? The father has only one son, and he has placed high expectations on his son since he was a child, expecting his son to succeed. My son is also very competitive, and his academic performance is excellent. He was admitted to Peking University in the college entrance examination. Father is naturally proud of his son. Father is often too proud to keep his mouth shut.
? However, since his son entered the university, the father felt that his son was getting farther and farther away from him. Sometimes I feel that my son is indifferent, which almost makes my father feel afraid of his son. When a father faces an indifferent son, he often feels fear and depression behind being envied by others. This inner panic and melancholy kept him awake at night over time. Especially at the age of retirement, this inexplicable loss sometimes wants to end my life.
Diagnosed by the hospital: my father suffers from depression. Father began to seek medical treatment everywhere. I took a lot of drugs to treat depression and spent a lot of money, but my condition never improved. He wanted to seek help from a psychiatrist, and he was treated by a psychiatrist in the most authoritative mental hospital in the country, but it still didn't help.
One day, he found Mr. Hao online. He called Mr. Hao from the south. During the call, he told Mr. Hao that he had sought help from western medicine, Chinese medicine and psychologists for his illness, but none of them solved his problem. However, his illness brought him pain, forcing him to continue to seek treatment. He said: I read Mr. Hao's profile and decided that Mr. Hao could solve his problem.
One day, he made an appointment with Teacher Hao in advance and flew to Teacher Hao's studio from a distance.
? He feels that after years of thinking, he seems to have reached the point of enlightenment, but he is so close that he can't get through. He hopes that Mr. Hao can make him understand this.
Then, he introduced himself to Mr. Hao in detail. It turns out that his life is relatively smooth. Almost everything you want. He is also very satisfied with his life. But I don't know why, just when my son is about to retire and is satisfied with everything, he is always unhappy. He is worried that his son is not filial. It is strange that my son graduated from a famous university and brought such great honor to his father. How can it be related to unfilial?
? Teacher Hao asked: What are you going to do after retirement? He said: I have retired and I'm going to see my grandson. After listening to his answer, Teacher Hao has found the crux of the problem.
He used to be a very motivated person and served as a leader in a large unit. However, once you retire, you will lose yourself. He pinned his hopes for the rest of his life on his son's filial piety. He did not expect that his son and his son's life, work, career and family. After retirement, I became a son all my life, but my son still has a lot of life. So the son's feelings can't fully satisfy the father.
? He said: he can understand this, too. But he said that he felt his son was indifferent, and he was afraid that if something happened in the future, his son would not be able to come. He compared him with his son. He said he was very filial to his parents. I often comb my mother's hair when I get home, but I can't do it by hammering other brothers. His mother always said: She has only one son. He also wants his son to be as close as he and his mother, but he can't find this feeling in his son. In retrospect, he didn't wake up until Milla. Actually, his son was like this when he was very young. He can't understand.
? Teacher Hao got it. It is not correct for a father to attribute all his retirement to his son, but what is the reason why his son has been so indifferent since he was a child? Son has problems, too. But where did the son's problems come from? Father, for some reason.
? Teacher Hao told his father: This has something to do with our education. It is also related to our social orientation. For a long time, we have always regarded scores and achievements as the first place to measure a person's quality, but often neglected the education of emotional cultivation. People now say so: high IQ and low EQ. This is also the disadvantage of our education in China. Only pay attention to knowledge, not to the education of being a man. And this son's situation often happens in these highly educated people. What's more, they have learned a lot of knowledge, but they have no humanity. My father seems to feel the same way about what Teacher Hao said. The father said with emotion: If I had known this, I might as well not let my son go to this university.
? Teacher Hao told him: On the one hand, we should adjust ourselves and have our own pursuit and life after retirement. On the other hand, it is best to let the son receive psychological counseling. I also want my son to realize that low EQ is also bad for his career development.
Father is very embarrassed. He said: his own problems can be solved, but it is difficult for his son to accept them. It is precisely because he thinks he has a high degree of education that it is difficult for his father to convince him.
? Father really figured it out through Mr. Hao's inspiration. Father's depression is getting better every day. After my father retired, he found his own pursuit and started a second life. A father can't convince his son. Father said, let life educate him.