Qilu: What is a sense of security? -"Women are the masters of men" 49

Recently, the judicial interpretation of the new marriage law caused an uproar. I have written several articles in succession, telling and deducing what women will suffer under the new judicial interpretation. Undoubtedly, for many women who equate their houses with their homes, their sense of security has been greatly reduced. The previous marriage law did not protect marriage but only property. Now the marriage law does not even protect property. This brings a new topic, that is, the sense of security in marriage and what is a sense of security. I know a girl named Momo. Momo is in love at the age of 23. Because her parents are divorced, she is bent on finding a boy who can give her a sense of security. At that time, several boys pursued her. One is the rich second generation, who promises to buy a house and a car, and promises to marry Mo Mo immediately. However, DOG felt that the rich second generation would be promiscuous if they had money at home, which would not give people a sense of security, so they soon separated. Another boy, from a poor family, has a father paralyzed in bed, and another brother is studying in Beijing. This boy is tall and burly, which makes people feel safe. DOG soon fell in love with this boy. In her view, on the one hand, it is the sense of security of appearance. No matter what happens in the future, this man will definitely help her. On the other hand, because the family is poor, DOG thinks this man will definitely not go out to play. Soon, two people got married. This boy does have a wedding room, but for some reason, the wedding room is written with his parents' names and a car, but the car is written with his brother's name. DOG also don't care, she felt married anyway, don't care so much. On the day of the wedding reception, Mo Mo was surprised to find that at the wedding reception, there were basically only a few immediate family members of the man, while none of the relatives of other hometown actually came. This puzzled DOG, but he didn't think too much. Two people have been married for a year, and their life is still average, because DOG found that this boy has a tall and burly appearance, but he can't bear any responsibility. There are only two things he knows best, one is to let his wife do it, and the other is to let his mother do it. And another worse thing, he has been moving things and money from his small family home, and then said that he would raise his younger brother and parents. It is right to support the family, but it is too much to move their wages and savings back to their own homes. The next year, DOG finally couldn't stand it and wanted to divorce him. Only after divorce did she know what a sense of security was. The house they live in is named after the man's parents, so it belongs to the man. Their car belongs to that man and its name is his brother's. And the cash deposit has been given to the man's parents and can't be taken back. The most irritating thing is that after marriage, the decoration and home appliances provided by Momo's family will be divided into half. DOG divorced, and this marriage cost her decades of life. She was very angry. She always thought she would find a man with super security, but in the end, it happened that she was the most insecure. Why is this happening? Just because Mo Mo made a mistake about the sense of security. The sense of security in marriage does not depend on how long you look at it, nor on whether your family is poor or not, but on whether the other party can solve your worries. What is a sense of security? Is a man willing to take the initiative to add your name to the real estate license. . . You are not afraid that he will consider divorce, and he is not afraid that you covet real estate. This is a sense of security. I don't care about appearance, and I don't care about imaginary things. Only by solving the actual worries and not worrying about each other at all is the sense of security. And more importantly, the sense of security is mutual, not just yours. Qilu works reprinted with luqi888888@gmail.com (Qilu: inspirational writer, best-selling author, screenwriter; He is the author of marriage is a woman's life, lurking in the office, the slave of work and so on. What did Qilu say? Say that the workplace is "the boss's public enemy"; Say that emotion is "the public enemy of men"; It is said that success is "the public enemy of all successful people". At any time, only speak for the little people. )