Ask a question: Can a beautiful and exotic little girl be a "problem child"?
When school started, a beautiful Shanghai child, Yaya, came to the class. As she has just arrived in a strange environment, Yaya doesn't want to go to school. Every time she enters the park, she always cries. Grandpa watched his granddaughter cry, always coaxed, and couldn't bear to leave for a long time. Yaya does this every day. Every time, she always has to deal with her grandfather for a long time, and finally she always ends up crying. In the face of Ya Ya's stubborn temper, the teacher also thought of many ways, but no matter what way she used, Ya Ya just ignored the teacher, always crying and refused to have lunch, not to mention taking part in group games with a happy mood.
Tracing back to the source of "problem"
We decided to go to Yaya's house to find out about the situation. It turns out that Yaya's parents are both working in Shanghai, and Yaya has just moved back from Shanghai with her grandparents. Yaya had congenital heart disease when she was young, and she often had intravenous drip when she was weak. Later, Yaya had an operation, but she didn't want to eat after the operation, and her body was still so thin. So grandpa often dotes on her, dotes on her, and sometimes he can't stand it. Only grandma will criticize her. A "hard" lesson.
Solve the "problem" with fruit milk
In order to make Ya Ya adapt to the collective life in kindergarten quickly, Grandpa brings Ya Ya a bottle of fruit and milk to drink at lunch in kindergarten every day.
On the first day of taking milk, Ya Ya's eyes were red and tears swirled in her eyes, but she didn't fall down. The teacher promised that her fruit milk could be temporarily put in kindergarten. The new teacher gave her milk after a nap, but she was always in a bad mood. After school, she saw her grandfather cry with a "wow".
The next day, Yaya brought another bottle of fruit milk. The teacher asked grandpa to take milk home and drink it after school in the evening. Kayaya didn't want to, so the fruit milk stayed in the kindergarten. After getting up, Yaya stayed in front of the bottle and refused to sit down. Even after repeated reminders from the teacher, Ya Ya refused to return to her seat. The teacher told Yaya children not to eat casually in kindergarten. Today's fruit and milk can be taken home to drink after school. Ya Ya just didn't want to, but she stared at the teacher obliquely, and then stood at the door of the nap room waiting for Mr. Diao who was making the bed. But Teacher Diao didn't notice Ya Ya's behavior. He tidied up the quilt and walked out of the activity room. Yaya's last hope was gone, so she had to sit in her little chair in dismay.
On the third day, Yaya didn't come to kindergarten. I heard from others that grandpa heard from Yaya that kindergarten didn't teach children to sing and tell stories, and learned nothing. Yaya doesn't want to go to kindergarten.
Can't you do without fruit milk?
The teacher's patience and care are not reflected in Yaya, perhaps because the teacher has not mastered Yaya's mentality and has not understood it thoroughly. At the same time, grandpa's behavior has brought great obstacles to Yayayuan. Grandpa indulged Yaya and blindly believed everything Yaya said without knowing the actual situation. Yaya's children are very insightful. She knew that whenever she cried, grandpa would definitely agree to any request, so she just made an excuse not to go to kindergarten.
We learned that Yaya refused to enter the park and made another home visit. During the conversation, I told Grandpa Yaya that the reason why Yaya didn't want to go to school was just an excuse. The teacher will take extra care of her and let grandpa send her to kindergarten with peace of mind.
Make a comeback-make up all kinds of reasons to want to go home
On the first day, Yaya Renyuan went to school. When I broke up with my grandfather, Ya Ya suddenly burst into tears: "I didn't brush my teeth today, I want to go home and brush my teeth!" " "The teacher said," Yaya gargles with a teacup first today. You must remember to brush your teeth at home and come to kindergarten tomorrow! ""Ya Ya went back to her seat crying helplessly.
The next day, after grandpa left, Yaya found a reason to go home to relieve her stool and asked the teacher to take her home. The teacher in the kindergarten helped her to go to the toilet, but she refused to say anything until she was in a bad mood after school.
On the third day in the garden, Yaya wanted to eat steamed bread and asked Grandpa to buy it for her. Before the teacher took Yaya, grandpa had taken her to buy steamed buns. After a while, Grandpa and Yaya came back. They didn't buy steamed bread. Yaya sat alone in her seat with tears on her face.
On the fourth day of entering the park, Ya Ya was still in an unstable mood and wanted to eat steamed stuffed buns. Grandpa is getting impatient. "There are no buns to sell here!" Say that finish, turned to leave. Ya Ya stared at Grandpa's distant back, and silently walked to his small chair and sat down.
There are waves again.
A few days, Yaya didn't go to kindergarten because she was ill.
A few days later, Grandpa Yaya came to the teacher and said that Yaya would not go to kindergarten and would drop out of school and stay at home to have a good self-cultivation.
Relentless pursuit
We talked again when grandpa came to drop out of school for Yaya. In this conversation, we let grandpa know more about Yaya's behavior in the garden: If Yaya is in a good mood when she enters the garden, her study and life will be great this day. Although she can't eat all the food, she doesn't need a teacher to feed her. If you are in a bad mood when you come to the garden, it may affect your day's study and activities. Therefore, on the way to send her to the garden, grandpa should do her ideological work well to avoid being upset after coming to the garden. At the same time, from the perspective of children's healthy development, let grandpa know that children need a good learning and growth environment, and educating children at home alone is not conducive to her growth.
A whole new scene appeared.
On Friday, Yaya came to kindergarten. She is very happy today, like a different person, like a happy bird. In the activity class, the teacher pays special attention to Ya Ya, making her a small monitor and leading the children to play games. Yaya's face is full of pride. At lunch, Yaya ate all the food, and the teacher immediately praised Yaya as a fast and good baby. Yaya is very happy ... From then on, Yaya went to kindergarten happily every day and never asked for anything again. Yaya's grandfather also sends her to the garden easily every day.
Yaya is a child with physical and psychological problems. With the help of her physical problems, she made various demands on her parents, which led to a series of psychological problems. In the process of elegant transformation, parents are often confused by the authorities and can't find the root of the problem. At this time, as educators, we should help them clarify their educational concepts, make suggestions, sum up effective educational methods, and help parents and children solve problems completely. Yaya solved a series of "problems" through the education of parents and teachers.