From the preparation of the appointment, pay attention to the following points.
The first point: Your appearance is really important, and a good first impression is better than all verbal routines. Improve your dress and taste, and dress neatly. If you have the conditions, you can go to a professional abstract design agency. In addition to the inside, you should also pay attention to the details: socks, underwear, underwear, these tools are often the center of women's simplest attention.
The second point: prepare several sets of dating plans, determine the date place, do your homework, and reserve a place in advance if you can make a reservation in advance. In addition, pay attention to the traffic situation. Many dates are during the rush hour. If there are some unexpected situations, such as too many people and no seats. There must be other plans. Remember, don't be at a loss when making a choice, don't be indecisive, a bad choice is better than no choice.
Third, the goal of dating. I often hear "I spent hundreds of dollars and didn't buy it." This is really a bad attitude. If you want to be a hot girl, you must be positive and healthy. For learners, dating is for practice. If, like me, you didn't even dare to look a girl in the eye at first, you would be ashamed to talk in one word. What you need to practice is how to improve your expressive ability. There is no better way to face girls.
Everything is ready, of course, to start dating. At this time, many brothers are facing a result. "What do you say?" This is the focus of tomorrow, and I have summarized several stages. No matter what you think, blind date, communication software, friend introduction, blind date and so on. Usually used in these stages.
How does dating interact?
So in the process of dating, your body language, mood, tone, speed, progress and eye contact are much more important than what you say. Stick to the posture of standing with head bowed and chest held high. Your mood should be natural. Smiling is very important. You can change your tone appropriately when expressing your mood. Every word should be clearly defined. Progress is really important.
Eye contact is also important. Give her a weak look when she appears in front of you. You can focus your eyes from all her faces to her eyes. If you make eye contact with her, don't dodge. Hold on 1 sec. If you have a natural smile on your face, then you have scored.
Don't make up your mind to fight with your eyes yet. Many times, such as when you are walking, when you are thinking, when you feel infected by the atmosphere, or when you are immersed in a certain emotion, you don't need to fight with your eyes. Paying too much attention to her will make her uncomfortable. If you talk face to face, you should look at her most of the time when she or you are talking. At this time, it's best to have gentle eyes to fight, that is, to spread your eyes all over her face, don't gather your eyes together, just look into her eyes when your mood is high, maybe when you expect to lose her response.
It's an exaggeration here: if you get along with a girl, you can't make her happy most of the time, which doesn't matter, but at most, you should make her feel warm most of the time.
The following are the key points. What topics should we start with? Remember that atmosphere is more important than words, because it is never what you say to attract a girl, but as far as veteran learning is concerned, a clear dating structure is needed. Do the above, basically don't have to worry about the topic. A group will be very tired to start a topic. If the two groups are compared, the topic will be endless.
At first, two strangers just met, so we should stop some social intercourse first.
Empty talk: "It's been a long time!" "The traffic will be very heavy tomorrow ..."
Praise type: "Wow, you are dressed very lovingly tomorrow!" "
Contact type: "Well, you are a little different from what you gave me that day. I don't know why.
Initiative: (laughing) "Now we have two choices. First, we go to xxxx, and second, we go to xxxx! "
These topics opened for entertainment should not be too long, just a few words are enough. This is to solve the dilemma when we first met and buffer the atmosphere of chatting behind. At present, the general process is that you need to find a warm and quiet speaking situation, which is about half an hour to an hour. Short topics are not deep enough, and sitting for a long time will be boring.
In the first ten to twenty minutes, the topic should be the kind of information exchange and expansion. Information exchange is very important, such as what the task is, where the hometown is and so on. But this kind of topic is good. Even if your task is high, don't be too pretentious. Now is not the time to show.
Expand overlapping topics, such as what you usually do, hobbies, shopping there, eating tools there and so on. It is necessary to ask about your grades, but don't go on asking. You can talk about yourself before asking questions, and then ask her.
You can change your mood when exchanging information. For example:
Man: Where are you from?
Woman: I'm from Beijing.
M: I don't think you do. You should be from the south, because you are small.
W: I have a very standard Beijing accent!
M: Well, your southwest accent is very standard. ...
Seemingly illogical dialogue can make girls happy quickly. Make a girl happy enough to improve her tolerance for you. From the cost point of view, the price you gave her is ridiculous.
Information exchange, expanding the intersection, can make girls familiar with you quickly, and can also greatly expand the topic of conversation between you, so that many conversations can stop smoothly. At present, your attention should turn to how to better show your life and birth cost on the basis of humor.
At present, the atmosphere between you has been very harmonious for 20 minutes. If she continues to be interested in you, the topic of your can go to a deeper level. The best topic is your experience, including family, tasks, sightseeing, that is, what you and the first person "I" have seen and heard, and you have an objective feeling of being infected. These experiences should be funny and embedded with some exhibition points.
For example, the trip that impressed me the most should have happened several years ago. I went to Tibet with a hundred people. At that time, the Qinghai-Tibet Railway was just old-fashioned. We bought five tickets and had a wide network of contacts. Before we set off, we got on the train with a big bag of tools. Others think we are avoiding disaster.
The train traveled for two days and nights. On the third night, I woke up to find everyone crowded by the window and looked out. I followed everyone's eyes and found a lamb in the middle not far from the train, bowing its head and eating grass. This is the legendary Tibetan antelope. ...
When we arrived in Lhasa, we were all normal and didn't have altitude sickness, so the next day, relatives from other places lent us a car and suggested that we go to Namtso, a famous scenic spot near Lhasa. Here we go. We have never driven on a mountain road. I'm a little flustered. It suddenly rained heavily on the road and I couldn't see the road clearly. Dad suddenly showed altitude sickness, so we had to go back to Lhasa overnight. Driving all day really makes me dizzy, but 100 people's safety is in my hands. I have made up my mind in advance that I will defend them anyway. Fortunately, God bless us to return to Lhasa smoothly. When I stopped the car, I lay prone on the steering wheel.
The advantage of this story is that it is very funny, and it is difficult for a girl to concentrate on doing boring things. A funny experience made her accept a lot of expensive information you showed, and at the same time substituted your thoughts and feelings to arouse her emotional awareness. The your interval was extended in an instant.
If you have been to Tibet, you can copy this story indirectly. If not, you can summarize some of your own stories. The story itself is interesting, not too long. You just need to clarify the main story, which is about 5 to 10 minutes.
Don't concentrate too much on your story, check her reaction while expressing it. When you finish a current and progressive project, let her express her views in time.
This stage is about an hour and a half after you talk. Follow this theme and cross some small topics at the same time, such as: the restaurant you dated, the interesting words you saw on the Weibo, a movie you watched together, and so on. Form a full-fledged multiple topic.
At this chat stage, your familiarity has been established. It should be a real-time transition at present. Because new comfort will only appear in new situations, working too long in a situation is not conducive to changing and lowering the atmosphere.
You can take her shopping, go to the playground, or take part in some group activities. The key is to enjoy the atmosphere and not care too much about her. For example, if you two groups make handicrafts together, then you should focus most of your attention on how to do your handicrafts well, instead of thinking about how to take care of her and how to make her think you are great. Enjoy the atmosphere and follow her thoughts around you with a clear conscience, but not narrow-minded. The way you insist will make her feel warm with you.