Some people are married, but this family can't give her the warmth, care, understanding and support she wants. You will only ask him blindly and ask you to pay blindly. In this way, I will be physically and mentally exhausted, live without ideals and goals, and just persist and work hard for my family. Did not enjoy the warmth, happiness and love of home.
Then how can we treat our spouse in a family so that he can feel the warmth, care and love of the family? I think this is a very complicated topic, but we should do it from three aspects.
1 Thank you for your care, support and company for so many years.
It is not easy for two people to be together. Living together needs mutual support and encouragement, even if you are unknown, or the participation of the other half is indispensable in your career, so many years of encouragement and support. You can't say that you are unknown, and then blame your other half and say that you have become a stumbling block and obstacle to my success. You can't say that you have a successful career, just say, look, how happy you are to marry me. Look, I still have great potential.
It is more important for us to express our gratitude to the other half. Of course, it is not just lip service, but also in daily life. If you just talk about it, show off in your daily life or often complain about your partner, then what's the point even if you talk about it?
We should always thank our spouses for their contributions to the family. Although unknown, few people can see it and care about it. Even outsiders will think that your other half is not good enough for you, but you must never have such an idea. You should express his support in such obscurity that you can concentrate on your work and career. At home, you should also thank the other half who works hard to earn money to support your family. They are not easily exhausted in various interpersonal relationships and working outside, and we also want to thank them for supporting this family.
Express love to your spouse and be willing to join hands with your spouse for life.
Some people are like this. Although they love someone deeply, they just don't express their love for each other and their determination to join hands for life.
. Perhaps in such people's minds, they think of an old couple, who often say I love you and give each other a hug in life. Some intimate actions are quite shy and embarrassing, only among young people. Actually, it's wrong to think so. Intimate physical contact is of course an expression of love, and verbal expression is also an expression of love. Understanding each other, sharing more things with each other and taking on more responsibilities are also manifestations of love.
Then there is the need to express the love between husband and wife. You don't say that the other person sometimes knows, sometimes doesn't know, sometimes knows but doesn't feel. Or maybe the other half is more resistant to the way you express your love. But then you have to figure out what the other person loves. There is a book called Five Languages of Sex. I hope everyone can understand.
It's easy to love someone, but it's not easy to love only one person all your life. It's even harder to love only one person and spend your life with him. So my wife and I agreed from the beginning of our marriage that no matter what happens, no matter how big the problem is, no matter how big the contradiction is, no matter how big the quarrel is, we will never mention divorce. These two words are too hurtful, sometimes they can't be taken back, and it's easy to get them if you say too much.
No matter whether we live a rich life or an ordinary life with our spouse in the future, we have a determination that I will live with you all my life, and I will live with you well and wholeheartedly.
Thanks for your spouse's guidance and correction for so many years.
I think all married men and women have such feelings, especially men.
. Ah, in daily life, your other half often says that you should pay attention to this and that in your life, don't throw your socks and clothes about, brush your teeth and wash your face before going to bed, and it's not right to get along with others. You didn't do well here, and you didn't do well there.
Sometimes we think it's picky, or we find fault in eggs, because there are no perfect people in this world, but we should calm down and think about it carefully. It is only because of love that you say such rude words to us. But it is really good for us, but sometimes it is an insult and disrespect when possible.
We have corrected some problems, some of which have not been corrected for many years, but our spouses still live with us, and they have learned to adapt, accept and tolerate. However, if no one often tells us that we really feel great and have no shortcomings, and there is someone nagging in our ears, we find that we used to have so many smelly problems, we can get rid of some of them, and really make our own lives more regular and make us better.
Think about it carefully, no one will point out your shortcomings all the year round, and the other party knows that you will be unhappy when you point out your shortcomings, and even you will ridicule the other party in turn, but the other party will continue to teach you, remind you and correct you next time. Yes, maybe we have quarreled many times because of such things, but when we have experienced ups and downs and are a little older, we should express our gratitude and love to each other, indicating that this is our good motivation.