How to treat the 20-year-old postdoctoral fellow losing contact with his dying mother?
Yesterday, I was shocked to hear that the postdoctoral fellow at Peking University had lost contact for 20 years! Mainly these keywords: Peking University, postdoctoral fellow, lost contact for 20 years. With the news report, this postdoctoral fellow was not killed in the United States like Zhang Yingying, but he didn't want to have any contact with his family, which made me gradually into deep thought and anxiety.
1. Who is Wang Yongqiang, a postdoctoral fellow at Peking University who has lost contact for 20 years?
Wang Yongqiang, 1969, is from Xinhua Village, Chunjiang Town, Xinbei District, Changzhou, Jiangsu Province. At this time, there is a brother and a sister at home, and Wang Yongqiang is the youngest. My mother Guo is a hardworking rural woman, and my father is also a farmer. Sometimes she sells rat poison to supplement her family. It can be said that this is a poor family, just like the rural families in China in the 1960s and 1970s. Although the economic conditions are poor, I deeply believe that the only way to change the status quo is to train children to study and jump the dragon gate.
Wang Yongqiang was very clever and lived up to expectations. At the age of 65,438+08, he was admitted to Suzhou University. After graduating from Suzhou University at the age of 22, she went on to study for a master's degree, then entered the Institute of Physics of Chinese Academy of Sciences, and became a postdoctoral fellow in Peking University on 1997, doing some research on physics-related topics. Two years later, I 1999 went to America. Writing here, this should be a very inspirational story of rural children's hard work and academic success, full of positive energy. However, the plot is reversed. After working in the United States, this accomplished postdoctoral fellow changed his temperament greatly and did something that ordinary people can't understand: cut off contact with his family for 20 years!
Second, why did Wang Yongqiang take the initiative to lose contact with his family?
People can't help asking, why did he cut off contact with his family? Although he responded to "don't look for him through the media" through his friend WeChat yesterday, he prevaricated with "it is difficult for an honest official to break housework". But I don't think so.
According to media reports, the last time Wang Yongqiang's parents contacted Wang Yongqiang was when he had just gone abroad. It was really difficult for his family at that time. I want to ask Wang Yongqiang, an adult son in his thirties, if he can send some money home. But Wang Yongqiang coldly refused: Nothing can be done, everyone is fine! I didn't say anything, but I didn't want to, probably because I didn't have much money, but I didn't say anything comforting. Mother was very unhappy at that time, but considering that it was not easy for her son Wang Yongqiang to live in the United States, she didn't bother him with her work. At that time, she didn't accuse Wang Yongqiang, and she didn't call again to express her disappointment.
It can be said that this is a typical China parent, who has difficulties and puts himself into his children. Aren't China's parents like this?
The media dug deep into the reasons. Among them, my little brother Guo, who is only 0/2 years older than Wang Yongda/Kloc-0, said that before going abroad, his parents entrusted him to visit Beijing to see what difficulties he had. Wang Yongqiang was normal at that time and only asked his uncle not to tell his girlfriend about the difficulties at home. At that time, his uncle was very unhappy with this request, but he did as Wang Yongqiang suggested.
Therefore, according to media reports, Wang Yongqiang cut off contact with his family on his own initiative because his family was poor and his social status was low, which was out of proportion to this "postdoctoral fellow of Peking University". Poverty makes a rural child with extreme self-esteem unwilling to have another rural family!
3. What did Wang Yongqiang, a postdoctoral fellow in Peking University, learn from his loss of contact in the United States for 20 years?
A teenager who should have gone to school with the dream of a rich boy, after finishing his studies, only cares about himself, is indifferent inside, draws a clear line with his family, abandons his parents and relatives in his hometown, and forgets his initial heart and mission. This kind of behavior is selfish in nature and a betrayal of family members. This immoral behavior is despised by people. Even in the countryside, a mature farmer will not adopt his parents and family, let alone a postdoctoral fellow at Peking University. It is no exaggeration to say that he is a "baiwenhang"!
Why is the family relationship in Wang Yongqiang in a bad situation? "There must be something hateful about the poor", which I think is related to the way most families in China raise their children. China's family believes that children only need good academic performance when they are studying in primary school, middle school, university or even master's or doctor's degree. They don't need children's help in family affairs, and don't let them know if they have difficulties, because that will make children uneasy about going to school and affect their academic performance. In the long run, children have no sense of responsibility and think that everything will be solved by someone, as long as they do their job well. It's none of your business, hang up! Without a sense of responsibility, you will eventually become a selfish person. Wang Yongqiang's example is a bit extreme, but it represents a child's psychological tendency.
For example, high flyers of Peking University and Wang Meng, the former champion of science college entrance examination, 12 accused parents of not going home for the New Year and blacking out all their contact information. Isn't this the same psychology? Therefore, modern families must let their children participate in family affairs, understand family difficulties and solve them together, do what they can, taste the hardships and difficulties of life with their parents, feel the warmth and coldness of human feelings, and have a real feeling about life after tasting the ups and downs. I believe that with this growth process, children will no longer be indifferent and avoid "Wang Yongqiang-style" family tragedies!
Many people support him "honest officials can't break housework". I can assert that the person who made such remarks is basically the same as him. They are heartless, ashamed to be sons and unfilial. Under the guise of being honest and not bad at housework, I just make excuses for my disloyalty and unfilial. No reason is that you haven't contacted your parents for 20 years, let alone that your mother left, but that she definitely wants to see her son for the last time. Keeping a dog wouldn't be so cold-blooded, would it? Even if she said, "Honest officials don't do housework," she would have to leave and close her eyes. Besides, she is your real mother.
How did you go to college? Where did the money come from? How did you grow up? Your parents climb shit and pee, and finally raise you to sell iron for you to go to college, master's degree or doctor's degree, thinking you don't want money? If you have no parents, where are you? Will there be today?
Such an unfilial son, such a heartless person, is worse than a dog and an animal. Who are you to say, "Honest officials don't break housework"? What qualifications do you have to say that you are a postdoctoral fellow and a senior intellectual? Reading too many books, being stupid is a compliment to you. If you ask me, this is a cold-blooded animal that can't even be called a person. It is a compliment to say that you study and work in the United States and are influenced and polluted by America's exquisite egoism.
Let my uncle not tell his girlfriend about his family (poverty), marry a professor's daughter, and refuse his parents to attend the wedding because he is afraid of his girlfriend's own family. How dare you say that you are from China, such an animal? Is the traditional filial piety culture in China like this? Have you forgotten the traditional virtues of China? You have learned the old American way, so you will stay in America forever. Don't say you are from China, you have lost your ancestors. This unfilial son, I don't care about his parents, even things worse than animals. What's the use of asking him? Don't admit it, this mother, and don't see your son, because he doesn't deserve to be your son! Just pretend you never raised such a son.