It is the most terrible thing to label the feelings of high school students as "puppy love". In this period of high school, the essence of "love" of some high school students is just an emotional sustenance sought under pressure, not real love. If you blame blindly at this time, it will only widen the psychological distance with high school students, and the result will get deeper and deeper.
It is wise to show understanding and respect to high school students, and to show that making friends should not be limited to the same sex. Having more easygoing friends of the opposite sex is a sign of maturity. As for the nature of this relationship with friends of the opposite sex, there is no definition.
Step 2: Share your feelings.
With the understanding and respect of parents, high school students will be surprised and happy, and naturally they will unload their psychological defense. At this time, parents should pay attention to 56-point thrashing and discuss the following issues with them:
What characteristics of the other party make him look particularly important. No matter how high school students answer, they are all affirmation of their own vision.
What's it like to be with each other? No matter how high school students describe it, they cherish this feeling like children.
How does it help to interact with each other? No matter how high school students elaborate, they should also sum up the conclusion of their lifelong development.
Finally, I must say that after listening to the description of senior high school students, I think this friend of the opposite sex is a very worthy friend, and I hope I can have the opportunity to know him.
Step 3: Accept the attitude
If the previous link goes well, high school students will be willing to introduce their heterosexual friends to you. You can choose to invite two high school students to eat KFC, or you can choose to invite them to have a casual chat at home. The content of the conversation can involve family situation, academic performance, future ideals, etc. But keep in mind a main line-ask two high school students to encourage each other, help each other, improve their grades and work together to realize their respective ideals!
Step 4: Communicate frequently.
At this point, you have basically defined your position and conveyed your attitude and expectations to high school students. They will work hard to repay your respect and understanding. However, children are children after all, and they are often not rational enough when dealing with emotional problems. So in the following days, you must pay attention to frequent communication with high school students to understand their daily experiences and feelings at school. Carefully observe the daily behavior and emotional changes of senior high school students. Once an abnormality is found, ask the reason in time and give them suggestions and ways to deal with the problem.
Don't be dissatisfied and anxious, it will make high school students feel insecure. In order not to worry you, I will hide the important parts when I communicate with you again.
Step 5: Don't forget to encourage.
While paying attention to frequent communication, don't forget to affirm any small achievement of high school students. It is not only the improvement of monthly exam results, but also the change of high school students' habits. Even if you find him awake when you are ready to wake him up one day, you should be sure.
Every message that can definitely be conveyed to high school students can help them build up confidence, narrow their psychological distance, and let high school students talk about everything with themselves.