Family members should respect, understand, trust and care for each other. Children get the gentlest, purest and most selfless maternal love and strict paternal love from their parents, feel the warmth of family and the power of parental education, thus generating a sense of stability and security, which is conducive to the formation of an independent, optimistic and confident personality; Children's caring experience for parents promotes the healthy growth of children's body and mind, and children's pure hearts will gradually breed seedlings of love. They love their parents and families since childhood, their partners and the collective at school, and they will love the people and the motherland in the future and become caring and responsible young people. Parents should strive to create a harmonious and happy family atmosphere, so that children have pride, happiness, security and confidence in their future.
(B) to create a good learning environment:
Students at school spend 2/3 of their time at home. Parents should give their children a quiet, clean and comfortable environment, not luxuriously decorated and fully equipped. For example, it is necessary to prepare a desk and a bookshelf for them, set up a fixed study corner, and provide children with necessary cultural learning supplies, which can not only meet their psychological needs, but also facilitate their study. In order to improve the learning atmosphere, parents and children can also decorate some calligraphy and painting banners, study plans and timetables on the walls to stimulate learning. In order to create a fresh and rich cultural atmosphere and elegant and beautiful artistic atmosphere, we can set up a family book corner, watch healthy and beneficial TV programs, disseminate accurate and scientific information, and so on, which will have a healthy impact on children.
As long as children are doing proper learning, parents should not easily interrupt their thinking. We often see such a situation: when children are studying, parents are nagging and teaching, and they think they are urging their children. Zhu didn't know that this kind of education policy not only destroyed the quiet learning environment, but also was not conducive to children's boredom, which affected the persuasion and education effect of parents in the future. There are also some kind-hearted parents who like to give their children food and drinks when they do their homework, thinking that this can supplement nutrition and improve learning efficiency. In fact, this not only interrupts the children's learning ideas, but also absorbs the study habits that will be "eaten" in doting.
It is necessary to avoid over-disciplining and over-supervising children regardless of their actual situation, especially demanding children's education. In fact, everyone's talent and growth environment are different, and it is really impossible to be the best everywhere. As parents, it is certainly not a pleasant thing to know that their children are inferior to others in some aspects. However, if you push him again, he will only be more depressed. The next best thing is to make him a serious, confident and happy person, which is much better than making him a depressed and inferior person. Therefore, parents should guide their children to make practical plans according to their actual situation, so that their academic performance can be gradually improved, so that children can realize their interest in learning and enhance their self-confidence, which is very beneficial to their current study and future life. Seeking truth from facts is the way to be a man and the way to teach.
We should also pay attention to the role of parents as role models. In spare time, it is not only beneficial for parents to learn business, or to improve their cultural level by reading books and newspapers, but also beneficial to children. This can not only enrich their knowledge reserves, adapt to the increasingly fierce social competition, but also create a studious atmosphere for families and bring motivation to children's learning. You know, no matter how clever a child is, it is difficult to become a talent in a family where drinking orders are given every day and cards are played every day.
(3) Respect, understand and trust children;
Parents should respect their children. Without respect for children, there is no good parent-child relationship. For parents, we should respect the diversity and difference of children's development, their individuality and their ideas, and don't always think in the rigid thinking of "you are a child, you must obey", or even beat and scold children at will, and completely regard children as parents' accessories. In life, parents can make full use of expressions and body language to express their respect for their children, such as smiling and talking to their children and trying to discuss problems with them ... These seemingly insignificant actions will make children feel the respect of their parents. When children feel their parents' respect for them, they will psychologically close the distance with their parents, which will make their relationship in a good interactive state. The most taboo in family education is that parents always put on a face of "family dignity" and simply preach to their children. Some children have a strong rebellious attitude and are prone to rebellious attitude, thus causing tension with their parents.
Parents should understand their children. Tao Xingzhi said: "To educate children, we should try to figure out their psychology." How do we do this? This is inseparable from parents' understanding of their children. Parents should pay attention to understand their children's usual words and deeds, understand their psychological development characteristics, and understand their advantages and disadvantages. If parents have a deeper understanding of their children, they can prescribe the right medicine according to their own situation, solve the problem calmly, and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings with their children, which will lead to tension. It is necessary to deeply understand the characteristics of children's psychological development and their emotional ups and downs, study and living conditions. Young children, in particular, are in an active period of thinking development, their thinking is not mature enough, their ability to distinguish right from wrong is poor, and they are prone to various problems. Therefore, only when parents fully understand their children can they prescribe the right medicine for their children's problems, instead of always giving "clothes for a one-year-old child and clothes for a five-year-old child". How can this achieve a good educational effect? Therefore, parents should try their best to see the world around them with their children's ideas, think about problems with their children's way of thinking, and strengthen their education on the basis of fully understanding their children.
Parents should trust their children. Some parents always say, "Most children are children." They always try their best to "protect" their children and arrange everything for them. I don't know if this will make children's independence and self-care ability worse. Therefore, parents should dare to trust their children, their abilities, their courage and their wisdom. Parents can let their children do what they can under appropriate circumstances, such as cleaning, folding quilts, washing dishes, and even "creating" various scenarios, so that children can explore and exercise their abilities. For example, group activities such as school outings are good opportunities for parents to "let go" their children, and they are also like a touchstone to test whether parents dare to "let go". As long as parents dare to "let go" appropriately, they will certainly find that their children can develop better! And this is also very conducive to the establishment of good relations between the two sides.
(D) create an example atmosphere:
Parents' personality, morality, knowledge and emotion have a subtle influence on their children. To improve their personality, parents should not only teach by example, but also set an example. Parents should be optimistic and enterprising, study hard, work hard, love life, have noble hobbies (such as reading, traveling and helping others), and create an atmosphere of example.
First of all, parents should have high ideological quality, pay attention to the international political situation and state affairs, share joys and sorrows with the fate and future of the country, and cultivate their children's patriotic feelings. If the issue of Taiwan Province Province becomes the focus at present, let your children watch TV, newspapers and magazines about Taiwan Province Province with you, and let them understand that Taiwan Province Province is a sacred and inseparable part of China in plain language. Although some people get in the way, as China people, they are confident, capable and more obligated to bring Taiwan Province Province back to the embrace of the motherland. Every parent should learn more from Yue Fei's mother's lofty aspirations and broad mind. ...
In life, we should consciously go to work on time and work actively; Honest and clean; Tell the truth, do honest things, and edify children with examples.
Secondly, in the face of endless cultural goods, parents should distinguish between good and bad, truth, goodness, beauty, precision, falsehood, evil, ugliness and coarseness, have good cultural quality, read more books and newspapers, and learn some knowledge about politics, economy, astronomy, geography, art and sports. Parents' erudition will become the driving force for children's progress, and they will consciously strengthen their exercise, improve themselves, and work hard in the direction expected by their parents.
Facing the only child favored by generations, parents should also strive to cultivate good psychological quality. The education department has repeatedly reiterated that there are deep-seated reasons for cultivating children's ability to resist setbacks. In reality, the common suicide cases among teenagers have sounded the alarm for us. Parents should educate their children to accept criticism, face setbacks correctly and persevere in the face of failure. It is necessary to help children analyze setbacks, laugh with them to overcome setbacks, and consciously create appropriate frustration situations, so that children can exercise their frustration tolerance in advance in adversity and make them undergo the tempering of their will quality in adversity. You can let your child live a "hard life" every few days and eat a few meals of coarse grains and pickles. You can't give your child everything he wants to buy toys and make new clothes. They are required to carry out some difficult experiments, consciously arrange confrontation with strong players in the competition, and use the winter and summer vacations to send them to a tough environment for tempering. ...