After six months of dating, Vivian's boyfriend finally proposed to Vivian romantically. Before accepting her boyfriend's proposal for a diamond ring, Wei Wei took her boyfriend home according to the agreement with her parents and accepted her parents' review.
I thought that a tall, handsome, diligent and friendly boyfriend could pass the customs smoothly, but her good wishes came to nothing!
On the day of meeting, Weiwei's boyfriend had just sat on the sofa for less than 5 minutes, and Weiwei's mother asked him, "Did your mother bring you up or did your nanny bring you up?" He replied, "Aunt, I was brought up by my mother, and my family has never hired a nanny."
Vivian's mother continued to ask, "What did your mother do after raising you?"
Wei Wei's boyfriend replied, "Aunt, my mother always took care of me before I went to high school. When I was in the third year of high school, my mother didn't trust me and stayed with me for a year. "
"In the middle of two years? Is your mother at work? "
"Aunt, my mother didn't go to work, and now she doesn't go to work."
"That is to say, your mother has never worked to take care of you."
"Not all for me, but for the whole family. My father has always said that my mother has made the greatest contribution to this family, and I respect my mother very much. I think my mother is not inferior as a housewife. "
Weiwei's mother didn't answer the phone at all and asked, "Who will take care of your child when you have a child?"
"You don't have to worry about this. My mother will definitely be willing to accept it. "
Weiwei's mother suddenly changed her mind: "What's your monthly salary?"
Weiwei's boyfriend's face was a little unhappy, but he replied politely: "Now it's 8,000 yuan a month, and two years later 1000 yuan is no problem."
"You mean you can't afford a nanny after paying off the mortgage and car loan?"
Wei Wei's boyfriend looks more and more ugly and whispers, "My mother can do everything a nanny can do, so why spend that money?"
Vivian's mother smiled meaningfully, stuffed a big orange into Vivian's boyfriend's hand and said to Vivian, "Vivian, send your friend downstairs, and you should hurry back to clean up. It's your grandmother's birthday today. She ordered dinner at 6 o'clock. She will leave soon. "
"ah? I was going to take him with me. " Vivian thought, I don't understand what medicine mom sells in the gourd.
Finally, under the hint of her mother's unquestionable eyes, Vivian had to do what her mother said. After going upstairs, Wei Wei cried and said to her mother, "Mom, I agreed to his proposal today. He is my future husband. How can you bully him like this? "
Vivian's mother said calmly, "Daughter, I didn't bully him. I just asked him what I care about most. A man who can't afford a nanny can't marry! Otherwise, if you have a baby, you will have to resign as a nanny. That's destiny. Did you hear how he described his mother? Fucking fate is your future fate! "
Wei Wei blushed, looked at her snobbish mother and asked, "How can you be sure that I will resign as a nanny when I marry him and have a baby?" Haven't you heard that he has a plan? His mother will take care of the children instead of me, and I can also take care of my work. "
"Daughter, you are so naive. You, the future husband, threw the pot with the child to his mother before anything started. This child will be your future mother-in-law's business, not his.
Do you think such a man can shoulder the heavy responsibility of starting a business? Do you think you can get along with a woman who has been a housewife all her life? Do you think a woman whose mind is only poor for her parents and whose vision is only as wide as the door of the vegetable market can really respect you?
In a really good marriage relationship, there is no scene of mother-in-law. As long as there is a scene of mother-in-law, it will not be an independent marriage. According to his arrangement, as long as you have children, there must be many mother-in-law in your marriage, and life will never be better! "
"Mom, you haven't seen my mother-in-law, how can you think of her so badly? Being a housewife can also be a happiness. "
"You can pull down! Happiness? A woman has no job all her life and revolves around her son, husband and family all her life. For 30 years, she bought food, cooked and wiped the table and floor every day. She has no savings, no pension, no social security, no knowledge, no self-confidence, and even her health has long collapsed. Is there any meaning and value in this kind of life besides self-touching? "
Mom's words reminded Wei Wei of her prospective mother-in-law. They met once. I have to admit that her prospective mother-in-law really has no vitality. Although she looks amiable, she only talks to Nuo Nuo. She has no definite opinion and wants to say something. She always wants to see her son and husband. Although she is covered in gold and silver, she has an indescribable sense of decadence.
However, Vivian refuted her mother. She said, "Even if being a housewife is worthless, accompanying children to grow up is a valuable life experience. I don't believe it. If you are impressed by your mother's hard work, your children will not know how to be grateful and will not love your mother. "
"Precious? Precious enough, in my son's eyes, she is a nanny who can be sent at any time without her consent! Whoever likes such preciousness will take it from him, and my daughter will never be reduced to such preciousness.
The undergraduate daughter of the key university I worked so hard to cultivate is not a nanny, not even my own child! She must have a better life, and she must live her own life first, not sacrifice for anyone!
If he really loves and appreciates his mother, he will live up to his expectations and earn enough money to hire a nanny instead of continuing to arrange for his mother to be a nanny. "
After listening to her mother here, Vivian seems to understand a little bit of her mother's painstaking efforts. She looked at her mother in front of her, lost in thought. Although my mother is 55 years old, her temperament is still very good. She has been wearing light makeup every day for decades, dressed appropriately, and is neither supercilious nor supercilious. Indeed, the gap between women in the workplace and housewives is quite large.
Wei Wei has one last question: "Mom, even if he can afford a nanny, the nanny may not be reliable. I can't afford a babysitter now, maybe later. "
My mother replied: "Being able to afford a nanny is just a representation, which can essentially distinguish the pattern of men.
First, he can afford a nanny, which shows that he has good economic strength, strong working ability and clear career planning; Second, whether you are used to spending money to hire a nanny can show a man's view of money and whether his judgment on the value of family division is fair.
Many men who can't afford a nanny are not competent enough, and they don't work hard enough. He just uses his mother, wife and value to satisfy his purpose of having a family and having children.
In their view, everything their mother and wife did was right. In the future, you can't have any complaints. He crowned you with virtue and threatened to sacrifice your life. Otherwise, you won't be a good mother or a good wife. This is terrible!
A man who can afford a nanny and is used to it naturally understands that it is unnatural for his wife and mother to work for the family through the measurement of money. It is precisely because it is expensive and not easy to hire a nanny that he will work harder to strengthen his strength.
It's ridiculous for you to talk about family responsibilities and your contribution and value to the family with a man who can't afford a nanny at all, has never hired a nanny, and even doesn't feel the need to hire a nanny.
Your boyfriend is just good-looking! Even if he is rich in the future, he won't hire a nanny. Thanks to his mother's unpaid contribution to the family for decades, he will feel that hiring a nanny is a waste of money all his life.
He is used to the idea. If you don't believe it, it must be ridiculous for you to ask him to give his mother real money to compensate him for his efforts over the years. What kind of person do you think my mother is, someone who gets into the eyes of money? Family ties cannot be measured by money' and so on.
In short, he actually has no respect for women, knows nothing about the market economy, and only wants free things. Such a man, the pattern is too low, and marrying him is a trap. "
After two weeks of serious consideration, Vivian broke up with her boyfriend.