Theoretically, it is difficult for you to prove that this girl is the most suitable for you in the world; Because who you meet and who you don't meet are unintentional malignant events. In terms of probability, you have never met 99.9% of the opposite sex friends in this world, and you can't know if there is a wood that is more suitable for you.
Therefore, when boys keep telling their girlfriends that you are the best and attract me the most, it is difficult for girls to completely eliminate their scruples. Especially for girls who are not confident and sensitive to themselves, this kind of protection is better than nothing. Most people who have confidence in this relationship will not worry about this problem.
Then _ here comes the question. If you meet a girl who crushes her girlfriend at all levels, will the boy be moved?
Today's new topic is actually to better eliminate this scruple: if a boy is interested in you, he will not be easily attracted to others because of this.
Everyone may think that I said boys too well, "men have no good goods!" " "Right?
Many girls can easily lead to a misunderstanding: they feel that to "tie" a boy depends mainly on their own style. Your own style is enough, and your boyfriend is certainly close to you.
However, an objective fact that sounds miserable is that most of them have been in love for two years, and couples will have visual aesthetic fatigue on the objects that attracted them at the beginning. This is not to say that I am bored, but that I will be surprised, that is, not surprised.
So in this link, what boys care most about is not your own style. Even objectively speaking, you are as elegant as then.
This is the fundamental reason why many girls are worried about this problem: at first, they attracted the love of boys by their own work ability, but they think that in every link in the future, they must rely on their own style, that is to say, some overall strength to maintain.
In fact, this misunderstanding exists in some boys, who are afraid that their girlfriends will meet better boys and then leave themselves.
Everyone doesn't realize that many people are talking about falling in love, which has become a battle of victory and defeat. Why does a boy cheat, but a girl keeps clinging to a third party? Because she wants to win in her heart, because of the wrong idea that "whoever has style will feel this way."
So _ at this stage, what are the items to keep their feelings? I believe many couples have answers in their hearts, but it is difficult to describe them in words.
One of the members of the ultra-elite team is lebron james, who once wrote articles about boys watching porn. He read a beautiful article and vomited some silly questions asked by his girlfriend. He said that what touched her most about his girlfriend was that the cooking was delicious.
Then his girlfriend said, if you meet a girl who cooks better than me, will you run away with her?
LeBron James's answer to this question is: girls do appear, cooking is better than his girlfriend, and his temperament is more understanding than his girlfriend. However, lebron james has had an exclusive agent memory with his girlfriend about eating the rice cooked by her girlfriend. Because at the dinner table again and again? Teasing, this scene has long been a part of their daily life, that is, life. No matter how busy I am, when I come to dinner, I will concentrate on being with you and praise your cooking. Including the uneasy little expression on his face when his girlfriend asked him how to eat, are all variety shows showing that LeBron James has long formed good habits.
It is a heart-to-heart relationship between two people from understanding to understanding. This kind of empathy is caused by their long-term mutual injury and change, so it is also unique to them. So lebron james said that other girls may be able to cook better dishes, but even if I sit with other girls, I can't copy the same scene. If I am single, it is entirely possible that I will gradually grind into another scene with another girl. But now I have a world of two people that doesn't belong to me.
In fact, every pair of lovers with strong feelings will have similar unspeakable hearts, which is a part of their life. Like a piece of skin on your face. You may feel that your face is ugly, you may envy your face better than you, but you may not want to peel off the meat on your face for the sake of being more beautiful, and then transplant a piece of meat that looks better.
Take my sophomore year as an example, I watched an American drama, and the emotional consultation fee was 16800. There is a supporting role that has been chasing female number one, but female number one has said such a classic line to another person:
I am particularly impressed by this sentence, which is really vivid.
He thought he said he loved me, but true love has an answer.
In fact, this sentence is to some extent an answer to which problem to start.
When we first learned about it, we fell in love with each other instead of each other. This love belongs to obsession and appreciation. Appreciate some qualities of this person and appreciate some feelings that his obsession makes you feel. This feeling is mostly one-sided. There is not necessarily an interactive running-in period between two people, but they can also exist alone. It's like when everyone secretly loves someone, the other person will usually reply to my feelings, but it's no harm for everyone to secretly love each other once. Even everyone will continue to enjoy the feeling of secretly loving someone.
But falling in love with someone is another meaning.
I believe that you will eventually meet many people who are more successful objectively than your other half, and your other half will eventually meet many people who are more successful objectively or in the secular sense. However, this is fascination at most, not love.
If you already have the kind of worry mentioned at this stage, why not think about a difficult problem first:
Is there any part of you that blends with each other? So that once lost, everyone will feel that life is getting less and less meticulous.
If so, congratulations to everyone; Because everyone's feelings have the strongest defense ability.
If not, then _ what everyone must do is to find the hearts belonging to two people during the running-in period; There is no need to pay attention to external influences.