you don't get through it, it's also a narrow escape. Life is not calm for many years, but it is all about going through fire and water.
If you feel tired and difficult, just slow down and have a rest. You don't need to be too hard on yourself, and you don't need to live in the eyes of others. You should have your own world. Finally, may life respect everyone who works hard and may the world cherish everyone who works hard.