(* * * affection, active attention and sincerity), if the psychological counselor shows these conditions, especially * * * affection, and is perceived by the help seeker, it will be very beneficial to establish a therapeutic relationship.
Helpers and counselors can feel the problem, which is related to emotional strength and objectivity. He usually has an unsatisfactory family relationship with Wang in bloodline, and his relationship with sound quality was touched and felt in consultation.
The feeling that therapists and helpers are actively working towards specific goals and results.
The promotion condition originates from Rogers' consulting theory, which is a humanistic therapy for help seekers. This theory is the basis of basic skills.
The first stage of theoretical development is called unsupervised consultation task, which is mainly to listen to the help seekers and observe the information exchange mode of the help seekers.
In the second stage, psychological counselors, known as helper centers, should not only observe the way visitors communicate with information, but also track the hidden and vague feelings or emotions of visitors to help them become self-fulfilling or functionally sound people.
Treatment is mainly based on the active partnership between the client and the counselor, and the personal growth of the client is realized through the client's own experience and the counselor's experience.
The growth of visitors is related to three core or promotion conditions, namely * * * emotion (accurate understanding), respect (active concern) and sincerity (seemingly so).
* * * Emotion is the ability to understand visitors from the perspective of visitors, not the consultant's own frame of reference.
The core is to provide emotional experience counselors with the emotional feelings of visitors and avoid comments that sound like criticism at any time.
The initial guardian's lack of acceptance makes some parts of the visitor's self suppressed, so it can't be repeated in the consultation process. On the contrary, counselors need to create an atmosphere, which is the way for visitors to be accepted and integrated with their previously buried selves, in order to achieve this goal, that is, to let visitors know how they look at themselves and the world without being criticized.
Judging from their own special personal development history, the way to trigger them is the most acceptable.
Visitors need to be cared about and told that they are excellent and accurate. I believe you will protect them.
Part of the work of providing a sexual environment includes reflecting the hopes or desires of visitors, but it does not actually meet these needs. This is the reaction of setting boundaries.
Combining this boundary setting with care and emotion will help tourists grow up and create a safe atmosphere.
These settings are necessary care arts and protection policies, and it is necessary to set boundaries for those who have impulsive behavior tendencies.
This is not only the distress of the helper, because the behavior of the helper violates your boundaries as a consultant.
* * * Emotional reaction and environment are usually regarded as supportive environment for providing treatment.
The newspaper-holding environment refers to the psychological counselor transmitting information to the visitors through words or actions, indicating that he knows and understands the deepest feelings and experiences of the visitors. At the same time, psychological counselors provide a safe and supportive atmosphere for visitors, so that visitors can deeply understand emotional reactions.
Sincerity is who you really are, without hypocrisy or affectation. Although most support teachers are professionally trained, consultants can convey sincerity by cooperating with visitors as ordinary people.
1. supports nonverbal behavior.
2. Role behavior
3. Consistency
4. Spontaneity
Step 5 make it public
Supportive nonverbal behavior
Counselors use appropriate intellectual nonverbal behaviors to convey sincere and sincere nonverbal behaviors, including eye contact, smiling and bending over visitors.
Role behavior
An executive who does not overemphasize the role authority or status may make visitors feel more sincere.
Consistency means that the words, deeds and emotions of psychological counselors complement each other and remain consistent.
spontaneity
Counselors naturally express their abilities, without deliberate affectation.
Sincerity also includes some self-exposure of psychological counselors.
Active attention, that is, respect, means praising and respecting the visitor as a valuable and dignified person.
Establishing an effective therapeutic relationship and actively paying attention to it have several important functions, including conveying the desire to cooperate with the help seekers, being interested in the visitors themselves and accepting them.
1. Commitment to tourists
2. Try to understand visitors
3. Delay criticality assessment
4. Show ability and care
Positive attention also includes expressing warmth to visitors.
It means that you are willing to work with visitors and are interested in it. It can be translated into concrete actions, such as keeping appointments on time, keeping special time for visitors and ensuring the confidentiality of the consultation process and results.
Psychological counselors try their best to understand visitors and pay close attention to their problems, so that visitors will feel respected.
Non-judgmental attitude is to really postpone the judgment of the visitor's behavior or motivation, avoid the former or forgive the visitor's thought, emotion or behavior ability.
Our active concern and respect for this consultant also includes taking measures to ensure that we can help visitors in terms of professional ability.
Special strategies and interventions can be considered technically correct, but weak warmth will cause a warm response during treatment.
The therapeutic relationship can greatly arouse strong emotions, which can be experienced by both psychological counselors and visitors.
Counselors' emotional objectivity and emotional intensity will affect empathy and anti-empathy in the relationship.
Empathy is a process in which a helper projects his past feelings or attitudes towards some important people in his life on a counselor.
The unsolved problems of visitors in the past will distort their perception and reaction to consultants.
Five common methods for counselors to deal with empathy of help seekers
1. Focus on the current relationship.
2. The meaning and explanation of empathy
3. The use of questions promotes understanding
4. Talk about empathy, advice and education
Expose oneself
Psychological counselors can also effectively deal with empathy by reflecting the wishes or desires of help seekers.
Anti-communism includes counselors' feelings and attitudes towards visitors. It is knowledge, a true response to an emotion or something that bothers him.
The psychological counselor's anti-empathy reaction may be intentional or harmful.
Harmful anti-empathy counselors' own pain often occurs in the following situations:
1. We blindly entered an important exploration field.
We care more about the consultant himself than the person seeking help.
3. We regard the helper as an alternative or real object of satisfaction.
We send subtle clues to guide those who ask for help.
Our intervention is not in the best interests of those who seek help.
It is particularly important that we adopt the role that the helper wants us to play according to his old life script.
Many psychological counselors believe that therapeutic relationship is a therapeutic partnership, and counselors and visitors should work in a cooperative way.
In particular, the components of the work alliance are pointed out:
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2. Treatment task agreement
3. Emotional connection between visitors and counselors
Sometimes there may be cracks or cracks in the work alliance, showing the tension necessary to negotiate with others.
The hidden or direct expression of visitors' negative emotions, inconsistent views on treatment goals or tasks, avoidance and non-response are all cracks in the work alliance.
Relationship variables, promoting conditional divorce and reflecting emergency work alliance are all affected by visitors' consultation interest.
Therefore, most tourists have contradictory feelings about change.
Counselors may also show ambivalence and lack of motivation for a particular visitor, including being late for treatment, ending treatment early, canceling treatment, and preventing visitors from talking.
When dealing with pessimistic or depressed visitors, it is very important for psychological counselors to accept themselves and accept the rebellious behavior of visitors.
It is very important to accept visitors and yourself.
When the counselor can't accept or accept an unwilling visitor and resists counseling, the visitor and the counselor often publicize each other as unwelcome people, so the counselor will feel that his efforts have failed.
According to the theory of psychological resistance, if others urge them to change, but individuals feel that their freedom is reduced or reduced, they will resist others more and try to change.
1. There are many ways to encourage tourists to participate more.
2. When visitors make any changes, reduce the emphasis on your influence.
3. The influence of effort is not obvious.
4. Invite tourists to express their opinions
Timing and rhythm are related to the consultant's consultation progress.
Methods to reduce the resistance caused by timing and rhythm include changing the rhythm, temporarily leaving sensitive topics, and then coming back or reducing the emotional intensity during treatment.
Counselors should first listen carefully to what the visitors say, so as to evaluate the important positions and viewpoints of the visitors.
It is very important to pay attention to the words chosen and used by visitors, who show their position through specific users.
Counselors also need to make suggestions and tasks in a way that visitors may cooperate.
Inexperienced consultants are worried about their ability and effectiveness in facing visitors, and their resistance may become stronger.
The first effective step to deal with ability anxiety is to admit that expressing your anxiety like one of your peers or superiors will reduce the degree of anxiety and reduce your excessive attention to yourself.
There is also the establishment of their own boundaries in treatment, to distinguish between what is reasonable and responsible within a reasonable range, and what is what the helper must be responsible for.
The saying that the fraternity is a family is of great significance to the counselor.
When consultants feel tired or overworked, when they are too busy caring about other people's lives and neglect their own needs, the main resistance of consultants will become serious.
The best way to avoid the resistance caused by excessive fatigue, work and consumption is to prevent reasonable arrangement of work and environmental conditions, so that fatigue is less likely to occur.
Fei Zhiyuan's visitors may come for help out of some pressure and may show more resistance than voluntary visitors.
Treating forced tourists requires flexibility, creativity and mechanism.
Starting from the current status of milk powder users, it is a suitable starting point to show interest in what visitors want to talk about.
Because many involuntary visitors care about and protect themselves, we should avoid asking visitors to expose themselves in our lives and avoid other surgeons wearing any masks.
Another way to start is to do something first, so that visitors can feel helpful.
Another feasible method is to make visitors feel more controlled. When there is little or no control over the process and results of consultation, they are more likely to regard the consultant as the representative of the institution or individual who recommended them to consult, so their subjectivity will be enhanced.
If possible, renegotiating the agreement is also a way to increase visitors' sense of control and responsibility.
If the approved visitor is still not interested in the consultation, the consultant can choose to end or terminate the consultation and choose the sponsor who helps to send the visitor to the consultation room for consultation.
Usually sponsors are more interested in solving problems and are more willing to make some changes than those involuntary visitors.