There are many people in life who either go to the toilet or make a phone call when they eat and pay the bill together. Originally, our friendship was not that deep, and it was very uncomfortable for you to help in various ways.
Such people, seemingly smart, play tricks everywhere to take advantage, but in fact they are extremely stupid.
As the saying goes, some people seem to take advantage of small things, but they lose their character and trust, in fact, they lose more.
Xiao Wang, a neighbor who works in Beijing, recently said a very annoying thing.
A neighbor of Xiao Wang's hometown takes Xiao Wang's car every time he goes back to his hometown and Kyoto for the New Year.
Every time the neighbors let Xiao Wang, who has settled in the county, pick him up in the village, but never let his son drive him.
After arriving in Beijing, Xiao Wang lives in the city and has to drive to the suburbs more than 200 miles away to send his neighbors back to their homes.
This neighbor is also very economical. Every time he goes back to Beijing, he will bring some rice, noodles, flour and a car trunk.
These things weigh at least 100 kg, which can catch up with the weight of an adult.
Xiao Wang said that it bothers me every time I think about it, because the neighbor's father had a good relationship with his father before his death, and it is not easy to refuse.
Finally, Xiao Wang sighed and said, just take him this time, and then find an excuse to refuse him.
Actually, no one is stupid. The more you take advantage, the more others will lose, and they will guard against you or even stay away from you in the future.
Caigen Tan said: Don't ask for improper blessings, and don't get what you want for no reason.
That is to say, don't enjoy the blessings that don't belong to you, and don't covet something for nothing.
Because no one gets rich by taking advantage, all the advantages will be rewarded in another way.
When I went back to my hometown yesterday, my neighbors said that Mrs. Zhang, who worked in the printing factory, was fired.
I'm surprised that Mrs. Zhang is so skilled in her work that she was fired from the factory!
It turns out that Mrs. Zhang has a bad habit of taking advantage of others. When she first entered the factory, she often stole things from home. At that time, she succeeded many times because there was no monitoring.
Later, the factory quietly installed monitoring. As always, she stole from home, and her every move was photographed by surveillance.
In the face of the facts, Mrs. Zhang apologized to all the employees in the factory, was fined and finally fired. Now it is well known.
Good things stay indoors while bad things will go far away. She couldn't stay in the nearby factory any longer, so she had to try to go out early and go back to work in the distant factory.
This is really embarrassing. In order to take advantage, I blocked my easy way.
There is a classic saying of Zweig in The Broken Queen: She was too young to know that all the gifts given by fate had already been priced in the dark.
Every kind of unearned gain seems to take advantage, but in fact he paid a high price. People who want to take advantage are more likely to suffer.
Some time ago, my cousin Mao Mao told me on WeChat that money can really see through a person.
Some time ago, Mao Mao was going to get married on National Day, so she told her college roommate Lele.
Because when Lele got married last year, Mao Mao and another classmate went to the wedding and received 1000 yuan.
A month in advance, Mao Mao called Lele to tell her the happy event.
Kororo said congratulations and didn't mention the money. Two days before her wedding, she told Mao Mao that she couldn't go because she had something at home.
For this matter, Mao Mao was very sad, so she told her classmates who attended Lele's wedding together.
Under the persuasion of that classmate, Lele transferred the money to Mao Mao.
Now several students in the dormitory know that they are too disappointed with Lele's performance.
The Book of Rites says: Rites are reciprocal, and it is indecent to go without coming; It is impolite to come instead of going.
Not taking advantage is self-cultivation, and reciprocity is self-cultivation.
Kind people will not take advantage of others, no matter what the situation, they live a transparent and free and easy life.
During the Eastern Han Dynasty, there was a court official named Yu Zhen, who was honest and humble and won the hearts of the people.
One year near New Year's Eve, Emperor Guangwu gave each minister a live sheep as a tribute.
When the sheep are distributed, the person in charge of compensation will be in a dilemma.
Because sheep are different in size, fat and thin, I don't know how to distribute them.
Many people put forward suggestions:
"I think everyone draws lots to distribute the ownership of sheep. Good or bad is their own luck. "
"No, you are so unfair. It's better to kill the sheep first, with fat and thin. Everyone is the same. "
The court turned into a riot, and each said his own reasons. At this time, Jin Woo spoke: "Is it so difficult to divide a sheep?" I think everyone can take a sheep home. "
After that, he took the lead in bringing the thinnest sheep home for the New Year.
Ministers began to follow suit, and the sheep were quickly distributed, and everyone was very happy.
Because of this, the emperor specially awarded him the title of "Dr. Thin Sheep" to praise the ruling and opposition parties. His prestige among ministers is also increasing.
When chatting with his son, the emperor said of Jin Woo:
"On the surface, he suffered a loss, but he won the support of ministers and got my attention. In fact, he took a big advantage. Deliberately losing money is not a loss, but a shrewd move with foresight. "
The loved one is back, and the blessed one is back.
A person who is willing to suffer losses is mostly a person who knows how to be modest and does not easily argue with others.
No matter in life or at work, such people are not easy to be suspected and suppressed, giving people a kind feeling.
Therefore, if you suffer wisely, such people will often get the respect and appreciation of the people around you, and the road will be wider and wider in the future.
Zeng Guofan put forward the "nine don't pay" in his letter, including one: those who take advantage don't pay.
In the face of people who love to take advantage, even if others don't say it, they will alienate him in their future work and life. After all, no one likes to be with people who are greedy and cheap.
The more willing to endure hardships, the easier it is to gain the trust and goodwill of others, and more like-minded friends can be gathered around you.
Therefore, people who like to take advantage of others will eventually suffer big losses; And those who are willing to endure hardships will win big profits one day.
About the author: Yi Ming, a columnist of Fu Shu, a student of Fu Shu's continuous submission and realization camp 2.0, a little scholar, a middle-aged girl; Write with your left hand, raise your baby with your right hand, and write with a persistent heart. This article starts with your best girlfriend, Fu Xiaoshu, who released a new book "Have a Good Life" on 20 18.