Therefore, every time friends go out, they must repeatedly warn their children to pay attention to danger. But even so, my friends are still in fear.
The last time was because the children were going to play in heaven. This time, the friend said to the child carefully: "Be safe when you go out, don't get hurt, okay?" The child quickly agreed and walked out the door.
But when the child came back, the friend was stupid, because the child was already scarred by this time. In the process of playing, I stepped on the empty steps and got a big bag on my head.
In fact, from a friend's point of view, it is obvious that you can understand the truth that the more you worry, the more you will make mistakes. Children are invisibly pressured by friends and dare not take it lightly.
It is because of being too careful that children will make mistakes they shouldn't make. Traditionally, this is one of the main points of Murphy's theorem.
1. The more you worry, the more likely you are to make mistakes.
The most obvious point of Murphy's theorem is that the more you worry, the more likely you are to make mistakes, just like friends. It is common to put all the pressure on children and go outside to play.
But children are very afraid of getting hurt, and the more worried they are, the more likely they are to get hurt. Although they don't want to get hurt, tragedy is inevitable.
2. Actual actions will make mistakes according to feelings.
Murphy's theorem clearly points out that actual actions will be misjudged according to feelings. In fact, this truth is very simple, that is to say, when you do something, you think it is simple, then when you do it, you will find it is really simple. If you find it difficult, first of all, you have been defeated psychologically. How can you do good?
3. Anxiety makes people shake.
The third rule of Murphy's theorem, anxiety can shake people's hearts. In fact, this is also a very common phenomenon, especially for those children who are psychologically immature. Children themselves are prone to anxiety because of one thing, especially the more important thing.
But often because I am too worried, I can't play my own strength when I play. Once the heart is shaken, nothing can be done well.
This means that we should not put too much pressure on our children when educating them. If we always worry them, then they will be persecuted.
Although sometimes parents' education is good for children, even so, don't let children fall into anxiety. Otherwise, the child will never have a good result!
1. Things will be much worse than expected.
If children are under great pressure from their parents, especially when they need to do something very important. Pressure will make them lose confidence. When they do an important thing under pressure, they often can't give full play to their strength. Especially when children take exams, they are bound to be distracted by pressure, and the final results are often unsatisfactory.
2. Will always be in danger
Worrying too much about children will make them more vulnerable. Just like friends, children will always remind themselves not to get hurt outside, or their parents will worry. But because of the pressure on themselves, children often ignore some of the most normal phenomena. They may not be able to walk even the most basic things, and it is common to face danger.
3. Fear and inferiority complex increase
Stress can make children feel fear and inferiority, especially when parents put all their expectations on their children. Children are afraid that they will fail in the exam and live up to their parents' expectations. So they must devote all their energy to one thing, but it is because of fear and inferiority that they are getting farther and farther away from success. All this is because of too much pressure.
Parents can really care about their children, because children cannot grow up healthily without their parents' care. However, we don't need to put too much pressure on our children. Stress will only make them more haggard.
We might as well put ourselves in other's shoes and let children have self-awareness instead of forcing them to put pressure on them, which will be much better.
1. Parents should not always ask too much of their children.
Sometimes as parents, we don't need to ask too much of our children, because our requirements will only make them more stressed. We just need to watch the children do their own things independently and help them when necessary. Indirect help will make children understand your kindness, but the request will make them feel that you are putting pressure on them.
It is wise to let nature take its course.
We need to let nature take its course. Some things are destined to happen. If it can't happen, it's luck. Just like a child, it is normal to get hurt when going out. If you always remind them not to get hurt, stress will make them more vulnerable. Wise parents will not interfere in their children's affairs. Wouldn't it be better to let them be?
3. Let the children choose for themselves
We must let our children choose. Our choice does not represent their choice, which is the confusion of many parents. I thought I was being nice to my children, but I was actually putting pressure on them.
We need to let our children know that everything is our choice. Children prove themselves with their own ideas, without pressure. Stress is given by the outside world and never caused by itself.
So the word stress seems common, but it does kill children. If you are a smart parent, then you should not put too much pressure on your children, so that they will definitely thank you for your success in the future.
Many children can't move because of the pressure of their parents, which is also the reason why some children are very passive.
Today's topic interaction: Are you too worried about your children? Do you choose to intervene in children's affairs regularly? Can you make children stress-free? If you are also a decompression expert, welcome to discuss your parenting style with us. We also want to know what we can do to protect our children from it, and we can also know our good intentions.