After further communication, the mediator found a bigger problem. It turns out that Xiaohong and Xiao Xuan didn't get a marriage certificate because Xiao Xuan and his ex-wife haven't divorced yet. Xiaohong's "ex-wife" is not Xiao Xuan's original match, but a third party that Xiao Xuan found after she got married. Xiaohong met after breaking up with the third party. In this way, Xiaohong is the fourth person. But at that time, Xiaohong thought that Xiao Xuan and the original match had no feelings, and he broke up with a third party, so naturally he could be with him. So they re-established their families and gave birth to children.
"I'm not as good-looking as her (the third party). If she looks good, he will definitely not keep in touch with her. "
Xiaohong said that although she knew that her husband had not divorced his original match and that he had so many affairs, the fourth man was still jealous of the third party. In the process of mediation, Xiao Xuan asked questions such as "Will he divorce his original match?" Also very ambiguous, and soon quarreled again. This time, the mediator did not make peace blindly. She bluntly said that Xiao Xuan had lost his conscience and lived happily outside, but his former wife at home was still taking care of his children and his adoptive parents. At the same time, the mediator also criticized Xiaohong for having no brains. How can such a man who is irresponsible to his family expect to entrust his life to him?
Finally, Xiaohong decided to leave her husband and went to her hometown in Xiao Xuan at the suggestion of the mediator to apologize to her original wife. What impression did Xiao Xuan's family leave on him? As expected, the villagers in Ligang Village, Weishi County, Henan Province also said that Xiao Xuan was a prodigal son, regardless of his family. The old lady in Xiao Xuan is even more angry. She said she was over seventy years old. This son not only doesn't support himself, but also eats her flowers when he comes back. He knows to eat, drink and be merry at home. "What do I want this son to do? It's best to arrest him outside and tell him to die. "
Since the husband did this, why didn't the original wife Xiaoli divorce him? Xiaoli said that because of her natural weakness, she has been unable to control her husband since she got married. Knowing that he was fooling around outside, he asked for a divorce, but her husband refused to leave her because the local area was going to be demolished. Xiao Xuan delayed the divorce only to divide the property according to the head. Now, Xiaoli also wants to let go. Her son is 9 years old, and she will continue to be a good daughter-in-law and mother in this family, but she has no husband. "Wait ten years, the child married a daughter-in-law I became a mother-in-law. I won't die without a man, and I won't be worse than my husband. "
Therefore, in the face of Xiaohong who came to apologize, Xiaoli did not have half a sentence of blame and abuse. On the contrary, she is more compassionate. Because she knows her husband too well, she knows that Xiaohong is also a victim, and she will be a victim sooner or later. As soon as the two women met, they further realized the true face of this man. They spent their parents' money and their wives' money, but they had no sense of responsibility for the family. Finally, Xiaohong made up her mind to leave him as soon as she got home. Xiaoli said to her, "I don't care if you stay with him."
Nineteen sisters believe that according to the standards of the ancients, to be a saint and a gentleman requires three immortals (virtue, merit and speech), or self-cultivation. Of course, not everyone can be a gentleman, but for an ordinary person, at least he should be filial to his parents and protect his wife and children. Unfortunately, this Xiao Xuan seems to have done nothing, not only nothing, but also many immoral and heartless things. What sense of security can such an irresponsible man find in him? Just don't fall into his trap.
For women, nineteen sisters think that Xiaoli's approach is not desirable. It is a skill to get through it and adjust your mentality, but patience is a weakness when others are riding around your neck. The author thinks that both Xiao Li and Xiao Hong should stand up, not only to have a wonderful life in live high, but also to bravely take out legal weapons to safeguard their rights and interests. Let such love rat know that family responsibilities are inescapable, that marriage life is not something he can run amok, and that he must bear the crimes he has committed.
The breakup of two families also ruined the lives of two women, and all this was caused by a man's irresponsibility. Paradoxically, without this man, the two children would be even less fatherly. On this premise, do you think Xiaoli and Xiaohong should sue him?