I found a strange thing upstairs in my neighbor these two days.
The neighbor's hostess began to work. She once told me that grandma would come to help with the children. Strangely, I can't see my grandmother.
Every night when I come back from work, I always meet the couple who take the baby out for a walk, but there is no grandmother around. I thought the old man was tired after a day's work and was resting at home, but he looked up at the upstairs window and there was no light in his house.
On weekends, I can't see my grandma, not only at night, but also during the day. The old man is like a "snail girl", hiding inexplicably.
I was curious and asked her once. My neighbor came over and explained to me, which opened my eyes.
It turns out that there is a new way to bring a baby in the city. Although the old man still helps, in this way, the old man is not so tired at the end of the day. More importantly, the young couple know how to be grateful, and there is no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Three generations are happy.
This is "punching in" with the baby, just like going to work, from eight to six, and resting on weekends.
Aunt Li's "Punch Card with Baby" Day
According to the neighbor's description, her child's grandmother, Aunt Li, probably went like this that day:
At 8 o'clock in the morning, the couple had to go to work, and Aunt Li came from home to pick up the children.
If the child is still sleeping, Aunt Li will first prepare complementary food for the child and make breakfast by herself. Of course, many times she has already had breakfast in her own home.
When the child woke up, dressed, bathed and fed, Aunt Li took the child out to play. Come back at noon and simply make yourself a lunch, even a complementary food for your child. After feeding the child, let the child play for a while, and it's time for the baby to go to bed in the afternoon.
This time is the most relaxing moment for Aunt Li. The child is almost 2 years old, and only takes a nap once a day, and the nap time is very long, almost three hours, and it is almost 5 o'clock when he wakes up. During this period, Aunt Li doesn't have to do housework, but only needs to be with the children. Brush your mobile phone, or sleep by yourself.
When the child wakes up, change diapers, eat something and play with him. After 6 o'clock, the child's mother will get off work first, and Aunt Li will give the child to her daughter-in-law and go back by herself. As for dinner, Aunt Li usually cooks some porridge with a rice cooker in advance, and the rest of the dishes are cut and cooked. This is the business of her son and daughter-in-law.
Aunt Li doesn't have to come on weekends, because both her son and daughter-in-law are weekends, so it's enough for them to take care of the baby.
What are the benefits of "punching baby"?
The old man has a rest time, so he is not too tired.
Like going to work, the old people are the first to be liberated. Anyone who has taken care of children knows that sometimes it is not physical fatigue that makes children tired, but mental fatigue. Being stuck with children 24 hours a day, without your own independent space, that feeling is going to collapse.
Now you can get up from point to point, and you don't have to get up frequently at night because of your baby. You can sleep peacefully until dawn, and it won't feel too good.
(2) Children participate in taking care of children and know how to be grateful.
Sometimes, the old people can't get the gratitude of their children because they don't have enough children and don't feel tired.
Now, after the old people "get off work" and "spend the weekend", it is all the parents' business to take care of the baby, from which they will realize that it is not easy to take care of the baby and learn to put themselves in their shoes.
(3) the benefits of being different under the same roof
Of course, it's more beneficial not to be under the same roof. If they are not in the same space, there will be fewer contradictions in children's parenting problems. In addition, the elderly don't have to cook for the young couple in the morning and evening, and they don't have to worry, and they won't quarrel because of different eating habits.
However, this new way of taking care of children also has limitations. Only suitable for small families close to their parents' homes in the city.
In rural areas, parents and sons generally live together, and small families are not separated, so it is impossible to get to the point. There are still many parents working outside, and children and the elderly stay at home, which is impossible.
Topic discussion: Who takes care of the baby in your family? Do you like this way of taking care of the baby?
Senior kindergarten teacher, psychological counselor, author of original parenting cartoon article. Know how to raise and understand psychology, and pay attention to Ma Bao's self-growth and family management, and strive to be a caring person for his mother.
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