TV plays always make love look perfect, so in the eyes of many people, they think they can walk into the marriage hall with their loved ones and have eternal happiness!
However, in today's marriage relationship in China, nanny-style wife, widowed child-rearing and widowed marriage are everywhere, and women's happiness after marriage in China generally decreases.
It turns out that entering the marriage hall is just the beginning. ...
In the morning, my college friend Xiao Su called me and said that her husband was divorced. Boom, the news seems to have exploded in my mind, blowing up all the brain cells I can think of.
In college, Xiao Su was the best in her class. She was very cute. I met his little leader Kobayashi in an internship arranged by the school. A gentle, considerate and warm boy. We stood in front of Kobayashi without saying a word, only remembering that Xiao Su pulled my skirt and whispered, "I will wash my hands and make him bride soup in the future." I was secretly surprised. Even more surprising, they got together within a week, and they got married after the internship. By the time I realized it, a man in a suit and tie knelt down and exchanged a white gauze ring with her. Seeing me, I am envious.
One year after marriage, the circle of friends is full of their dog food, exquisite gifts and romantic dates. I think that is probably the happiest appearance of marriage. Like an idol TV series. Despite the difficulties, the man and the woman still live happily together.
How can a lover who got married in love after such a big battle become like this? I really don't understand. ...
Xiao Su explained, "She is not happy at all." I heard that she cooks breakfast for her husband who is going to work every day before going to work and cleans up her briefcase. And my husband always complains that breakfast is terrible, and I didn't bring everything with me. Then after work in the afternoon, I have to fly to the vegetable market to buy food and cook, and then wash dishes, wash clothes and clean the apartment. Kobayashi, who doesn't help with the vinegar bottle, thinks that Xiao Su should do all this, never helping, and even hopes that Xiao Su will better fulfill this obligation.
In this way, I lost my love in a simple life, spent my love in daily necessities, and then parted ways.
Where does happiness come from when the company can't finish the work during the day and the family can't finish the work at night?
Miller Boehlmann once analyzed that when a wife undertakes all or most of the housework, her marital happiness is negative, and only when both of them undertake the housework balance, the marital happiness is positive.
For husbands who have good habits, share housework properly and take care of their children, the family basically presents a very harmonious and increasing emotional model, while husbands never do housework, wives complain a lot, and the frequency of quarrels between them is also high.
More data show that the risk of divorce in families where men do not do housework is 97% higher than that in families where men do housework. Men do housework, which is very important for family and marriage!
More importantly, many people forget the essence of marriage and why they want to get married in a plain relationship.
The essence of marriage: two people work together to support each other; It is to accompany each other, listen to each other and tell together.
For example, when talking about why he got married in the first half of his life, Jin Dong said, "Because life is hard, someone needs to be in the same boat."
In addition, as eat drink man woman, we are doomed to escape the smoke of daily necessities. A truly happy marriage is to pour happiness into a simple and trivial life and share it with both parties.
It is said that marriage "itches after seven years".
Two people have been together for a long time, and eye contact is no longer as exciting as meeting for the first time. Some people are tired, and they start flying outside. Some people are very tired, but under the same roof, they seldom talk; What's more, some people just complain about each other, and the two drag each other down and slowly "grow old".
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "The pledge of eternal love in love is just a dessert besides dinner, and the promise is just a dessert. Therefore, in love, whether it is vows of eternal love or vows of eternal love, it is not a meal, but a simple and simple whole grain. "
Material gifts, sweet dates and grand proposals are really romantic, but they may not stand the test of time. For a long time, only daily necessities and a lifetime are true romance.
Yes! No matter how beautiful love is, it will eventually fall into the secular world.
Don't lose your love and romance in your daily life.
Don't let your love be killed by marriage.
In the final analysis, good love is to capture the beauty of life in trivial matters and find romance in daily necessities.
"The most romantic thing I can think of is to grow old with you."
I hope that your's love will continue to sublimate in the simple daily necessities, and that your's marriage will not be defeated in the daily necessities.