I am a lazy person, even half a beat slower than others.
The friend said, "Look at Mr. Good, very good!" "
I said, "All right."
The fact is, I didn't really watch this drama on impulse until my friend turned on his mobile phone in front of me a few days ago and watched all the clips about consultants in Good Sir with me.
After reading it, I said to my friends, "I must write something, otherwise people will think the counselor is so unreliable."
I have to say that in recent years, although there have been more or less psychological doctors in film and television dramas, such as Master Hypnosis, Beiguang Don't Believe in Tears, Ode to Joy and Dear Translator, they have all made big and small mistakes. However, Xu Li in Good Sir is the most outrageous mistake, making almost all the mistakes that a consultant should not make.
The emergence of psychological counseling relationship must be based on the voluntary of visitors. Because the effect of consultation must be achieved through the joint efforts of consultants and visitors. If the visitors themselves have no intention to change, it will be difficult to achieve the expected results through negotiation.
In the play, Lu Yuan was tricked into consulting in a bar by Gan Jing without knowing it at all, which violated the basic principles of psychological counseling.
In the play, Xu Li, a consultant, met Lu Yuan in a bar, which is euphemistically called: the environment is relaxed.
The real consultation can only be carried out in the treatment room of a hospital or clinic, but also in the treatment room of an office building and home, and not in other places outside the consultation room. At the same time, the setting of the clinic should also meet the warm, hidden and quiet conditions, so that visitors can confide their feelings safely without being disturbed.
In order to ensure the information security of visitors, the consultation process only takes place between consultants and visitors. In the play, the counselor and the visitor meet for the first time, and there are two other friends present, and they are closely related, which is very unfavorable for psychological counseling.
Psychological counseling itself is a process in which visitors and counselors solve problems together. Among them, there is no question of who is better than who. The psychological counselor narrowed his eyes, and the attitude of "I am a psychological counselor, I can see through you" really exists only in everyone's imagination.
As far as I know, excellent psychological counselors are usually gentle and amiable, can guide visitors to see their own problems, and can frankly admit their shortcomings to visitors. Only with a sincere attitude can consultation be thorough and effective.
Xu Li, the psychological counselor in the play, is obviously too pretentious.
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In the play, when Gan Jing introduced Lu Yuan to Li Xu, he just said, "He (Lu Yuan) is nothing but naive."
Xu Lili immediately said: "Do you know that women can describe men with the word' childish', which implies infinite maternal tolerance?"
Even Gan Jing couldn't help saying, "Don't analyze me."
In fact, outside the clinic, without being invited, it is unprofessional for a consultant to analyze others, especially friends around him, and it is also very unfavorable for maintaining friendship.
Believe me, if the consultant analyzes everyone, Ta will definitely have no friends!
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Xu Li said this after meeting Lu Yuan for less than 5 minutes: "It's only a short contact. You can judge responsibly that your psychological problems are much bigger than your friends imagined. You use strong aggression to cover up your inner trauma, accompanied by early symptoms of paranoid schizophrenia and antisocial personality disorder. "
In fact, psychological counselors usually make the first judgment after consulting once or even many times and fully understanding the current situation and growth background of the visitors, and will never draw conclusions to the visitors so arbitrarily.
Moreover, such an aggressive conclusion will not be expressed to the visitors before the trust relationship between the psychological counselor and the visitors is established. Because this will not only do no good to the treatment, but also increase the anxiety of the visitors for consultation.
Counselors and visitors can't have any other relationship except consultation. In the play, Lu Yuan and Xu Li sometimes ask for advice, and sometimes get along as friends. The relationship between the two sides is serious and borderless.
In fact, psychological counseling has a lot of restrictive work, especially in the emotional aspect. The ultimate goal of a consultant's work should be to help the clients grow up, and he can't take the opportunity to satisfy his own desires and curiosity, and can't establish other relationships with clients other than consultation and interview. Because the establishment of dual relationship will hinder the process of consultation, and even disintegrate the relationship between consultation and visit, which is not conducive to the problem solving and personal growth of help seekers.
Strictly speaking, love relationship is a dual relationship, but it is quite special, so it is taken out separately.
In the play, consultant Xu Li volunteered to Lu Yuan: "If you are willing to accept another woman, I am one of them."
The Code of Professional Ethics for Psychological Counselors clearly stipulates that psychological counselors shall not have any form of sexual intimacy with visitors, nor shall they provide psychological counseling or treatment to those who have had sexual intimacy.
If the relationship between the counselor and the visitor has ended, you must not have any intimate relationship or sexual relationship with the visitor for at least three years.
In the play, in the process of discussing with Lu Yuan, Xu Li sat at her desk for a while and sat on the sofa next to Lu Yuan for a while, and both of them drank red wine.
In fact, in order to create a sense of stability and trust, visitors and consultants usually sit on the sofa for consultation, do not walk around, and of course it is impossible to drink.
Psychological counseling has a strict time setting. Generally, a counseling time is 50 minutes, so it is impossible to keep visitors overnight.
The principle of confidentiality is very important for psychological counseling. Unless visitors have self-harm or injury, they will choose to break the confidentiality within a certain range.
In the play, Xu Li told Gan Jing the secret she promised to keep for Lu Yuan, which caused Gan Jing to faint because of stimulation, which seriously violated the principle of confidentiality.
Although art comes from life above life, the psychological counseling industry is still in its infancy, and everyone is slowly understanding it. If you leave such a "casual" impression from the beginning, when you really consult, visitors will be puzzled by the various settings in the consultation, and will easily be disappointed with the "many rules" of the consultant, which is not conducive to treatment.
So, please!