I don't know when, "a good horse never looks back" has become a consistent code of conduct. Take a closer look at its origin, which probably means that a group of horses are scrambling to eat grass on the grass and turn around to eat the rest of the grass. Generally speaking, their competitiveness is weak, and they will eat grass again if they can't beat other horses. This may be the original intention of a good horse to stop eating grass.
Speaking of which, I can't help but think of a story I have seen before about selecting wheat ears. At the edge of a wheat field, three people were told that they had only one chance to choose an ear of wheat, and they were not allowed to go back to see who chose the most. As soon as the first man got out of the wheat field, he excitedly chose an ear of wheat that looked big enough; After the second man went to the field, he walked around to understand the growth of wheat, and then almost halfway through, he chose the biggest ear of wheat he thought; The third person is probably a football fan. I remember Bailey's famous saying that "the best goal is the next one". He kept walking in the wheat field and always felt that there were bigger ears of wheat behind him. As a result, he had reached the edge of the wheat field and had to pick an ear of wheat nearby. Judging from this story, it seems that the third kind of person is obviously the hardest, and is also the closest to the "good horse" of "never returning to grass". It is estimated that because it is a "good horse", it can go further, so it does not look back. As a result, the biggest ear of wheat can only remain in memory.
From this perspective, "eating grass or not" can not be used as a criterion to measure whether it is a "good horse". Let's take the workplace for example. For example, you used to do a good job in one unit, and the leader appreciated it, but you jumped to another unit for various reasons, only to find that this unit was not as good as the original unit in all aspects. You moved your mind and wanted to go back, but you hesitated because of the concern that "a good horse will never eat grass again" What should you do at this time?
Don't lose face.
China people do have the crux of "a good horse never returns to the grass". I think one of the important reasons is that "human feelings" and "face" are at work. If "a good horse turns around", you will feel that there is no "face", and everyone will think, "If I had known today, why bother?" As a result, many people "have to lose face when they die." There is also a saying in China that "the prodigal son never changes his gold", mainly to find a beautiful saying for those who "turn back". Nevertheless, few people can turn back, because it requires enough courage and motivation.
As the saying goes, "People have faces, but trees have skins". Why do you want to change jobs when you are satisfied with your original unit? Of course, it is "this mountain looks at that mountain." It is not surprising that I feel inferior to my old unit in all aspects when I arrive at my new unit.
A friend of mine gave a very simple answer to the question "Should a good horse turn back?". He said that even if the leading colleagues in the former unit really wanted him to go back, he would never go back. The main reason is obvious: others can forgive his "unwise" choice, but he can't forgive himself. In addition, the new unit accepted him and he jumped back. Although he is free to come and go, what will the leaders of the new unit think of his character? Now that you have come to this new unit, you can't just consider your own interests. He will work here in a down-to-earth manner for at least a year and a half, and strive to make some contributions to the new unit. If you are really dissatisfied with this company, then choose another new company to "jump ship". The original unit will definitely not go back, because I am ashamed to meet the elders in Jiangdong!
Although the face has been saved, it is a pity that due to the inexplicable old saying "a good horse no longer eats grass", how much "grass" remains and "horse" disappears. My friend, I can only "look at the grass and sigh"
If the only reason that makes you hesitate is that the concept of "a good horse doesn't eat grass back" is at work, it makes people feel that it is shameful to leave resolutely at the beginning and come back now with its tail between its legs. Actually, it's not necessary Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "good birds choose wood to live". Now people understand job-hopping Even if the original choice is your own fault, who can make a mistake? It's not good to change it, not to mention it's not a big mistake in principle.
In fact, if you think about it carefully, there are few things in a person's life that really can't be "turned back". If life has two coordinates of time and space, only time can truly "turn back" and never return. "Don't go back to the grass" is just a saying. If you like, any horse can "visit" the same grass at different times, provided that the grass is still waiting for the horse.
There is grass back, why not eat it?
There is such an example. Teacher Zhu, who graduated from the School of Chemical Engineering and majored in chemical equipment, applied for the first time to join a Japanese cosmetics company as the head of the equipment department. As this is a new company, the company's Japanese headquarters sent professional and technical personnel to the company to conduct professional and technical training for a group of employees such as Mr. Zhu. Mr. Zhu quickly mastered the technology of the company's chemical equipment, became the technical backbone of the company, and was highly valued by the company. He earns several thousand yuan a month, and at the end of the year, the company gave him another bonus. In principle, Mr. Zhu Can worked in this company with peace of mind and served the company, but just as he ended his one-year labor contract with this company, he applied for another company of the same type that promised a high salary. The former general manager of the company told him that you are a talent of the company, and it is a pity that the company failed to keep you, but the door of the company is open to you, and you are always welcome when you want to come back to the company. After Mr. Zhu went to another company, because that company's cosmetics hygiene was not up to standard, the company's production could not operate, and the high salary promised to Mr. Zhu could not be fulfilled. At this time, he regretted it very much. He wants to go back to his old company, but the old saying "a good horse never looks back" puts him in a dilemma. Later, the general manager of the original company learned of his situation and sent someone to invite him back to the original company. Mr. Zhu Can was described as "the good horse is back on the grass"
Since the original unit welcomes you back, it means that you are still needed, which means that the leaders also regard you as a rare talent. The foundation is so good, why not turn back?
And from my own point of view, if I return to my original unit, I will work harder than before and cherish the job opportunities I have regained this time, which is undoubtedly good for both individuals and units. Therefore, turning back is the first choice.
For most enterprises, how to treat employees who have left their jobs is not only the embodiment of corporate culture, but also the consideration of benefit and efficiency: a person who is familiar with corporate environment, workflow and corporate culture will be more likely to enter the role. More importantly, the former employee's decision to return to the "old employer" was made after careful consideration, which objectively guaranteed his will and efforts.
Many foreign companies regard "job-hopping employees" as valuable resources. Many people in the workplace have had this experience: their former employers suddenly called them and told them that the enterprise urgently needed their ability and experience, and even said that "the enterprise can't live without you" and hoped that they could "return to their hometown". Faced with this compliment, there are indeed many people who make the decision that "I have to go back and save them".
More and more domestic enterprises also realize that leaving employees is a fortune. In Lenovo, Founder and other enterprises, this phenomenon of "return" of talents is very common. To this end, they have also formulated relevant rules and regulations for this phenomenon. Some insiders said that this decision of the enterprise is undoubtedly a smart one, because for the returned talents, the enterprise can occupy greater initiative in management.
Obviously, "Bole" has "let bygones be bygones" for "good horse" and still opens the door to welcome this good horse. We should be tolerant of talents. The "magnanimity" of an enterprise gives talents a stage to display their talents, while the development prospect of an enterprise attracts "returning the good Ma Le to the grass", and the final result is bound to be "win-win"!
A "good horse" should also be cautious when turning back.
Of course, when we are preparing to turn back, we should also carefully analyze whether we have the conditions to "turn back".
First of all, is your resignation an objective condition or a subjective reason? If it is an objective reason, have these conditions changed? If not, are you willing to accept them? Whether returning to the original post will be the same as before, whether you have the psychological endurance to bear the comments and possible frustration behind your colleagues, and so on. These are the basic conditions for deciding to go back.
Secondly, whether the new unit really has no future is still a cognitive deviation. Is the difference between the two units due to material benefits or successful environment? If it is the former, you'd better be cautious, because the pursuit of material benefits is infinite, and colleagues in the original unit will also have a view of "mercenary" for you; If it is the latter, it may be understood.
Once again, the former unit leader can accept you again, which shows that he is broad-minded and forgets the past. But do you know his real intention? The leader's "welcome" may be out of work needs, or it may be to give you "face", so it is not good to refuse in person. In addition, in addition to the appreciation of the leaders, colleagues in the original unit also need to know their views on your return. Moreover, whether the jobs in the original unit are still empty waiting for you to come back and so on. Are all questions you should consider, otherwise it is inevitable to repeat the same mistakes.
However, the survey results of relevant foreign institutions show that some good horses are now facing a dilemma. Experts remind those who want to eat grass again: "Before giving in to vanity and heroism, you must remind yourself that this is an enterprise you are trying to leave, and consider whether to accept this job from the perspective of career development."
"Once a person leaves a place, he often forgets the bad things there and just wants to remember the good things." John O 'Neill, chairman of the San Francisco Leadership Training Center, said that we must get rid of the illusion of being familiar with the environment. "Before making a decision, you should communicate with at least four employees of the former company (in general, one person will only contact one or two people, and talking with four people can get more opinions). The purpose of communicating with them is to understand some new changes that have taken place in the company since you left your job, such as the new adjustment of organizational structure and how to give full play to your new skills when you go back.
Sometimes, returning to the original company often does not necessarily mean a person's progress. Just like trying on an old coat when you grow up: familiar but uncomfortable. Susan Bishop represents a media manager recruitment company in new york. She said that a few years ago, many of her clients switched from traditional and slow-growing large-scale media to new and web-based media, but now the situation is just the opposite. "Many people have mastered new skills and new work experience, and they want to give full play to their new expertise with their former employers," she explained. "But the goals and strategies of many enterprises are still exactly the same as before, and the management mode of enterprises has not changed in the past one or two years, which is alarming."
Kevin cashman, a famous career consultant, said: "A middle manager began to realize that he had made a mistake after returning to his former financial company for six months." "Since he resigned, his former employer began to realize his true value and offered him higher treatment to recall him. Just when he was ready to meet the challenge with new knowledge, he found that there was no challenge at all. "
Of course, "turning back" or "not turning back" is the free choice of a "good horse", but those who insist on looking for the next better grass or ear of wheat, after wasting their lives, lament and regret, only to find that the best has actually been missed. Such a so-called "good horse" is a bit unworthy. Of course, "turning back" has a premise. If the road ahead is too rugged, even leading to the desert, if the "returning grass" is delicious and still waiting for you there, I think it's better to turn around and start at once. As the saying goes, "turn back when the time comes", this is the real "good horse".