What is the concept of 4 100 km? It takes more than five hours for an airplane to fly at 800 kilometers per hour, 29 hours for an express train at 140 kilometers per hour, and 4 kilometers per hour on foot. I think it will be scrapped.
What does it feel like to be 4 100 km apart between people? I think sister Yanzi is the most experienced person.
As long as two people love us to the end, why covet my Heron?
I like to recite this poem in front of sister Yanzi, because she and her husband are two points 4 100 km apart on Baidu map.
Every year around June 5438+ 10, Sister Yanzi will pack her bags, transfer from the train to the plane, and then to the car for three days, and arrive at the "best manor". The Panchen Lama lived in Shigatse, where she met her husband, stayed for a month, and then hurried back to work, and then expected her husband to come to this small place to stay like her during the Chinese New Year.
In a whole year, the couple will not spend more than three months together, and the rest of the time can only talk about their lovesickness by phone or video, which is 4 100 km away.
I met Yanzi's sister at a forum. Four people in the town gathered all the young civil servants in the town and wanted to select some young people to write materials for the DangZhengBan in this way. Before the meeting, they introduced themselves, and everyone frankly revealed their small fortune.
When it was the swallow's turn, she was silent for a while and adjusted her glasses. Before she finished speaking, she saw that her eyes were a little red. "Unlike you, I am a foreigner, and I came here from a place far away from home through the exam. My family is also very simple, but my family of three is divided into three places. I am in this small town, my daughter is in my hometown, and my husband is in Shigatse ... "
I was shocked by the word "Shigatse". The couple crossed more than half of China, which is the farthest long-distance love I have ever met.
The distance of 4 100 km makes Stefanie the only person in the town who has the right to enjoy family leave. When October is approaching, the climate in Shigatse is relatively suitable and the work at hand is relatively easy, Stefanie can successfully get a batch of counterfeit banknotes and go to the westernmost part of the motherland. I stayed there with an oxygen bottle for a month, and when I came back, people always lost weight because of lack of oxygen, so she always joked with us that Shigatse was the place where she lost weight.
When the child was almost three years old, Sister Swallow took her to town. Because of physical reasons, my mother-in-law can only come over occasionally to help look after her, so Sister Yanzi sent her children to the kindergarten in the town early and began to take care of them while working. However, the family of three eventually changed from three places to two places, and the worries of Sister Swallow also converged in one place, so there is no need to worry at both ends.
Because the dishes cooked by Yanzi's sister are delicious, I have become a frequent visitor to her home, and I have gradually become familiar with her. Every day after work, I always like to sit under the osmanthus tree in the office yard and play with Yanzi's sister's little darling.
Children are very lively, especially fond of laughing, and their curved eyebrows are very similar to those of Sister Swallow. Sometimes colleagues tease little lovely and ask her where her father went. Little lovely always answers generously that her father is in Tibet, where he makes money to buy me candy.
It's hard to live alone with children. Sometimes Sister Stefanie can't come back to pick up the children in time because she has to go to work in the countryside, so Cute will be taken to the office by her colleagues. Occasionally, when several colleagues she is familiar with are not available, Xiao Cute can only stay in kindergarten. The longest time, when the moon was in the treetops, Sister Swallow dragged her tired body back from the village.
In early spring, children are always prone to catch cold. What Stefanie is most afraid of is that the child cries in the middle of the night for physical reasons.
Once, it was almost twelve o'clock. When I was sleepy in the warm bed, the phone call from Yanzi's sister came. On the other end of the phone, there were lovely and harsh cries and Yanzi's sister's urgent cry for help. I quickly put on my clothes and went straight to Yanzi's sister's house.
Little cutie cried and said that her ears hurt. Sister Swallow was so anxious that tears fell. The hospital in town is far away and I don't have a car. So I had to call another colleague who had a car and pull him out of bed. Then I called the doorman to open the door. It took them half an hour to get to the hospital in town.
At night, the township hospital is almost empty, and the duty room is empty. Another colleague and I searched for a long time in the hospital before finding the doctor on duty. Results Because the equipment was uneven, it was impossible to diagnose the cause of the little cute ear pain. After tossing until two o'clock in the middle of the night, Little Cute finally fell asleep in her mother's arms because she was tired of crying, so we had to go home. At this time, Sister Swallow's face was exhausted.
The next morning, Sister Swallow took the first bus with Little Cute, went to the downtown hospital, and didn't return to town until evening.
Because the child is young, Sister Yanzi is afraid to take the child to Shigatse for fear that the child can't stand it. It was not until Little Cute was five years old that after a month-long ideological struggle, Sister Swallow got up the courage to take Little Cute to Shigatse. After arriving in Shigatse, Sister Yanzi sent a photo and watched them lying on the sofa with oxygen bottles. My tears came at once, spanning the love power of 4 100 km.
A week later, Sister Swallow came back with her child. Because of lack of oxygen, the little cutie couldn't eat anything for several days, so she had to come back, and this time her husband followed.
Because of worrying about his wife and children, the man stationed in the plateau took a vacation at the end of the year in advance, but when he came back, he could only lie in bed because of gout caused by drunkenness and being stationed in the cold area all the year round. That week, you can always see Sister Swallow helping her husband move in the yard, with a lovely smile behind her.
Yanzi's sister's love is admirable, but only she can understand the bitterness. Maybe you will ask, why don't they try to work in one place and try to mobilize one?
However, under the system, how easy is it to mobilize in such a far place? Because of the needs of the country, her husband went to places that ordinary people didn't want to go, and he sprinkled his youth in the westernmost part of the motherland. How can she bear the blame? She herself, just an ordinary person, has no rich financial resources to give her the courage to quit her job and go to her husband.
4 100 kilometers away, they crossed the difficulties in different places with love, and they solved the difficulties with mutual understanding.
Within the system, when we face marriage and work, there will always be many disappointments. When you are complaining or want to give up, please calm down and look back to see if you really followed your inner choice, whether you are working hard in your marriage, and the road you chose needs to go step by step. No one can take what belongs to you.
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The distance between people is far and near. Dr. Edward Twitchell Hall Jr, an American anthropologist, divided four distances for interpersonal communication.
1, public distance: 3.7m to 7.6m.. As the name implies, the distance between unrelated people or people they don't know, such as the distance between unrelated people in public.
2. Social distance: 1.2m ~ 3.7m reflects a more formal relationship in business or etiquette.
3, personal distance: 46 cm ~ 122 cm, the space between people, I am a person who pays great attention to personal distance. Don't invade my distance, don't get too close to me, I'll get angry.
4. Intimate distance: 15 cm ~ 44 cm 15 cm, which is the most intimate interval, and each person can feel each other's body temperature and breath. Between 15 cm and 44 cm, physical contact may show arm-in-arm or heart-to-heart conversation. Within 44 cm, in the opposite sex, only couples, couples, etc. Between the same sex, it is often limited to close friends.
And the distance between you and me is just a concern.